I am often amazed (and jealous) when reading posts about the relationships that develop between some clients and providers.  It seems to me that the ladies I meet are often closed off and unresponsive to a realtionship. (:>( Don't flame me here, I'm not looking for something more than the proscribed transaction. However, getting to know the other person and being able to converse outside the context of the transaction is important to my sense of intimacy. I enjoy speaking about my life's experiences as well as those of my partner. I am not afraid to share. (:>)

I guess my question is this - Is there a way of finding (without exhausting the review lists) SP's that are similarly inclined to verbal as well as physical intimacy?

Looking in Philly,

Longball

I think the key to developing that type of relationship is to just be casual and relaxed about your sessions, and find that GND type that is a good conversationalist.  I do have a strong tendency to develop close relationships with my clients that are more than business, and from my side of the relationship, I feel that just comes down to being a good listener, building a trust based on discretion and genuine caring for my clients as friends, being a good conversationalist, and being able to share some of myself as well.

From my point of view, this is the vital essense of the GFE, and what separates a true courtesan from the rest of the crowd that just advertise they are GFEs.  A true GFE is someone with whom you can naturally and subtly build a friendship beyond the transactionary level of the business.  It doesn't happen overnight, and some more quickly than others, but they are out there.  Don't give up hope of finding a special provider that you can build a terrific friendship with!  Providers are people, too.  ;^)  Those that don't seem to offer that type of friendship in the beginning may develop that way over time.  Repeat appointments are very important to building that type of relationship, and showing that provider that you aren't just there for the flavor of the week.  

My advice would be to contact a few of the gents out there like BDougherty, DCGentleman, foX, Lone Wolf, Mature Gentleman, Salty Dog (most of these are on the "other" board, sorry if I'm forgetting anyone!)... these are all well-established gents that tend toward and know the "true GFEs", and have a wealthy base of experience that might get you headed in the right direction in your area for that "true GFE," even though they are not located near you.  To be honest, Philly might be an area where a GFE may be hard to locate.

Once you find someone that you like and seems fairly personable, keep going back to see if you can build the type of closeness and repoire you are looking for.  It will take time, and you might be disappointed in having to start over if it doesn't work out, but keep on with it, and you'll find that special someone you are looking for.

Best wishes,

BJ, Palm Beach
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P.S.  If you do find someone that appeals to you, please let me know!  I know of someone in Philly that has been looking for the same type of provider for some years now.


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Wow, what a great post. I really think you got the essence down. & as an admirer of those posters (written words) you've mentioned... they really are a wealth of info, & truely enlightened gentlemen. & I think everyone could learn a little something from following their posts (& I add you to that list).

Have a great week!

Lisa

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As a man who has always sought out that kind of experience, your answer says it all.  Providers are people, and can become comfortable with certain clients.  I've been fortunate to find a couple like this, and it's a wonderful thing.

All I would add is to be yourself, listen well, show appreciation in a sincere way, and hope for the best.

tennis

I would add one thought to the foregoing.  I think that mature providers are much more likely to be open to sharing life's experiences than very young ones, perhaps because the latter have less to share.  I remind my clients that "the mind is the most important erotic organ."  That's as true for me as for them!
Abby

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1. Be nice - This should go without saying, but be extra nice to the girls you see.  Compliment her, and not just about her body and her skills.  Take care to please HER - I know you are paying, but if you want her to remember you, make her desires your primary concern. Don't write about her unless she tells you its ok.  Don't pressure her to do things she doesn't want to do.

2. Be generous - DO NOT TRY TO BARGAIN! Pay her a little extra.  Bring her gifts.  Yeah, you don't have to do this, but if you want to be one of her favorites, know that other guys are doing this.

3. Be reliable - Show up on time or be ready when she arrives.  Never cancel less than a week in advance and if you have to, offer to pay anyway.  If SHE makes you pay full freight, then she is pretty petty and YOU should move on, but you should offer.  Don't show up drunk or high.  

4. Be clean - For god's sake shower, shave and brush immediately before your visit.  Dress nicely - it shows respect.

5. Pick the right girl - Girls with a multihour minimum are almost guaranteed to be interested in a more meaningful relationship with their clients.  BTW a four hour date does not mean four hours of replicating hard-core porn, A girl needs to eat.  High volume girls, who may see 5 or more men in a single day, are not good bets.  Touring girls are not good bets.

BofP

For that kind of things it's better to book 2 hours sessions. Don't rush things, and don't start talking about yourself. Let the provider talk a little, get her on track by asking questions. You have to be ready and willing to listen first, and then one day your turn to talk will come. Also in the 2 hour session be ready to spend the first 45 minutes just talking.

If you feel some response to this attitude, when you see her again things will have improved.

This approach has worked for me several times in the past, but that's just my own experience.