Been dating an escort in Toronto for about 3 months. It has been challeging. But, I have given her my unconditional committment. She is now getting scared. Anyone out there with any input to make this work. I would love to spend the rest of my days with her making her happy.

Reating an Escort

Were you once her customer or did you get to know her otherwise? What's she getting scared of?



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...since you've been dating her, has she continued to escort?  If so, does she feel as though you'll ask her to stop if you take the next step in your relationship?  

My ATF is married & her husband is not only aware of her escorting, but LOVES it.  She says that he loves to hear about her various experiences...a definite voyeur.  So, obviously, dating or even marrying a provider can work.  Have you seen other providers since you've been dating this one?

The key is to treat the relationship like you would any other regardless of the fact that she is a provider and you are a (I assume former) client.
Remember that relationships come and go on their own accord and that there may be good reasons for either of you to continue or not, but escorting is a business and business and domestice should be kept apart like religion and government.

If she is becoming concerned about the committment that you are placing in her then you are better off to move on. If she is concerned about falling for you and still being able to make end meet then maybe it is time for you to move the relationship to another level and maybe begin assisting her exit from the business.
I have found over years of hobbying that women provide for a variety of reasons, some do it to support habits, others to pay for school, some do it because they can get all the sex that they crave, some do it to provide for kids or buy houses for themselves or loved ones. You need to determine why she is in the business if you do not know that already, that information should clarify things and allow you to determine whether she is a longterm relationship candidate.

Imagine if you had a job that afforded very flexible hours with awesome pay and countless per diem benefits. The catch is that having a GF, SO or spouse could put the brakes on it or terminate it completely. You would be very cautious and ready to bolt every time you met someone that represented a conventional relationship.
 If you truly want to be there always for her you are going to need to give her the space and time to decide when she wishes to give up her both lucrative and independent position. If you don't she'll flush you faster than her last clients used condom.  

So lovely to be single and free... sble to pick and choose my nightly partners as rarely or as frequently as I wish...  and still return home utterly free.....

Reating an Escort

Based upon the information that you have provided I don't think anyone can give you a detailed suggestion as to what might work.

In simplistic terms most relationships are a matter of meeting the right person at the right time.  The right time is nearly as important as the right person.  

In addition some women can be in this business and have a civilian relationship at the same time but others find it impossible to do.

If she is not capable of being in the business and having a civilain relationship at the same time then you are probably in trouble because it does not sound like she is ready to get out of the business.  

If she is capable of handling the business and a relationship at the same time and has a desire to do so at this time then you might make it work.