Expectations of how others "should" act will kill you, especially in this business!!  Trust me when I let that shit go it set me free!

I don't think rates have anything to do with it.
I have provided references to ladies with higher and lower rates than me and never received a thank you.
I always say thank you when I send the reference request and again after I receive a response.
But as you see and I am sure every provider that has ever provided references there are always some who will not say thank you.It's rude but some people are just not courteous.

I do not have an assistant, therefore I answer all emails myself. I tour relatively often and I have a regular job. I try to be polite and send 'thank you's' but sometimes I just don't have time. In my personal opinion, references are part of our job. I don't expect a 'thank you' because I am just doing my job. I actually get annoyed when people send 'thank you' because it creates more emails that I need to look at

From a hobbyist perspective it only takes a second to reply "Thank You" to someone who took the time to reply to your request for a reference on a gentleman.   I understand we all get tons of emails, but I think it's common courtesy!

What do you ladies ask when contacting a reference? Just the obvious, LE? Creep?

A "Thank you" message sent back, for receiving your information, is More of the receiving provider's TIME.
The "Thank you" you are receiving from the "Higher End Ladies" is most likely their PAID ASSISTANT.
So, that person is getting PAID to send the "Thank you".

I notice different questions asked from the reference seekers than the obvious-
Is he LE?
Did he rape you and beat you up?

When you pm a guy about a gal asking for any "insight" and are replied to promptly and politely but don't say "thankyou" you may go into a folder entitled "do not reply" in my pm box. I'd say 75% of guys after initiating a request for info take the info and run with no "thanks." And then they wonder why the second go around there's crickets.

common courtesy"
is not as "common" as we all would like it to be.

Giving that reference
and Not receiving that "Thank you"  
is sort of like
going into the store, taking a candy bar, and not paying.

Even if the client has 80 reviews and 80 ok's  I am going to screen like always.  

Yes,
different providers have
different thresholds of service that they are willing to provide.

P411 has a wonderful "Client's Profile" section
which includes The Most IMPORTANT  things to him:

only if we could trust what reviews said..... and take THEIR perspective LOL  
 

and many of them dont provide that information...  

...in fact a simple request about a girl from another hobbyist usually becomes a multi PM interaction that generates more and even a TER "friendship". Maybe it's just me

Imagine this.....

It might just take a second but when I have 40 other emails that require my attention, plus my regular job duties, plus actually going to appointments, plus any semblance of a personal life, sometimes things fall through the cracks. I have thought about getting an assistant but all my clients say they prefer the personal touch and would dislike it greatly if I got one. So what's a lady to do?

I'll do that too.  If I come across a provider that I'd like to see but have some issues with the reviews (not many of them, inconsistency between reviews, providing a half-ass recommendation, etc.), then I'll reach out to the reviewer with some questions.  If they respond (and they usually do), then I'll certain respond to that as well.  Ultimately, it could be several PMs going back and forth.  And, for the record, I always say "thank you"!  I agree with the earlier comment as well, that SHOULD be a common courtesy!

people together who share one simple trait?  Like; all slim people, all tall people, all blue eyed people, all educated people, all people from Las Vegas, all white people..........

Since this hobby could be said to be at the forefront of evolving social mores, not surprising that saying "thank you" is not a settled question.  I'm sure Miss Manners hasn't addressed this in her guide.  

When I've helped assist her in making some money,  I'll probably be to busy to respond to her next reference request.  It only takes a split second to hit respond and say "thank you"
If she's not to busy to send the request,  she shouldn't be to busy to say thanks!  
XOXO
TL

Honestly,
I have had this happen on several occasions and I just don't pay it any mind.  
I understand that we are busy and a lot of us don't always have the time to send back a  
message so I'm not holding it against the girl.  

More than you are the provider.  No?

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Fortunately,  the ladies I've exchanged references with have been very sweet and thanked me. I tell the ladies I get references from thank you all the time.  I did say "I'd probably be to busy"  
How would I be "screwing a lady over" by her ass not being professional and courteous?  References are not a requirement,  they are a courtesy and if I'm courteous  enough to give a reference,  helping her make money,  why shouldn't I expect the same courtesy by a SIMPLE thank you? I simply don't "screw people over" period!  
As for the hobbyists,  I rely on references (just started seeing newbies this week) they have another reference other than me.  
I just refuse to deal with anyone that doesn't show me the same courtesy I've shown them.
XOXO
TL

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How hard is that?

Since it seems like your comment was directed at me- doesn't it just seem a bit redundant (the thank you)? I mean, if you are a doctor, nobody thanks you for refilling a prescription. If you are a cashier at the grocery store, no one thanks you for ringing up the produce. If you are a hairdresser, nobody thanks you for a cut. It's part of your job. By demanding a thank you for a reference request and if you don't receive one, refusing to answer reference requests is quite honestly a really distasteful thing to do.  

I didn't even read your response to the op so I'm not sure how you think my response was directed at YOU. I also do thank people quite often in the civilian world too including the cashier hairdresser,  etc... I am from the south so maybe it's the southern hospitality or just simply being THANKFUL and appreciative.  
References are a COURTESY not a requirement and good god it can not be that hard say thank you.  
I do not have this issue with references though because for one, I only take references from well known,  reputable ladies.  I do receive thank yous and I also am very appreciative of them helping me make money so I say thank them back. I think it's just rude to not at least give a thanks to the lady assisting in helping you make money. It's not an issue of kissing someone's ass,  it's just the nice, professonal thing to do. Is saying thank you that hard? Lol  

Please reread my post lol  I don't have the issue of not getting nor giving thanks and i don't try to stick it to anyone. Lol  You seriously have me fucked up with someone else dear  
I have never, ever had the issue of a guy not being able to see a lady over a non response to his reference request to me. Maybe it's because I say thank you and so do the ladies I exchange refs with. I have been providing for 15 years and never has anyone not said thank you to me and I say thanks back.

That might be the case but if the empirical observations show higher frequency thank yous coming from the higher rates it does raise some questions -- or maybe I'm just thinking along these lines as I was going to make joke about proper breeding and upbringing I do suspect the culture might matter here -- if you were raised in an area or house where please and thank you were expected it does become a habit.

Hmm, I say thank you to most service staff who I interact with, usually when they hand me a bag of whatever I bought. I even say thank you to most of the providers I fuck and I'm sincere about it as well.  

It would be nice if we all said thank you to one another, and you're right, it should go without saying that one does this. I usually do, but admit, I have dropped the ball before and forgotten to send the courtesy thank you.

On point Cayden!