i've posted reminiscences of my fabulous 2nd spouse before but a stream of consciousness moment in an earlier thread reminded me of our custom of switching who was playing dominantly: hence boy's/girl's night out.

i had been divorced a couple of years from my first wife and had known she who was to become #2 for 3 years longer than that. never played around on either but came close with #2 while still with #1.

#2 was wild. i think she could have been a top provider if she had wanted to be. but she was an artist first and a businesswoman second. she was also sexually voracious. during the time when we were just friends and i was still married it was well known she'd take on 1 or 2 guys a day in addition to always having a steady boyfriend.

we lost touch after she moved away. then i got a divorce changed jobs and found myself in the same city where she lived. we started dating and it was great.... except... i couldn't get her to O. we did everything, i tried everything.... this went on for about a year and a half and i became increasingly desparate since i wanted to deliver the goods. except for giving her the big O we thought we would have a future. we were doing boy/girl nights out as part of the program to break the O barrier.

so in one of those rare moments of analytica insight that actually did me and us some good i noticed that despite her considerable experience and my relative naivete that she was actually a bit insecure in the relationship.

she had 2nd choice complex.... she thought she was somehow inferior to spouse #1 with whom i had had children.

she also seemed to have an almost feline sense of territoriality.

so i put those two facts together and ran with it. i made and executed a plan:

1) step one was to chat with the ex about the problem and arrange to rent her place for a weekend. we had managed an extremely amicable divorce and so this was not hard.

2) step two was to declare a boys night out. this was unusual since it was usually one of us declaring it a night out for the other.

3) so we and drove to the city where i used to live with my first family. at a rest stop just outside i stopped the car and blindfolded her for the drive to my former house. parked the car and led her in to the bedroom, the bed familiar to me, stripped her except for her fur coat and heels, tied her to the bedposts and thoroughly DATYed and ravished her in mish but pulling off her blindfold as she approached her O so she could be sure where she was.

she really had a huge one. it cured her 2nd choice complex and became delightfully multiorgasmic ever after.... well until it was time to part anyway. she had marked some territory like the cat-lady she was and was damned sure that while she may have been 2nd in time she was 1st in my heart.

the things i'll do to please a lady.... anyway
my ex called after the weekend and asked if my plan had worked. both sweet girls.

pardon the random reportorial reminiscence.