You've seen her for years, she knows you, you know her, so from her perspective you ghost her. What made you stop seeing your All Time Favorite provider? Another girl, boredom etc. So what? Tell your stories

So if we rephrase your question to address why "current favorites" fall out of favor I would have to say it's a combination of things, usually based in the fact that I have a short attention span and I get bored easily. I don't have ATF's for a reason, these are "paid relationships" or are by their nature fleeting at best.

Over time, things and people change. Like any relationship..no different really. And of course, people do retire and personal situations otherwise change.

Just kidding.  I've only seen one provider twice.  (And no, she didn't love me either.)

.... your wallet.

I'm on the fence right now about seeing my ATF. She used to come to my city every other month or so with the agency she was with... I have seen her nearly every time she has been in town for the past 3 plus years. Sometimes a few times each visit she made. Now she has not been here in a long time, about 8 months. I have been itching to see her. She has also gone independent since she was here last and raised her rates 30% since I saw her last. She just arrived in town and we have been texting a bit this week and she has let me know I am subject to the new rate since she is now on her own and has to take care of 100% of the business herself and needs more than her cut of the agency rate. While I don't really have a problem with her upping her rate or subjecting me to it, she is now exceeded what I normally budget. That combined with the fact that we enjoy each others company and have become friends, when I see her I know we will spend the first half hour of my time catching up. It just has started to happen that we roll around in bed together and play & talk for 30 minutes before the action really starts. Then the action part of the session turns out only being 20 minutes and starts winding down. She never hurries me out the door and we always spend at least another 15 minutes cuddling and talking afterward and getting cleaned up and dressed. So I end up getting about 75 minutes for the 60 minute rate, but really only 20 minutes of the 75 is hard action. I do really enjoy the catching up, playfulness and cuddling both before and after but the new rate and the lack of action time make me wonder if I would also enjoy seeing someone else for not only a lower rate but also receiving more action time. If we went back to romping on each other for the first 40 minutes right when I walked in the door like it used to be I would not be on the fence at all. I do enjoy the warm up catch up, it just ends up eating way too much time! Jump me when I walk in the door, fuck me silly for 40 minutes and we can catch up and cuddle later after I am sexually satisfied. If she feels she needs to turn me out at the 60 minute mark so be it, if she is enjoying the play and cuddling too and lets it run on afterward that's cool too. I understand if she needs me to go because she has another client or plans afterward, no problem. The balance of action and catch up are not like they used to be, and while I really enjoy catching up it's not MY first priority when I see her, particularly not at her new rate.

Also I would add, if a provider ever becomes demanding, entitled or even possessive.
Then it might be time to find another lady.

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...when she began asking me for money outside of the sessions we had.

There is a wonderful provider that I see several times a year. We got into the "catch up " habit a little too much in our sessions, so I changed things up.

That's too much blah blah blah, just get in their and fuck her. Sure she's your "friend", but she's also a friend you fuck for a significant amount of cash, so she'll understand that you prefer your dick in now her over 30 minutes of catching up. Just get in their quick and destroy your friend's pussy, and then you can cuddle and chit chat about how good friends you two are.

I don't usually use the term ATF, but I do have a few "favorites" that I repeat with. Reasons I have stopped seeing some are.
1) looks changed (they got fat etc.  One I stopped seeing because she got a boob job)
2) service went down
3) retired, moved, or stopped touring my area.
4) price increase

I also describe them as Favorites & I like to have more than one... 3 is a good number... who offer slightly different services (if my mood wants a particular flavor) but gives a prescreened alt if the first choice of the moment is not available.  
So, in no particlar order:
1) retired
2) dropped out of sight, her web site is still live but unattended.  I know she had health issues (respiratory) & hope she's ok.
3) had a stress melt down during a paid session which she should not have booked.  I knew I wasn't going back & so did she.    

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I only get to Vegas 4-6 times a year but I always see my ATF if available.  Her service has only gotten better.  I may have added a second ATF if possible, which makes the Vegas trips costly but very enjoyable.  I’m much more comfortable with the familar

When they get greedy and play you for a fool..

I'm a serial repeater with quite a few wonderful women in different cities. I go back for many different reasons. Each of these ladies bring a different personality, body and some varying skills. So each experience with them is different from each other.  
That's why I like this life so much. Personality wise, I get along with them all and we know why I am there. The variety makes it so I am always really excited to be seeing them.
If I picked one and only fucked with her, I'm pretty sure one of us or both would get bored and it would be just like married or duty sex. Aaargh!

It's either this....

Alcohol and Firearms.  They go so well together.

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that all the right elements are there.  

Isn't it? I thought that was the whole reason you guys were here lol. The ATF thing is a crock of crap imo lol. When you don't see a review its usually because he's "cheating" on his so called ATF and doesn't want her to find out about it even tho she didn't belong to him to begin with lol. And yes that happens here...a lot lol. This thread should visit the "why clients lie" thread. Too funny.

OP is looking for constructive advice.  

In fact, your list looks a lot like my list.

More serious than a quart of Automatic Transmission Fluid, for one. Or definition of ATF vs. current favorites, question was obvious.

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Having an all-time favorite doesn't mean there's no variety. In fact, my ATF introduced me to several other providers, whom she thought I'd like.

How odd.  Also, where did you get the idea that having an ATF means you see only her?  Like it's some kind of marriage contract?  How droll.
I guess no matter whether you're Taylor, Gia or Dylan, you'll always be a know-it-all.  Roger that!

Sure, I have favorites and like to repeat, but not exclusives. The very nature of this world seems ephemeral for both guys and gals.

I think you might find that some mongers might not want their so called ATF to  find out about other heauxs that he sees, because SHE gets jealous. Whether it's emotional jealousy or financial jealousy, it doesn't matter. But, after a few years of this life, I know that it happens more than we mongers hear about .

Seriously.

They make my ATF octane booster. Use it for my supercharged Miata.

Any guy who lets a provider run out his time with endless chit chat "before" they get started needs to grow a backbone.

One retired
One passed away
One still visits the area but I grew tired of her overuse of perfume and political views that she made sure to discuss each and every visit.

not him most times. I would have a few more reviews if the mongers I saw weren't fearful of their ATF's finding out about seeing me. It was on the down low from day 1. You are kidding if you don't think that happens here or exclusivity for that fact. You're both kidding yourself if you don't think that happens here regularly. I saw someone exclusively for over a year and I can guarantee he saw noone else but me during that time. If course I'll here the backlash on that one but let's just say, I knew

I do sometimes cut back when I feel an itch for something different. She's my ATF because she has that special something that keeps me coming back...I've probably seen her 100 times now.

My point exactly. Not a case, but a bottle. Which is about the same in terms of relevancy to the OP.

with trivial, irrelevant banter and word play.
Spank me.  
Schmuck.
PS: Your new jacket is in the mail.  Be sure to wear it when you play Board Cop.

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For me, the difference between an ATF and otger heauxs is PASSION. Not just beauty, orgasms or sex. PASSION!

If she gets that ATF moniker in my brain then she deserves it.  She not only fucks my brains out and sucks me off like no tomorrow, she is someone I like who pretty much seems to like me back beyond the fucking & sucking.  The only way I would stop seeing an ATF is if either I or she quit the biz, me as client or her as provider, or, if distance became too great due to moving or what have you.  Now this doean't mean I won't see other providers or SB's in between visits, but an ATF is an ATF and will be repeated with until and unless we get sick of each other, in which case, no longer an ATF.  My current fav I have been seeing about 8 - 12 times a year for 3 years.  Sometimes we might go 2-3 months in between visits, then 2x a month to "catch up".  My "alternate" ATF I haven't seen in a year, I think I am due.  Maybe I'll give her a call now that I am thinking of her.  I have known her about 5 years.

A combination of them raising their rates and a decline in performance. Or maybe I got bored?

...My concept of an ATF is a current ATF & over the years I have considered several, certainly not exclusive relationships just the best at the time, the one's I would repeat with, & so far everyone of them has retired or I would still be seeing them.

Most annoying for me is lying ... I get the need to protect your private life, have a  story provide a fantasy  or develop a persona ...but if you lie to me about stupid useless meaningless stuff and I loose trust then it’s over ..

at $600 and starts thinking of it in terms of dollars per minute, then he is hobbying over his head and should see girls at lower rates.  You can't really enjoy yourself when you start with a bad attitude because the session started two minutes late and you're obsessing that you're out twenty bucks as a result.  This is often the same guy that arrives a half hour early and drives around the block ten times waiting for a $4 parking meter on the street rather than paying ten dollars at the lot.  It escapes me why they even bother to engage in a hobby that is so imprecise in the timing.  

That's rich coming from you. I'm sure you have a few a few spare jackets I can borrow.

I agree CDL. That being said, some people just like the game of 'getting' a deal' and pinching pennies. I'm not built that way, but a lot of people are programmed that way. I don't get it, but the world is made up of all sorts of people.

I happened upon a terrific gal within 3 miles of my home-thereby avoiding a 60 mile roundtrip thru highway construction to get to my ATF's in call.  This saves about 2 hours in drive time!!!  After 4 visits-I have developed a new ATF and acquired 2 hours !

A sure sign you're completely out of smack.

You would know, you're a pro as evidenced by the jacket. Nice "selfie", didn't realize you were that fat. All Time Fattie.

Don't really have an ATF yet. Maybe this one girl is, but I haven't been pursuing this hobby long enough to know.  

How tragic.  You are officially Too Stupid To Talk To.
Now please have the last word you seem to need so desperately.

I have several clients with who I enjoy the same type of interaction. Glad you have that someone special to see. Enjoy each other sweetie.

Either when I'm dead or she tells me she doesn't want to see me anymore. One I've been seeing for almost four years. The other almost two years. Both are Awesome and too far from being boring.  

Seems somebody wants the last word, not going to give it you Janet. I do have to say I'm enjoying the PMs I'm getting LOL at you and my post. You seem to have more than a few people who don't like you.  

I love having favourites but sadly ,maybe because of my demographic of choice (I prefer older gents), the physical ghosting happened when they had grand-kids,I had at least two who went from every months for six years to twice a year to nothing once they became grandfathers...suddenly Montreal became really really far from the US...

I've seen her more times than I can count... it usually starts with a text... lime... "Hey?".. I need a favor... I need money today for rent... so instead of 3 days from now... just send it to me now.. your good i n a few days..... so..... ok... fine... makes sense... then something else.... then a cancellation... my kids sick.... whatever... then somehow you start getting way ahead.. then the absurd offers... I'll give you 4 hours to get us even... huh? 4 hours? W tf am I gonna do for 4 hours? Watch you sleep? And so it goes... eventually... no more advances.. then she hates you even though you have been there for her... hookers.. pretty much one way...