when with a provider, do you like the room dark, dimly lit or have normal lighting? i like normal lighting since i want to admire the provider's beauty and watch her in action. the only downside is she has see my ugly mug.

Lots of candles.  The last time I had a provider to an outcall, I had about 65 candles going.


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"Cowards can never be moral."
M.K. Gandhi

I like the lights on but there are times where some providers like to dimm the lights or shut them  off probly to hide streach marks i like to look at the person i am with
so lights on for me
hogan

I prefer a quietly lit room.  For example, my last date was in a fairly standard quality hotel room.  We left one soft light on, and 4candles placed startegically around the room.  It was sufficient light for seeing each other, yet dim enough to create a more romantice environment.

When I am hosting a date, I always have the room nicely lit by candles (usually about 10 or so).  Too much lighting seems stark to me and candles set a pleasant and romantic mood.

Or lots of candles~

Shaye

One or two candles, just enough light to see her by.

If you are going to see a "wild thing" who was straightforward, I would think the ambience would be different than if you were seeing someone who advertised herself as more traditional or "gentle".  I mean, have you guys done the exact same seduction routine for every civilian girl that you have dated over the years?  

Sometimes I like to see a woman specifically in the daytime, as I know there will be more light and it will be more "visual" and less "cerebral". If it is at night, sometimes it will be candles, sometimes it will be low lights, and sometimes it will be natural light, depending on the circumstances.  Black light is also cool, and strobes can be fun, with the right person.  Small flashlights can also be fun, and then total darkness is a blast (again, with the right person...you can fantasize more).

All depends on the partner.

I would request to have the lights on but wouldn't argue with a lady about it.

I like to be able to see the lovely lady I am with, and look into her eyes.

Cranky .... just a question ...

Why do you care what SHE wants when YOU are the one paying the freight?

megapig, i guess i foolishly want to make the ordeal as painless as possible for her to be w/ my sorry ass. yes, i know i am paying her and she should be in best form, but as you know that does not always happen. you are right though.

I like a candle lit room filled with the scent of the candles and some nice tunes playing in the backround. Very sensual

This is new ... never been tired before .... but it might just be crazy enough to work!

1) Be straightforward with what YOU want and what YOU have in mind.    The Big Challenge is often NOT having to look at your ugly mugg, but having to figure out what to DO to occupy the hour you've booked.  Just saying "entertain me"  puts the load on her to be creative, fun and stimulating when only YOU really know what entertains you.

2) Keep in mind that you are HIRING her to serve YOU, not the other way around.   This is not to say be an asshole or anything, but knock it off with the puppydog routine.  Women like gentlemen, of course, but the word is made from "gentle" and "MAN"      Even in the straight world, I have a saying:  "ASK FOR IT LIKE A MAN, DON'T SCRATCH AROUND FOR IT LIKE A CHICKEN"

3) Give direct fedback too.  If something feels good, it's much easier for her to read it correctly if you say "wow, that feels good" rather than "honey, you're the greatest"   She has absolutley NOTHING to lose by showing you the best time she possibly can ... IF you give her the feedback it takes to KNOW what to do.

4) Afterwards ... if and only if she really did 100% ... give her a tip.   Not a huge one, (like double the fee or anything) but a decent one.   Promises of trips to Paris, jewlery and clothes are great .... but cash isn't bad, either.

5) Don't feel the need to call or email later to say what a good time you had.   You CAN if you want ... but remember, after you leave she's off to her next task - be that a client, a hair appointment or taking the kids to soccer.  She's not as apt to think about what a great time she had and what a great guy you are as you might like ... so ... paying her, giving her a good review and mostly ... coming to see her again is the best way to show her that you like her.  That kinda makes her like YOU, too.

6) Keep a degree of "hobbyist detachment" too.  As much as you might like it otherwise .. she's not in this business to get a boyfriend .... more than one girl has backed off, toned it down or even been 'busy' when the guy called again because she felt he was pressing her for more than she'd be willing to give.

There was an old cartoon I saw once where a man and a woman were in a hotel room undressing and she said to him:

"OK, I'll explain it one more time.  If you just relax and let me do what I'm good at, it's $100   If I have to act all innocent and let you seduce me .... it's more"

unless your an epileptic. I'm not sure how much fun a seizure would be.

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That women who want the lights out are ashamed of their bodies. And since I like BBWs, I've encountered quite a few of those.

YES! Well said!

If I did that, I'd probably burn my house down.  I like the lights on.  But then again, I'm not after the romantic experience... I only see hardbody or baywatch body providers, so I want to see and play with every square inch of their fine physiques.

Having the lights on means they get to see every square inch of my body too and that's not really a good thing.  I'm not attractive, but I'm self conscious about it... that's why I pay, for her to over look it!

I like to romp with the lites off, the only light being the synthetic comforter burning in the corner of the room....

"When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro"

Obviously, you have seen "The Andromeda Strain"!

One of the best uses of a strobe in a movie that I know of was in, of all things, "Flashdance".  that scene where Jennifer Beals' body double was dancing to Laura Branigan's "Imagination" was way hot!

Try a strobe when you are high...whoa!

Actually, brightness is ok, as long as it's soft and indirect.

agree...off with lots of candles.  still have to be able to see.