I have a 4 hour dinner date with a provider on Wednesday.  I really want to make a good impression with this one.. Anyone got any suggestions, ideas to make it a night we never forget.

I would like to hear from both sides on this, and I have a theme in progress that I hope you all can enhance, but I am open to any and all suggestions to accomplish my goal.

My plan is to blind fold her.  Slowly undress, lots of light touches and kisses....that's easy..

But what I would like to get is more ideas for touch and texture. Feathers, ice, hot packs?  Smells, sounds?  

What can I do to drive this beautiful woman out of her mind.. Knowing that I will get the full benefit…

Again, feel free to point me a whole other direction as well. And if dinner first what can I do to get things going during the meal?

We are talking class, here.. No under the table grab ass... That I know how to do.

I want to impress her above the waist.

Thanks
Hopeless Romantic
   


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At dinner, don't talk with your mouth full. ; )

Find ways to get her to talk about herself. The providers i've met are all expert at getting us to talk about ourselves, but I don't think they get the chance to do so very much with the men they are with- at least not with a lot of honesty. Find out what she's really interested in, what excites her about life. Find ways to stir some passion in conversation- not necessarily just sexual passion.

As far as after dinner, I think there are many fellows here much more qualified than I am to offer assistance.

do you know she likes and consents to this type of stuff?  Some providers feel claustophobic or out of control when blindfolded.  Unless you know her well or have discussed the session with her, avoid a disaster and talk about it first with her.

If you have a good personaliy and are able to carry on an intellignt conversation don't worry to much.  Sometimes providers get turned off if your to obvious trying to be something your not.  Although I have not been with many providers, they have seen it all and are some of the most perceptive people on earth.  Be honest, candid and listen don't just hear!  Pay attention to the little things...I like to add a flower with the donation and instead of a plain white envelope...put donation in with a nice card.  Make sure you have an idea about what she likes or does not like when it comes to dinner and drinks.  No steaks for Vegans!!  Good luck!  Let us know how it turns out!

Reviews mention she that is open to light s&m..

And if the ideas and suggestion are good ones, the bind fold can come off and not foil the experience.

Teach us guys how to do it right!

You are seriously off on the wrong track asking other guys about what will arouse the woman you are going to be with. Different women have very different things that turn them on. and something that will cause one woman to melt in your arms could have no effect on another.

PS- I very much agree with the comment above about the blindfold. For some providers it could be a turn-on, but for many others, it could cause fear. Even if she is into bondage, you should ask her first if she is confortable being blindfolded.

So, my advice is to choose a romantic setting for your dinner, make the effort in conversation to get to know her as a person, and then, when you have established a personal connection, steer the conversation to what turns her on sexually. Even that won't work with every escort, but it's your best shot.

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Amber Jewell's reply is right on.  However, from another "hopeless romantic" I have some experiences of nights to remember.  Food, lobster broiled and dipped in drawn butter is very sensual. Sharing oysters on the half-shell too.  If you are going to your place, when was the last time you bought new sheets and risked getting something beyond plain white?  Scented candles beyond vanilla, like green apple.  What if you gave her a full body massage, literally from toe to head with a mildly scented warm lotion?  Cold champagne drizzled on her tummy, and then drinking from where it flows.  Small bit of ice in your mouth, insert it into her, then again remove it with your tongue.  Post coital deserts like strawberries and chocolate, while usual, can be exchanged for more exotic raspberries and cream with framboise liquer.  Music of course, ladies seem to enjoy Nora Jones and Charles AzNavour exuding soft french sensuality. Have a wonderful night and follow Amber's advice  

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I totally agree. You have to get her input by talking. Tease her for info, yes.. However knowing what to do once I get a hint/knod is the trick.

Having all these great suggestions to work with as my palette is just what I need. Thank you.

Keep it coming, Girls... The men have been useless.

FYI, I'm a romantic GUY with an unusual handle.  Have fun anyway.

One thing that I find will enhance ANY long date is the art of intense tantric massage. If you are not familiar with it you can go to any book store and pick up a book on it...only 3 days to prepare but it gives great insight on how to completely arouse through touch and even orgasm without actually penetrating your partner at all...I for one have been the teacher in several tantric massage sessions with a partner and several have said it's one of their most erotic experiences ever. Try doing something unusual like this and she is SURE to remember your effort, your thoughtfulness and how far you went to make the date enjoyable for both of you.

Good Luck!

other providers and things you have done with them. Encourage her to talk about things other than the business. I don't really want to hear about other guys and I don't think she wants to hear about other providers. Call that a true "date mentality" but it seems like you are doing your best to make this a real date of sorts so play by basic rules.

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Still you must know something... your review scores tell me you have not had a bad date yet.

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The thing to remember is the main reason she is there is because you are paying her.If you keep that in mind have fun.

Rearn I was about to look you up! LOL

Had a few ripoffs as a newbie, but I'm a fast learner.  Besides solid research, I bring an approach to the hobby that works for me.  See very few ladies, see them as frequently as I can, devote as much affection to them as they do to me, don't cross lines, do not treat them as whores, but do adore, gift them, and even in the rare review, avoid telling the special things we do together.  Yes, it is a business, but for me that's beside the point.  The ladies I am with are awe inspiring in their own right.

From my experience, avoid planning too much because you may plan way more than you can realistically fit in a four hour dinner date.

Remember you also want to be on the receiving end of some fun and not do all the giving.

My advice would be to go with the flow and savor the moment. Be flexible and willing to change your plans as time and the situation dictates.

Some of the best dates are had this way!

Best Wishes

I haven't read all of the other posts so maybe someone else mentioned this.
 I like to get a boquet of flowers (roses are great).  Remove the thorns.  Imagine that the roses are paint brushes and paint her body.  Eventually floating the rose across sensual places on her boday.  I can take 30 45 minutes and go through 4 or 5 roses this way.
 One lady wanted a light thorn on her skin (but not her clit).
 Have a great time.
B

Reo not talk about...

All your money, properties, investments, how big your tax bill was..... etc.  Very boring and shows insecurity.

We can do better than this...

All the dates going on here and this is the collective knowledge of romance!

I have to say thanks to those that have offered their thoughts..Thay are great!

But I expected a lot more…

Stories starting with one guy did...

Or I once did this to a girl...

Girls give us guys a lesson..

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I've had exactly one dinner date, but it went exceedingly well after an inauspicious beginning. Here's what worked for us.

A nice hotel room with a couch so we could spend some time talking and making out.

Candles around the room for some ambience. Not much scent- just enough to show I was thinking.

Fresh fruit, cheese, and crackers along with a bottle of good red wine to snack on. The more senses that can be stimulated, the better.

Great music- Prince, Sade, Willy Porter...

Once the table was set, then we just let things take their course. I left plenty of time for pre and post dinner fun. Dinner was at a jazz club that had a wonderful singer that night.

As for I did this and she did that, I'm not sure anyone else can be very much help as each of us is different. Pay attention and communicate. She'll let you know what to do to make the evening more special for her. Do the same for her.

The mind is far sexier than a blindfold- use it and let her use hers as well.

Not that the blindfold is a bad idea, mind you!

Have a number of alternatives.  Take her to a place w/ a 4 poster bed so you can tie her up standing on it, blindfold her and tease her with a vibrator.  Talk to her constantly.  Threaten to bring your buddies into the room to gang rape her, then kiss her and tell her you'd never let that happen.  use the vibrator on her lips, her fingertips, the ends of her breasts.  Get nipple clamps.  Spank her lightly.  Spank her hard.  Make her talk.  Ask her what she wants.

Of course, that's all after dinner.  During dinner, tell her stories of what you've done before, whether you've actually done it or not.  Like how you were boating once and a squall came up and you and your lover had to go into the hold and you had to tie her up to keep her safe and that you did her that way.  or talk about what you'd like to do to her.

But be sure you know the rules....

about what you're looking for, let me see if I can clarify some of the advice I've read in this post.  It sounds like you're asking what to do AFTER dinner, while the advice you're getting is what to do during dinner.  Keep in mind, that the brain is the largest sex organ in the body.  Stimulate this, and you've got a great start.  Personally, I am aroused by two things....intelligent men who treat me like a lady...and a man with a good sense of humor!  If you're going to talk sex at the dinner table, make sure that you are seated close to her (preferrably in a booth), where you will not be overheard, whispering in her ear, with your arm around her shoulder.  Remember that food is VERY sensual....especially dessert!  Try skipping dessert at dinner, hinting that dessert is in your room.  

I've had strawberries and creme in a bubblebath, strawberries and creme and port wine (in bed), strawberries dipped in chocolate eaten over me with the chocolate eaten off of me after...(can anybody tell I like strawberries...LOL).  

Your post indicated that she allows some light S&M.  Does she allow it, or does she like it?  Be sure about blind folds, and such before hand.  She might like blindfolding and tying you up (one of my fav's.), but may not allow the same to be done to her (safety issues). Different flavors and textures on the skin are amazing.  Ever tried making a banana split on someone (or having one made on you)?  Maybe hint before hand what you would like and pay attention to her response.  She might give you hints about something she would like.  One of my more memorable experiences was the port wine and strawberries.  Room service, instead of bringing up a bowl of whipped creme, delivered a can of redi-whip.  I think we used most of it!

I had a morning date recently with a beautiful gal in LV and we ordered a fruit plate for breakfast - I told her she had to eat the big strawberry for me - she dipped it in cream sauce and made love to it before eating it. Hoo-Boy.(I know, I know - its about turning the girls on - maybe the guy could lick some cream sauce off the melons)