First off this is an alias for just this thread...I'm not the most frequent of posters here but I have posted many times and reviewed several ladies under my regular name here and don't want that name contaminated by this

I saw a lady in my home town...a town with very few providers and I was thrilled that I found her...the service was great and she seemed to be a nice woman on top of that

On my way home I do some errands and get back a couple hours later and within minutes I get a call from this lady....she says she's missing an item and wants me to return it!

My first reaction was...WTF!!!!!

I won't go into specifics here on what it was just that it was something easily slipped into a pocket and(according to HER) very expensive

She said she had it just before I came to her incall location(a place set up JUST for her business(it is just a bedroom and bathroom)...she lives elsewhere) and after I left it was gone

I am the sole suspect...there was no possibility that anyone else COULD of taken it(so she says anyway)

I tried to explain that there is no way no how would I take ANY item of hers and was offended she even thought I had and yet if the circumstance is as she presented it(she had it before I came over and she couldn't find it after I left) I could understand why she would accuse ME

If the situation was reversed and she had come to MY apartment and something was missing afterwards I might think the same of her

OK rationalizations aside I did NOT take ANYTHING on purpose or accidentally from her

I know she doesn't know me and neither do any of you but I even if I HAD seen the item that is missing(and I did not) I would not have taken it...apart from not being in my character(something you will have to take on faith)...

Why in God's name would I steal from a provider I hoped to see again and again?(especially since the pickings are so slim in my area for quality providers)

And why would I steal from her when the only possible suspect could only be myself?

So there you have it...what should I make of this situation?

I naturally cannot ever see her again until or if her item turns up again(I DO understand why she said I had to be the one to take her property...how could she not?)...I even reviewed her here(good review) because as far as the service goes she was very good

I like anyone else have lost things and later they turn up in the most unlikely of places...so maybe this is what happened with her and someday it will turn up but the chance of her telling me is remote since she would have every expectation of my being more than a little pissed about being thought a thief

I have gone all over this in an effort to understand how this could of happened...is it possible she wasn't missing anything at all and just didn't want to see me again?(I was a gentleman and she SEEMED to enjoy her time with me almost as much as I did with her...I got a nice big wet kiss from her on my way out)

I have talked with other guys who have had sessions with her and asked if anything out of the ordinary happened with her(nothing)...I have talked this over with my ATF(the only person in the world who knows me in person who I could talk to about this) in an effort to see if this was some type of scam being tried on me that she might of heard about and nothing there either

So now I'm asking you guys...what are your thoughts?

What can you do?  You didn't take it so you can't give it back.

If you are concerned about her repeatedly calling you to demand you return it then you may want to make a pre-emptive call and say you were just calling to see if she located her missing item.  You could say you feel bad it was missing, double checked your belongings (car, clothes, whatever) and didn't find it.  Tell her you enjoyed your time together and hope it doesn't prevent you from seeing her in the future.

If she is sane, then I would think she would cool off and realize you are sincere and didn't take anything. (Besides she may well have already found the missing item.  If she's like the rest of us you'll swear you put something somewhere only to have it turn up at an entirely different location.)

Anyway, beyond the concern of her outing you, I don't think you should lose any sleep over it.  It's a misunderstanding, you didn't do it, move on.

It's not that she keeps calling or emailing me about this...it's just that it bugs me more than I can say having someone out there who thinks I'm a thief

And it bothers me that I finally find a good provider in my town and I can never see her again because of this

I have emailed her about this asking if it has turned up since and to let her know a review of her was posted by me here(she's fairly new and had none until mine)

She "says" there is NO other possible person who could take it but as I was leaving she mentioned her next client was coming shortly...I had the thought that maybe she didn't REALLY notice her item was missing until the other guy left or maybe she had seen him before and didn't want to think HE might of taken it

It was supposedly on the counter by the sink and she had given me a towel to clean up and afterwards I dropped the towel on the counter by the sink...I also had a thought that maybe when she tossed the towel in the laundry basket she accidentally picked up her item with it and it was now in that basket

I suggested as much to her and she said she looked there too so I'm now out of ideas

The thing is...if everything happened EXACTLY the way she said...I would HAVE to be the person who took it...since I KNOW it wasn't me I have to think there are important differences between what REALLY happened and what she SAYS happened

My only other idea is a combination of ideas one and two...she picked up that towel(with her item) and dropped the towel in the laundry basket and the item was then in or near the basket in the bathroom...she looks for it(where she left it) and can't find it and calls me saying no one else could have taken it...then her next client comes over and uses the bathroom and sees the item on the floor and pockets it...later when she looks in the bathroom it naturally is not there any more and so she dismisses my idea of how it could of ended up in the bathroom

You have to understand how I think...apart from being thought a thief(which pisses me off) and apart from losing a good provider because of this(which makes me sad)...it's a Goddamned mystery and I will be thinking about this forever unless I can get some kind of closure on how in the world this could of happened

ARGH!

I would just not worry about it.

It sounds to me, she is trying to make an extra buck from you.

She will not do anything crazy, like call the police, because she will then reveal herself to them.

Don't worry...just do not see her again.

Shaye

it was your head shaking when you kept beginning your sentences with "Let me make this perfectly clear" or that Bob Hope "ski" nose.

Cheers!

Maybe you should ask her what it was, buy her a new one or go over and help her find it. If you you find it, you can then play " Hide the Salami"

Sorry to hear of this situation. Wish I can find a regular in my town.

The bank!!

I don't think she's going to call the cops...in fact after this happened I did a lot of checking around online and found some other guys she's met and no one had anything bad to say about her

I don't have hard feeling about her in spite of this situation...if I thought she was attempting to scam me I'd deal with this in a completely different fashion but I'm not getting that kind of vibe from her

She appears to be a relatively stable young woman who really and truly believes I've stolen something from her

I could let this go as there are really no consequences for me anyway other than never getting to see her again

I just know this is probably going to end up being one of those mysteries that never get solved and it will be in the back of my mind for years

*sigh*

BTW Thanks Tatoogirl74 for at least adding the "If" to your reply

I had a similar situation.

Incall at her apartment where she actually lived, not a temp shared place like some providers do. This was with a provider I had seen several times ...5 or 6 times. I always set the donation on her bureau next to the television as I am walking out. I never hand currency to a provider. It is rude IMHO.

As I drove home, she called me and started to come back and pay her. I told her I had already paid her and put the currency in the regular place. She started yelling and screaming at me about ripping her off and stuff.

Well, it turns out she was in an alcoholic blackout, (I knew she was a little drunk when I went over, but she wasn't stumbling down drunk) and had hidden the currency. she then immediately forgot where she put it and blamed me when she couldn't find it a short while later.

She finally found it months later, but suffice it to say, I never partake of her company after this episode. Alcoholics do not make good companions or friends.

I believe from my own anecdotal experience (20 years or more as a client), that there appears to be an inordinate amount of drug, alcohol, and personailty disorders within BOTH sides of this occupation. And BTW, yes I have made all the mistakes, getting ripped off, falling in love, being assaulted. Though I am lucky enough to never have been arrested or gotten a disease. I consider the money on those bad experience as tuition and chalk it up to a learning experience.  

TANSTAAFL!  

TET

Never underestimate the power of denial.

move to a bigger town.

To be fair...this lady did not seem to be under the influence of any drugs or alcohol...in fact while I'm not as experienced as you seem to be I have met my fair share of um...less than stable ladies...she seemed to be in control of her facilities and I don't think she called me before she did a thorough search for her property

I know it seems like I'm making things worse for me by giving her an out for some possible explanations but I never would of posted here about this if I thought it was so easily explained

Since I KNOW I didn't take it and she seemed so rational while I was with her(granted this is not always a given and I should of been more clear about that from the start)...this is what makes it so puzzling to me

I believe her when she says her item is missing...I believe she believes I took her item(I know what the item is but if she is reading this with you guys and I know she comes here occasionally...I'd just as soon keep at least some element of doubt I am who she suspects I am(I'm as tired  of typing "item" as you are of reading it)...I do not think this is some type of scam she's trying out on me

If she had given me ANY sign of being impaired or unstable I could dismiss her accusation and forget about it

I think I'm going to just let this go...I may have already crossed the line from being curious to obsessive about the whole matter

It's a mystery and there's nothing I can do about it...I'm letting it go now

There is genuine concern in the tone of your post-you sound as if you are very sensitive to the fact that the provider thinks you are capable of theft. If a more seasoned, or callous, provider perceives that same sensitivity, then you could be leaving yourself vulnerable to becoming a victim.

  One would think that a reasonable person, upon finding something missing, would not immediately fling accusations without more substantive proof of theft. From what you have said it must be a small item, ie, ring, earing, necklace, etc. that could easily be lost. Since her initial conversation with you after you saw her was "give it back, I know you took it" it's pretty apparent that she thinks she can get something from you. She doesn't know for sure that you took it, but she immediately wants you to do something about it.

  Bottome line is that if you didn't take it then you can't return it, and that's all you can tell her. Unless she's threatening to call your family or work then tell her to look harder or find another victim.

  Good luck.

This must be a very uncomfortable situation for anyone. First thought that came to my head was, if this provider is bringing strangers to her incall place, why in the world would she keep valuable items there? This smacks of scam or worse..."Risky business" kind of thing. In the end, I wouldn't lose any sleep over the situation. She knew the risk of her loss or if she didn't, she knows now. I am not saying your a dishonest person by any means. You get the point.

I feel your pain about someone thinking your a crooked dirtbag when your not.  I recently had a semi similar where I accidentally shortchanged a provider on an overnighter  by about 10% of the fee. I had a mountain of 20 dollar bills from the ATM (wish I was in Vegas where they give you hundreds at the ATM!) and counted it more than once, but somewhere, somehow, I messed up.  

I tried to rebook with her when she came back to town and she flat out refused to see me since I shortchanged her last time.  I was shocked to hear this, I explained it was a total accident and that I would send her the money right away (with interest!) but she wanted no part of hearing the explanation.

I guess she just had her mind set that I was a low life crook and my explanation was falling on deaf ears at that point. I was crushed, I had a blast with her, she was amazing and the last thing I wanted to do was wreck a great thing. I had hoped to be a regular for years to come with her.  But instead I was on her dirt bag list over what was really just an accident on my part.

So......my advice to you is, it really does suck when someone thinks your a dirt bag when your not, but if the other person doesn't want to believe you there is very little you can do.  Maybe your girl will find her item and you'll be vindicated. But if that doesn't happen, just move on my friend, life aint fair some (most?) of the time!