I have been with only 4 providers.  Three out of the four times I was not able to experience the big "O".  These were not just 1 hour trysts.  Any incite into why this could be happening?  15 - 20 minutes with my SO is all I usually need for completion, so why can't I after a couple hours of great passion with a provider?  It's not that I didn't enjoy these encounters,or that I won't do it again, but what's up with this?

Just like some people can only go to the bathroom (ya know what I mean) in their own home; can't sleep in hotel rooms..

It'll get better, and easier. Give it some time - try to relax and not think of the 'accomplishment' but more about the enjoyment.

...seriously, unless lovemaking is too short with your SO...

I've had this problem too. No problems getting it up or keeping it up, and I still have an enjoyable time, but no O. It's bewildering, and a bit frustrating as well. I'm hoping it goes away with more "practice."

Its happened to me to sometimes but I tend to concentrate on the whole experience rather then if I pop or not. The "O" is certainly enjoyable but when you analyze the entire process it is really only a part of the whole; i.e., frosting is tasty but the cake itself is deliscious

Nerves is the most likely cause but consider whether everything else is the same as with your SO -- are you having more to drink, taking any new medications (antidepressents or viagra), trying new positions, use of a cover...if all that's the same, chances are it's just nerves and you should take Sedona's advice. Come to think of it, no matter what the problem -- you can't go wrong taking Sedona's advice.

In my experience a state of high sexual arousal over a long period of time decreases the urge and urgency to orgasm. It is well known that constant, continuous exposure to a sub-threshold
stimulus can sometimes desentitize the receptor (in this case your mind). There are, of course, many other factors that inhibit
orgasm, and these should be evaluated and corrected if possible.I won't insult your intelligence by listing them, as you probably know them as well as I.
From a pragmatic approach I would suggest that you seek your orgasm early in the tryst such as you do with your SO, and from there venture into other more expressive venues of sexual dalliance. Who knows what will follow--2,3,? As confidance mounts you can arrange your sequences as directed from experience.Good luck.

That lady is sooo fine, I pop just thinking of her!

Nerves, newness, trying too hard to come, and all of those other reasons can factor into it; so can wearing a Goodyear tire.  I enjoy the journey just as much as, if not more than, the destination.  I've deliberately held back from an orgasm to prolong the pleasure only to find myself unable to finish later more than once.  It has never bothered me, but some women feel they have failed if they don't see gallons of cum.

It's funny that you bring up the comfort level with somebody as I tend to have this happen to ladies that I have seen on numerous occasions and feel very comfortable with.  I relate it to the fact that with these ladies the physical part of the act with these ladies can sometimes go at a very frenzied pace that has increased as I have grown to know them better and find out the pace that they like the action to go.

There are some ladies I have been with that I don't hit the frenzied pace with as they are more quiet and in a way "just lay there" with a few moans mixed in.  With these ladies I tend to finish quickly.

Another thing that I read in Playboy Advisor this month that can decrease sensitivity is a man's method of masturbation.  It is not an extremely scientific paper but I think it may have some merit to it and does refer to a scientific study.  Basically, it says that masturbating while lying face down can decrease the ability to climax during normal sex.  I've provided a link to the web site.  Playboy Advisor is not the ultimate place for correct sexual advice but I think there is some validity to what is written in this article.

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I have been there a couple of times.  I have actually faked it just to get the provider to quit trying and not haveing to admit that I didn't make it!  That was somewhat for her sake as well as my ego. I could tell that she had a sense of not meeting her mission if I didn't pop.

Now I think that what Sedona says is right on and I also think that the sensuality of the lady and her understanding can have a positive effect.

So, in all seriousness, a provider of the class that Sedona is can, if informed of the issue in a matter-of-fact way, work their magic.  And you can trust me here, Sedona knows some magic.  As she has said, (I paraphrase) the major sex organ is inside your (big) head...between your ears.  That is where the consentrated effort should be.  IMHO

All this talk about O's and everything..maybe I should take a 'leave from TER'..
Ok, here it is. My SO/FB left for three weeks and will be doing 3-wk stints (back and forth) from today until May. This is making me nuts. I'm going to be hornier than hell (pardon me for saying so) AND busy since he left all the business stuff in MY lap and it's now my responsibility. That part is no problem..but dealing with that AND no sex..I'm chompin' at the bit already..

Now, I have a question that I wonder if anyone can answer and if anyone else (ladies) have experienced this. This has only happened twice. Both times the men were well endowed. Both times it was missionary position with a pillow or something under my bottom. But, all of a sudden, no warning, they hit something (presumably my G-spot) and I could feel this hot liquid flow forth inside and they felt it immediately, too, but nothing EXTERNALLY. So, what's that? Squirting internally??
I have only had that happen twice and I want it again! LOL!

For example, I LOVE doing the threesome thing, but notice that sometimes it's harder to reach an orgasm. I am SO turned on, it's almost too much! I become more conscious of how hard someone is working, and that the third person is watching and feel a little more 'under the scope'! LOL!

Now, maybe it just takes some getting used to, and I certainly am enjoying to the max, but I did notice that it was much different.

Sedona...

most likely you need a new washer...

I'll be right over with my special "tool".

Talk about "fixing" two birds with one stone...or my "bird" and
my hand and my tongue is worth it 2 being in your bush.
How do those lines go again?
Cheers!


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I have the same problem for a couple of different reasons.

I have a certain small area that is very sensitive and if it is manipulated right, then I will have a big "O".  My S/O knows me well enough she can hit it everytime.  Some providers may be hanging from the ceiling to please me but if they don't get the spot, then I may have to finish myself which if you notice these things is about 50% of "cum" shots happen in movies anyway.

I also have a certain time when I am most likely to have the big one.  If I miss that time because I am attending to my partner (ex. she goes down on me but I stop her to exchange the favor) I am more likely not to cum.

Often if I am just pumping away and stop for 10-15 seconds, for whatever reason I will start the big one and then keep on going to completion.

Last few things are too small condoms, not enough lubrication, and too much viagra.  I need a little viagra but not a full pill or I stay hard all night and never ejaculate.

Oh, and I see providers for variety although I have been monogamous lately.  soon to change

I don't want to lie. It is not YMMV, because you may have had an incredible time, but no O?

How does one score this? (This is a current, real life dilemma for me)

"It happens from time to time to ALL of us."

I'll have to disagree.  It's never happened to me.

Suppose it depends if you are one of those guys appreciates the journey as much as the destination.

But in all seriousness, I can't imagine an orgasm being worth much more than 1/2point and only up for one of the best in your life.

99% of providers could make you cum easier with a only a HJ and a video if they wanted so I don't think it is a reasonable performance marker.

I have experienced that a couple of times with one provider I have seen. One of the most erotic feelings I can remember. A small amount of fluid did end up on the sheets, so I wouldn't say that it was squirting internally (more like squirting while plugged.)

I declinate my offer to make you my number 1 cooter lova Jo.
No Happy Ending make for very poor male concubine.


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When it comes to the big O, I need to be stimulated orally.

But not to upset anyone,not every gent can do this right. Some think my cl#t needs to be rubbed off. (OUCH)

Gentle, soft massages and licks work. Sometimes, by adding some other finger touch it sets me off.

Also, please remember this, it still takes me 15-20 min. before a screaming session begins.

Good Luck. Shaye

It was your G-spot. Located right behind it is a gland that is connected to the vestibules that release vaginal secretions. It isnt so much the Gspot that causes orgasm contrary to popular urban myth... Thats your clit.
The Gspot is a gland. It makes the vagina much wetter and swollen when manipulated gently. In turn because it lies under the clit and nerves connected there as well it stimulates your clit internally if you will.
The warm spreading sensation you felt was almost like a "blush"
Your epithilium internally became warmed by a rush of blood to the area and you also produced more secretion because of this pulse.

By doing this often while you masterbate You can actually increase your frequency for orgasm and your ability to increase vaginal secretions. I get super juicy during play. Ist also because I have given a helping hand if you will to the process
xo
mo

I was thinking an hour and a half, just to start! Orally that is.

LoL....



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Read the sheet that comes with the drug.  Talk to your physician or try one of the other meds.  It can also be a psychological problem.  There is stuff on the web about it.  

It can take a MUCH longer time to climax with Viagra.  Try longer than an hour and see if that fixes it.

No, I like to see you twirl and play with your hair as you build to a screaming "O"

I think the contest should be see what wears out first, my tounge or your P*ss~? Oh, BTW you are welcome to bring Sedona if you need assistance. you know like a tag team match.

A quote comes to mind. "How many licks does it take to get to the center....." lol

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I know what you mean, It takes some patience, but you can actually feel the spot as you push in.

very funny my lady,
can't we just try. lol

cuz i'm a horny devil with fantasies beyond my SO

I agree, glad to find out that i'm not some queer anomaly.

Great advice, thanks

The review is based on the provider and the fun we had, the "O" or not the "O" doesn't figure into it

Thanks everybody for the excellent responses.  I had no idea that this was such a universal problem.  I have never taken Viagra, hopefully never will need it.  The cover issue is very possible but even with bbbj nothing happens.  I have lots to go on and can't wait to try again!!!!!!  Next business trip, ladies watchout for me cuz I'm a cummin

The enjoyment is foremost on my mind at these times

My approach has been to refrain from reviewing, when this happens. If my experience is warped by my own problems (no fault of the lady), then I think I simply cannot give a description of the encounter that would be objective or useful to anyone else.

Buzz Vibe Year is my best love button friend.

A few mins of him on the bean and its screaming paint peeling sugar muffin surprise