I see over and over again on this board how many people are practicing DATY and BBBJ and cannot understand how people continue to take these risks. From what I have read, you can still get HIV and other STDs by engaging in this behavior. Bottom line, exchanging fluids ain't a smart thing with a provider

Also, unless I am mistaken, you can also contract HEP-C from DFK. What do you think. Is this being overly paranoid? Any good web sites where this info is presented in an unbiased and truthful manner?

And then decide what risks YOU are willing to take, and don't worry about what risks others are willing to take.

Hep B
http://www.cdc.gov/ncidod/diseases/hepatitis/b/fact.htm

Tons of info about HIV
http://www.sfaf.org/aids101/

Kissing risks
http://www.health.arizona.edu/Health%20Education%20On-Line%20Library/Sexual%20Health/kissing.htm

http://www.gayhealthchannel.com/stdmsm/behavior.shtml

Keep in mind that while all these sites point out that you can catch Herpes via kissing, 90% of Americans already have oral herpes. What you already have, you cannot catch. Don't kiss anyone with a cold sore or other icky looking sore on their mouth!  

Another point to keep in mind is that while there is some indication that you can catch HIV from oral sex (mostly the giver of oral is at risk, not the receiver), the odds are very low because the mouth is an inhospitable environment for HIV.

I've never heard of catching syphillis from kissing before, but it's easily treatable, and they mention watching out for sores for that too. I'd keep an eye out for sores in general.

Go to google and type in whatever sex act you are concerned about and "STD".  ie: "STD kissing", "STD oral sex", whatever... you'll find tons of info and can read to your hearts content so that you can make your own decisions about what risks you are willing to take.

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Nicole

so,if a male performs oral sex on female un protected you get vaginal fluids in your mouth,there is a small chance right, blood does not to have be present if you perform oral sex on a female,i need to know 100 percent if i want to do a daty

There are no guarantees in this hobby; anything can happen re transmission of disease.  Decide what level of risk you are comfortable with and then act appropriately.

No guarantees is right.  You need to do your own research on this first of all, and not trust what a stranger on a message board tells you. But if the lady is on her period the risk level skyrockets.

One lil' tidbit that may help is knowing that MANY providers have themselves tested far more frequently than your average sexually active woman does. Thus we would know sooner if we had one of those nasty lil' asymptomatic type problems and (barring having HIV) get it taken care of.

I also don't recommend brushing your teeth right before you walk into any kind of sexual activity with someone new... when you brush your teeth you create tiny tears and fissures in your mouth that can make you more susceptible. In general the mouth is an inhospitable place for HIV, so don't help it get into your system. DO please though, rinse with mouthwash, chew some gum, get your mouth nice and fresh

google.com your one stop search for anything and everything. Get busy!

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Nicole

Based on what I have read, as long as you exchange fluids, you take a risk. Has a condom ever broke on you in your life? If it does while having FS, then you have put yourself at risk. As for DATY, I personally would never do this with a stranger. I am not trying to get people alarmed - just aware that there are risks. The problem becomes more than yours if you pass something on to your spouse. Now that really would suck.