I was definitely too surprised and pleased for clear thinking.  

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As a guy whose wife cheated on him, had I been conscious of it at the time... I probably would have taken everyone into court... and in retrospect, I should have.

Think long and hard about this.  If the marriage is dead, SHE needs to file for a separation, get out, and then have an affair.... not the other way around.  Another thought, this is not similar to a provider - no money changing hands... it is an affair - Why did she choose you?   There are other ways (& People) for her to get laid.  Sorry, but if ya get caught - it gets nasty.  
Best to ya - I know this is not what you WANT to hear, but it is what you NEED to hear.

You may have the "this" (good mental rapport), and the "that" (sexual chemestry); but you need the "other" as well.

That's a commitment which takes one of three forms:  Steady relationship, marriage or a contract (ie hobbying - pay for play.)

There is no such thing as a "fuck buddy".  Trust me on this.

So, if you really like her, and want to go down the relationship road, even with all the baggage she has (marriage and who knows what kind of mental stuff) go ahead.

Don't think that this is just some crazy manna from heaven situation.

When things seems to good to be true, they usually aren't.

This is a discussion board for cheating married folk.  It has hints for avoiding getting caught. They would mostly be for her, but it's worth a look for you to see if she's being reckless or careful.  You also might want to rent "Unfaithful" as a cautionary tale.

Reangerous Territory - warning Dr. Smith - WARNING!

visiting a provider is considered cheating, too. You are still going outside the marriage. So many men will say they like the no strings attached of a provider, yet many will see the same one for years so that is like having an affair