I am somewhat uncomfortable about making this post because it reveals more about me than I usually care to reveal, even under cover of a user name, but here it goes. (I apologize if this is a subject that has been addressed before, but I did a cursory search of posts in the last few months and did not see anything.)
I recently had a very nice experience with a beautiful young lady that got me thinking about the subject of this post, and I am curious what others, both men and women, have to say on the subject. Given that the lady does not have any reviews posted and I therefore had no guide as to the extent of services provided (although having done my research in other ways, I knew I was bound to have a good experience), I enquired as to what was on the menu. She indicated that anal was not a service she provided, and apologetically stated something to the effect that "I bet that's what you wanted." In fact I did not have any preconceived notions so I was not disappointed and had a wonderful time with what was available, but afterwards her comment got me thinking.
Based on the pure physical pleasure I personally enjoy from a sexual act, anal is third on the list after straight sex and a good BJ, but it is probably first on the list as far as giving me psychic satisfaction (outside of the satisfaction I get from giving pleasure to my partner)(given the nature of the subject matter to which this site is devoted, I am purposefully ignoring the emotional aspects of the sexual act). I might be somewhat twisted (hopefully not too much so) but, in addition to the kinky, taboo aspect of the act, which alone makes the act somewhat intriguing, anal is the act that for me most fulfills the male dominance/possession aspect of the sexual act (the male role being the penetrator--usually--rather than the penetratee). From my perspective, a woman has essentially given a guy all there is to give physically at that point, and has overcome potential initial pain/discomfort to do so. Frankly, it is a very powerful feeling for me that has nothing to do with physical pleasure. That being said, I partake if offered, but do not base my decision to see someone on whether it is offered.
My question to the guys is, is it the act of preference for many of you? If so, why? Is it the physical or psychological aspect of the act?
Now not being a woman, I can only surmise the following as far as women are concerned: physically, some women appear to really enjoy it and a subset of those women can cum through anal alone; others will do it because it is not unpleasant for them but don't enjoy it as much as others do and they believe the market demands it; and others flat out hate it and won't do it. What is a woman's perspective on both the physical and psychological aspect of the act?
I could go the rest of my life w/o doing it, but will usually try it if it is on the menu.
I like it if I can get it but I don't chase it.
Anal is something that never appealed to me sexually. I've had men who tried to sneak a finger, and that is also a no-go lol It was just never my cuppa tea. But, to each their own. I do get requests for it, and I end up turning the gentlemen down, and sending them to one of my friends, who offer the service. I like to keep at least one part of my body a "virgin" to the day I die (nope, not even my future husband is getting in there). lol 
Mel 
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Kool! Turns me off too!
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Personally speaking the allure of anal sex is the taboo of it. Yes the gateway in is often a little tighter but once the sphincter is dialated that added "tight" sensensation becomes moot. It's the naughtyness of it and the fact that your partner is raunchy enough to allow & enjoy it.
There have been times in the past where the availability of anal has been a deciding factor for me but lately it has had little influence when picking a GFE.(It's always a plus if offered though)
Hell, I'll go for any orifice if it is offerred to me!! And the more, the merrier!!
YMMV, of course - but I have found not only the additional physical sensation and sexual intimacy of tailpiping an exciting variation [why do most of you insist on DFK - ever think about that?] but also that MANY women, if properly and tenderly introduced to this pleasure find it equally stimulating and pleasurable, and in many cases DEMAND and REQUIRE IT. Digitized tailping DATY technique in particular produces excellent results in my experience, not only as a training exercise and prelude to the major variant of tailpipe technique, but also as a stand alone form of lovemaking.
IMHO it is the most intimate nature of the act - requiring a level of sensitivity and intimacy in lovemaking [in comparison to the more common techniques of Sportfucking employed in the hobby]that renders it a rare menu item. One provider has told me she is "saving it' for her future husband. Imagine that
Tailpipers of TER, Unite!
I've done anal a number of times, but it has never seemed spontaneous, always an interruption in the natural flow of things. I get this curious sensation of detachment, like the act distances the lady and I.
Guess I haven't tried it with the right lady yet.
I'm one guy who really doesn't get turned on by anal. It just doesn't do anything for me. There is a perfectly better opening nearby.
But I can understand how it could for some people.
For me, it's literally the other end that turns me on. ie. bbbj and specifically facial/swallow.
It probably says a lot about the person's psychology and personality. Seems to me that anal is far less personal than bbbj. Anus's (hmm.. what's the plural for anus?) can't pierce right throught one with a stare.
As far as the psychological vs physical aspect is concerned, great physical stimulation can be had any number of ways. Even with a watermelon. It's the pshycological aspect that matters. It's a truism that the brain is the biggest sex organ.
Seems to me I read a post by someone not too long ago advising a provider to "OFFER ANAL AND LAUGH ALL THE WAY TO THE BANK".
Many of the Los Angeles TER 10/10 ladies offer anal, and as well charge a hefty fee, but of course they also have to be lookers to get 10/10. Because of of the quantity of their reviews, I'd imagine it's a FAR more popular item than what I'm seeing in this thread. Then again, I'm, in L.A. and these are LA ladies being reviewed. Personally, I suffer for days afterwards after doing anal, so I quit even before I got into this business, and the couple of times I tried it, I bled severely.
Anal is not high on my list but like the rest of you I find it enjoyable if it occurs. It is by far the most enjoyable if the lady is into it. Of the several times I have had anal with providers it has come spontaneously, things were real wet and it just sort of happened (ha ha). One gal said oh no and as I started to pull out she grabed my ass and said stay in. It was her first time she said and she ended up really enjoying it. I think a guys size is alot more of a factor with anal than with vaginal intercourse.
One time I was with a very popular gal at a golf resort and she told me she was on her period and that I would have to be satisfied with anal. Actually I was a little disappointed but felt relieved she was willing to substitute. As it turned out she went wild and I really believe she came a couple of times.
Later I was talking to several guys that come to the resort area often and the gal got brought up. Come to find out every guy that had seen her had the same story. One guy had seen her three different times and she was always on her period. We came to the conclusion she liked anal much more that regular sex and that was her way of getting as much as she wanted.
Must say I have not met anyone else like her.
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If anal is done correctly, there isn’t any pain associated with it. Since there’s hardly any secretions, lubricant is very important and should always be used because tearing could occur without it. It’s a beautiful thing to try with someone you’re really into but it takes the knowledge of “knowing how” on her part and it’s up to her to guide him in gently.
Just think of it as having a bowel movement, bearing down while concentrating on relaxing the muscle so it can allow penetration. Of course you should rinse the lower bowel first before trying this because cleanliness is very important. I would say practice with a small well lubed cucumber while listening to some very relaxing music and maybe after having a glass of wine ~ it’s how I got started.
I'd say I can take it or leave it, but that would be a lousy choice of words. More accurately, should say anal sex isn't my favorite (that would be DATY, more so in 69, BTW).
This thread reminded me that it’s been exactly 20 years since my first anal experience. Long-term GF and I were curious, bought some lube and gave it a try several times. Since that was the promiscuous ‘80’s, we probably should have used a condom. Oh well, live and learn if you're lucky.
My ATF of times past burned an image into my memory forever on our first session together. She was riding reverse cowgirl and looked over her shoulder and got a mischevious grin on her face and proceded to make the switch. I had never asked nor had much experience with it until then. She loved it.
Georgy, I think you identified all of the touch points in your well written and literate post... Sexual pleasure is a cocktail (pardon the pun - couldn't help it) consisting of physical sensation/pleasure, cultural norms, and individual psychology and fantasy. Whether one prefers this venue as a regular practice or as a spicy variation, I think the drivers are the same. Physically, the tightness and warmth are very stimulating for a man. In most cultures, if not taboo, anal intercourse is usually considered somewhat naughty. Breaking the rules can be sexually stimulating, but that part of it takes place in a person's head. That is why some people hugely enjoy having sex in public, for example. You identified one area, though, that is not too comfortable to explore in the context of 21st century enlightenment - the notion of male dominance. Some women may enjoy anal intercourse or at least say that they do, and certainly many men enjoy providing their partner with pleasure. However, the majority of women seem reluctant to engage in anal intercourse for a number of reasons including potential pain, bleeding, etc. Many men and women would consider the act of screwing someone in the backside as clearly establishing dominion over them. Hence, to your point regarding male dominance, do men derive sexual pleasure from establishing their dominion over their partner which potentially includes causing a bit of temporary pain? Is this a darker side of the male psyche, that perhaps most men are not really aware of? Is this the beginning edge of BDSM territory? I find the question somewhat disturbing, but suspect that this may in some measure be the case. Not being a psychologist, I don't know if there is any real truth to this, though. Are there any psychologists in our august group who'd care to take a crack (sorry) at this?
the thrust (I too am a punster from way back) of my post. The question of dominance/submission is particularly intriguing, and I was curious if others viewed anal in the same way I do--which has very little to do with what I get out of it physically. In particular, I am curious as to whether women who enjoy it enjoy it because, in addition to physical pleasure (again, I am assuming there are women who enjoy it physically), they view it as an act submission that ties back into the whole primal man/woman dynamic. Of course, I don't think we have heard yet from any women who enjoy it.
I got lucky with early anal training. My first boyfriend and I had anal sex then 'regular' sex the first time. For a while I thought everyone did both when they had sex. I loved anal right from the start and when my boyfriend went off to college and we broke up, I found out, sadly, that 'both' happening often is definitely not the case. Thank goodness for all you wonderful hobbyists!!
Yeah the dominance is an important part of it --
thats why its much better in doggie than in
reverse cowgirl for example -- but it also
feels great.
Like most respondents, I like to do it when it is offered and also when sometimes spontaneously, when the vibe is right and the juices are flowing, suggest it to the lucky lady.
Never one to push it.
Just the other day my wife of 15 years, who is divorcing me (or not, depending on her mood that day), grabbed BIG JOHN by the shaft and began to insert him back there. More than mildly amazed since she's never experienced anal, I queried her about whether she’d gotten orifices confused, was suffering jet-lag or was otherwise out of her fucking mind. She assured me she was aiming him exactly where she wanted him to go. I’m not going to say she’s “anal-retentive” but I will say I was alarmed at the prospect of un-lubricated BIG JOHN getting stuck and causing her serious pain or injury. Even more so now after reading the description posted by “Yet another provider”. Oweeeee!
“A providers opinion” says lubrication is the key to anal and that indicates to me that, if we’d gone forward (so to speak), my wife’s first experience with anal would have been unplesant. On that day, my mind racing through a mental inventory of all household lubricants, I realized that, other than WD-40 and Pam, we were in trouble. Analytical thinking like that always breaks the mood for me and I quickly lost my erection anyway.
I’ve been wondering since whether lubrication was really so important. I really appreciate the post by “A providers opinion” confirming the overarching importance of lube.
Last question: is K-Y Jell still the stuff to have or has something better come to market?
Although there's also "Classic" by Wet which works well but Platinum is the top of the line and i've never ever experiences condom breakage back there using Platinum.
Haven't tried the WD40 or Pam (no Garage or Kitchen) sex in a while!
