As noted in my final post, SDS's posts contain far too much personal detail about the provider he is discussing.  Suggest you pull the entire thread.  And I apologize to others and myself for participating and even encouraging this guy, who just doesnt get it.

I hate it when talking to somebody and giving advice simply makes it far worse.

That thread needs to go.  If it wasn't so damn explicit it would make a great primer on what NOT to do...

I provided some advice early on based on his first post.

I did not know he was going to open up his and his ex ATF'S entire lives in future posts.

-- Modified on 1/24/2007 7:51:14 PM

The OP is is playing a passive aggressive game in this thread so it should be removed.
He did obviously pay his dime and stayed for his time (plus) so the review should stand. it is pretty creepy though. I wouldnt want to hang with this guy either.

it is doing quite abit of damage to the provider in that he has only one review. In addition all his posts on this board are related to the same provider.

The provider needs a new name and identity. If he ever gets back to the hobby life, he will need a new handle too.

You know if he stalks her like it kind of sounds, when he goes to prison, he will get butt raped for free from the fellows.

The review should be pulled since he only has one. I wasnt looking at the whole picture here. It still bothers me that the lady in question was this involved with a client. It all seems a lot creepy to my jaundiced veiwpoint.

-- Modified on 1/24/2007 8:50:31 PM

This guy was told previously about falling in love with Ky.

YOU GUYS NEED TO BAN HIM FROM THIS SITE! HE WILL DO THIS AGAIN. PLUS, WHO WANTS TO READ ABOUT THESE TWO IN THE PAPERS?

he has been told repeatedly on several boards... Knock it off. and he doesn't seem to get the message... and I would really hate it if "something were to happen" and TER go through the "process" he needs to now just go.

Pull this guy off line and contact the provider.

Many of us have had some involvement with providers that goes beyond the norm (crosses the line).  I have had providers ask ME to go out to dinner only to pour their hearts out or simply tell me about their love lives, dreams, children, whatever.  Which ones?  Well, you will never know because they won't even get a review from me after that point.  It is too messy.  It is that obvious.

-- Modified on 1/24/2007 10:33:56 PM

If I were this poor woman I would drop out of sight and get away from him ASAP.  Maybe a community equivalent of the Witness Protection Program.  (Providers' Protection Program: PPP).  Get a restraining order served, get her a change of name, (Real and business) resettle her in a different state...

I wrote what I did without malice, but because I truly am confused and upset about the norms and expectations. I've never hired a woman for sex before her, and I certainly don't think I'm the kind of person who is cut out for this. I'm not a stalker however. The most reason I had for being so upfront about this was that I was thinking that maybe I should do something to try to make up to her. These posts have been very helpful to me because they have very clearly convinced me to stay away from all this. I think above all people with deep seated psychological hangups about sex should not be going to hookers to solve their problems. I'll stick to therapy. I would very much agree to have all these posts removed, for the simple reason that I never should have mentioned her by name.

You have serious issues.

The reason I've left the thread up (with an edit of your last post on it) is because I think it is of value for people to see what can happen, and so people can know to avoid you.

I see that Love Goddess gave you advice on TER's The Erotic Highway board, and I admire her patience. She is the professional; I am just a layperson. To me, it sounds like talk therapy is not doing it for you. Maybe a visit to a psychiatrist (the ones who can prescribe medication) is in order? Honestly, I see no shame in someone getting the help they need.

In the meantime, please take your own advice and stay away from these types of websites and the women, for your sake and theirs (ours).

Peace,
Girl Next Door
Moderator

Prozactly Girl Next Door.

I think, however, that we've seen enough of this particular person.

I have a friend in Boston, a provider, who was forced to retire, got through court proceedings to get a restraining order after the man hacked into her website and stole the entire contents of her computer and harrassed her over and over.

Remember Charis?

This is really a situation that needs to be reported to someone in authority.

Remember, you don't have to do what OJ did to murder someone. Figuratively speaking, that is.

Those at TER who have the ability to identify this man, please help him get some help!!!!!

But, imagine the possibilities regardless!!

Ask a counselor what was wrong with what you did and what you're doing now.  I mean a *real* therapist and also a *psychiatrist* working closely with you.  A strap-on up the ass only gets you so far...

We could only judge by your actions, so you're being judged very badly.  If you're *not* really a stalker at heart, you're doing your best imitation.  If that's the case, being misunderstood by everybody will obviously piss you off enough to become the real McCoy; you need to find out what's warping your actions and social signals at least.  Just finding out though won't do it.  You need to change them.

Or-- if you're intentions are warped and you're the last one to know, you need to find that out and get healthy before you land in prison.  

I could see you're trying to get help, so don't be ashamed if it turns out to be the latter.  Here, you just seem to be getting worse.  

BTW, if you post TER again, I suggest that it be only on The Erotic Highway.  That board is set up for something more therapeutic. But get real therapy first.  Apparently, the Love Goddess has told you that.  Really do it, and be as truthful there as you've been here.    


-- Modified on 1/25/2007 10:05:37 AM

just what types of folks are in this community.  If we can't post items without knowing they will be the subject of moderation all of the time, how does that help folks?
Yes... perhaps edit the thread to take out details that might jeopardize the provider, but let the rest stand.

. . . I could never moderate.  I would have never thought of it.