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Rejected and feel bad
BrandiHighland See my TER Reviews 74 reads
posted
1 / 34

Don't feel bad....

Keep in mind this is a very personal experience for both YOU and HER.

So she must feel a certain amount of "good partner" (per her reply to you), if not then she would totally faking the whole experience and that is not comfortable to her or you and not fair to you.

I know I want my experiences to be enjoyable in all aspects and if it is not, I do the same, I let the person know a better match might be out there, for him. If I know of a lady who is or potentially could be, I give said gentleman her info.

Sure she could have continued to take your bookings and donation, but you should be  happy that she was honest enough, so you can find another lovely lady that you "partner" (her terminology) with better.

Take it as a good thing, while maybe she could have expressed it better, it is awkward to both, not just you. So seems she just tried to avoid it.

xoxo
Brandi

LillianWest See my TER Reviews 70 reads
posted
2 / 34

I met a client once who told me I looked like his evil ex wife. The session was hot but it bummed him out that I looked so much like her. She is not going to tell you what it was that turned her off. You look like her incestuous uncle or something you said was a negative trigger reminiscent  of a past hurt... There is a perfect match for you out there. This provider was not it.  The ultimate best is when we are well matched. Keep searching for an excellent match. Don't take it personally. She doesn't KNOW who you are.

BrandiHighland See my TER Reviews 74 reads
posted
3 / 34

"Hooker".....I might put you on DNS list for that terminology.  lol ;)
Kinda crass....IMO.
Companion, Provider, Escort, etc...many other titles that are more tactful and not as tasteless.
Just my thought, no harm, no foul.

Steve_Trevor 67 reads
posted
4 / 34

I know a man who seems like an ideal client, and providers seem to love him (in a professional sense).  But my ATF won't see him... he reminds her of a relative with whom she has a, let's say, negative relationship.  But he knows many other providers who are excited to see him.

micktoz 43 Reviews 71 reads
posted
5 / 34

Your attitude may have shown through. Or you didn't wash your arse, or she thought you were getting too attached.
Move on, you'll fall for another. I did.

HappyChanges 70 reads
posted
6 / 34

I'm a man whore slut. No harm, no foul.

BrandiHighland See my TER Reviews 72 reads
posted
7 / 34

lol...you are happy one....from your handle.
xoxo

souls_harbor 67 reads
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8 / 34
coeur-de-lion 400 Reviews 82 reads
posted
9 / 34

If you were texting about something other than the next appointment, you are a time-waster.  For hookers, time is money.  Some will allow casual texting from regulars, or a guy that drops two grand on an overnight once a month, but two sessions hardly makes you a regular.  For many girls, if it looks like they are going to have to spend time OTC e-maintaining you between sessions, they will just pass on your business instead.  

 
After a little more time doing this, you will start to appreciate the issue of time from their POV.  If a guy waxes your car, do you text him in between wax jobs to talk about other things, taking him away from waxing someone else's car?  Most people don't.  It should be the same with getting your knob polished by one of the ladies.  This is transactional sex, not a dating situation.  Respect her time.  You're only entitled to the full block of time you purchased.  Make your appointment request short and concise, and you will be a valued customer.  

GaGambler 73 reads
posted
10 / 34

That would imply there were several messages sent to her over the last two weeks, that is a most definite no no.  

 
The rule of thumb when texting someone, ESPECIALLY a hooker with whom you only have professional relationship, but a rule that should be employed with virtually everyone you converse with. Send ONE message and then wait for a reply before sending another. In "some" cases if you don't hear back in a reasonable length of time it is permissible to send another, but that's it, after that you need to stop blowing up her inbox, more attempts are not going to endear you to the recipient of your messages, but will only serve to elicit the reaction that he got. Which is basically  "please leave me alone" most likely without the "please" lol

 
For the record I have a lot of hooker buddies that I talk to all the time, but they are often the ones initiating the conversations and I make it a point to follow my own rule on the subject. If I send even one of my "buddies" a text and she doesn't get back to me right away I take it that she is either busy or that she is not in the mood to chat, in either case I know she'll get back to me when she can/wants to, the same way I do when I get text messages and I am too busy to answer them, NOBODY likes having their inbox blown up especially from somebody who has deluded himself that there is more to the "relationship" than there is.

WICardinalfan 61 reads
posted
11 / 34

I met a provider earlier this year that could have been a younger sister of my bosses wife.

It was creepy up the point of the BBBJ, then everything fell into place.........

GaGambler 73 reads
posted
12 / 34

and just like you are free to go fuck someone else, (or yourself I suppose. lol) these ladies are independent business woman and are free to pick and choose their clients. Speaking as a business owner myself, I can definitely get behind the notion that  "not all money is good money" Some clients are just such a giant PITA that they simply aren't worth effort.  

 

I bet your mother had to tie a pork chop around your neck just to get the dog to play with you as a kid, didn't she? lmao

coeur-de-lion 400 Reviews 73 reads
posted
13 / 34

I tell my salesmen that if we can't get a customer's business on our OWN terms and conditions, then they're just going to be even more trouble down the road, so its better to take a pass now.  I think excessive communication OTC puts a lot of providers on this same page.  

my-0.02-cents 70 reads
posted
14 / 34

"well it's my money"

I guess your money is not good with her.

Drumguy25 23 Reviews 68 reads
posted
15 / 34

I'd have to say this probably sums up why she cut you loose.  
At no point in time does your donation give you ownership, or reign over her or her body. Just seems like you may have a notion that you are in control in these situations. You didn't " let her" anything. She " allowed" you.... and now she doesn't. Try again somewhere else...

Ninarong See my TER Reviews 70 reads
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17 / 34

It's probably something personal, just move on? I am sure you can find other providers who love you.
I have a friend whose client has like 50 okays with 411, but after she saw him once she said never again. Whatever the reason is it's just not a good match , it's not even a relationship so just move on.lol

coeur-de-lion 400 Reviews 74 reads
posted
18 / 34

Most people that haven't done this think like you, that sex is money, but its not that simple.  You're not really paying for the sex unless you go with street-walkers, where it is over as soon as you pop.    Whether it took 5 minutes or 45 minutes doesn't matter.  You paid to get your rocks off, and that's what you got.  With escorts, you are buying a period of time, and as long as you're a gentleman, they will have sex with you for the full time that you booked.  Few escorts who price by the hour will refuse MSOG if you have it in you to go more than once.  If you book a two-hour session, you will get clarity on exactly what you are getting, and you'd be surprised how much MORE sex you get in two hours than in one.  

 
With the situation you described in your OP, if you tell her that you are willing to deposit $200 with her, which will cover her time for the next twenty texts you send her that she has to respond to, at $20 per, you might find she would be willing to renew your customer card.  That should give you further clarity on time is money for these girls.    

JIMBOY 149 Reviews 74 reads
posted
19 / 34

Good feelings are the natural outcome of good provider-client interactions, and bad feelings similarly follow from negative ones. Unfortunately, one thing that seems pretty clear from your initial post, and from your minimal replies to people who gave constructive feedback, is that you haven't seriously examined your own actions. If all you get out of this exercise is some temporary relief from being able to vent about your feelings, then don't be surprised if the situation repeats itself. Did you do or say anything that contributed to the negative outcome?  Only you know the answer to that. But you'll never find it unless you first ask yourself the question(s).

Blarharse 3 Reviews 68 reads
posted
20 / 34

Posted By: coeur-de-lion
...if you tell her that you are willing to deposit $200 with her, which will cover her time for the next twenty texts you send her that she has to respond to, at $20 per, you might find she would be willing to renew your customer card.  That should give you further clarity on time is money for these girls.    
Hahahhaha - can't stop laughing. Further clarity indeed!!

micktoz 43 Reviews 77 reads
posted
21 / 34

With an entitlement problem that looks at women as holes to fuck, if he has enough money.
That's probably why she's done with him.

MmmMelanie See my TER Reviews 69 reads
posted
22 / 34

Posted By: Dingo6

   
 I let the first girl have 2 sessions with me, but in the last two weeks she did not return any of my text messages.  
   
Maybe she picked up on your attitude of 'letting her' have 2 sessions with you. Maybe you were arrogant or something? Or this is after the fact you developed this attitude (to save face)? If developed after how are people supposed to help you if you are hiding the facts

MmmMelanie See my TER Reviews 70 reads
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23 / 34

Posted By: BrandiHighland
Re: Don't feel bad...
Don't feel bad....  
   
 If I know of a lady who is or potentially could be, I give said gentleman her info.  
   
 
'Knowing of a lady' and 'give said gentleman her info' could be seen as trafficking according to the laws. No one knows what goes on behind the scenes and you could be making money from that rendezvous. Just saying. There is more going on now and the 'old' ways can get you in trouble.

gggdickson77 21 Reviews 69 reads
posted
24 / 34

GaG I would agree. I will only respond to providers email. Past providers will reach out to me more than me reaching out to them. I have my ATF who I might reach out to when I travel or I contact providers who I need to fill in a fantasy. I do try to keep the chatter down.  

Regarding the original post. I have had my share of rejections from providers for whatever reason. The reason does not matter. That is their choice. Nothing I say or do, matters. I now try to do a 360 with providers. I ask them to give me their recollection of the night. What they liked and disliked. Just so I get a better understanding of what they liked and disliked and I can reduce the number of rejections.

Boobsman100 21 Reviews 69 reads
posted
25 / 34

To show us who we are. See it everyday,living in denial and been self centered.
Do a self evaluation  and be honest to yourself or ask a female friend to analyze you behavior or appearance. Make no mistake something really turned her off.

BrandiHighland See my TER Reviews 70 reads
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26 / 34

Oh hell,  I am not so scare to give a referral.
Geezzz....and no I don't take a cut...just being a nice person.
But thanks for the legal advice lol.

-- Modified on 6/11/2018 5:25:20 PM

Carla_capri See my TER Reviews 65 reads
posted
27 / 34

but in my case
once i decide do not see client again
because he just try overstay over 1 hour and ask for old my old rate lol
and tried to cum like ...
olympics orgasms 5 6 times  and won leave ... my place omg
I tend to be generous with my time
and very caring person
just not abuse  
i am sure is not your case  
Do not overthink..
unless this  happen very often
then u need figure out ...what are you doing wrong
kiss
CC

coeur-de-lion 400 Reviews 74 reads
posted
28 / 34

after I have come 5 or 6 times, but it might take a couple of days.  Lol

 
Seriously, there is nothing wrong with asking a guy if he wants to "extend" the session when nearing the end.  If I'm having a good time, I have done it often, in fact, I did it last weekend.  Booked two hours and was having such a good time, at the 1:45 mark I asked about extending for another hour.  If it doesn't interfere with a subsequent customer, most girls will jump at the opportunity to extend, in my experience.  I would have no objection if the girl is the one to bring it up.  When you get near the end, just ask him if he wants to take a shower before he leaves or does he want to extend the session for more time for XXXX dollars per hour (maybe even an attractive rate to get more out of him)?  This will make things clear and you might not have to BL him for going overtime.  

Carla_capri See my TER Reviews 74 reads
posted
29 / 34

ha ha ... cdl
that was good idea ...but in his case he just want free hours
since he was over 80th and i have italian hospitality i let him stay  
but honestly i do want end up in ER with next time...  
he was loaded of viagra lol
kisses  
cc

coeur-de-lion 400 Reviews 70 reads
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30 / 34

sounded like you were exasperated and irritated about what happened, and unsure how to play it other than to just block him from future appointments.  Now it sounds like you're saying he would have left if you asked him, but you offered him "Italian hospitality" instead.  Does that mean you cooked a meal for him, too?  Lol

MatureGFE See my TER Reviews 76 reads
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31 / 34

Yet it seems as thou you're unwilling to listen to responses as to what might have happened and any advice going forward. Something rubbed her the wrong way and frankly at least on this thread, you seem to have plenty of "tude".

Steph

-- Modified on 6/13/2018 1:04:30 PM

Carla_capri See my TER Reviews 69 reads
posted
32 / 34

yes CDL i made him  cannoli
he was late to go  on senior center  
but let end the conversation here
smiling

coeur-de-lion 400 Reviews 73 reads
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33 / 34

Is homemade cannoli on your menu for everyone that sees you?  Its not exactly a real Italian meal, but still enticing for many of us that need a little sugar with our "sugar."  Lol

 
(I am biting my tongue and resisting the dick joke about the cannoli.  I don't want to make you mad or you might not want to see me anymore.  Lol)

KalyEscort 65 reads
posted
34 / 34

Yes, to be rejected is not nice, but is much better to be rejected by message than in person and getting a bad service because non conection happen.
Relax, there're more interesting ladies to meet and new adventures to live.

Life is short to feel negative things.

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