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Re: When Providers Want Providers...
TheQuietStorm 261 reads
posted
1 / 27

I have paid for it for the fun of it...
But I'm not a man so that doesn't give me as much kicks as I suppose they get from it.

I don't have any problem fucking other providers I find attractive.  If they're open to meeting for drinks or partying its usually a "I'm drunk" "Me too" "Lets fuck" kind of thing.

If you're not getting a response either they don't find you attractive or you're coming off weird.

LaLaundeuxtrois 1563 reads
posted
3 / 27

More and more often I, a provider, crave the hobbyist point of view. I want to enjoy compensating a beautiful woman for her company... and yet when I scroll the ads of other providers who claim to offer services for women and send them the most polite emails, I get no response.
            As a provider, I know all the elements of an encounter a provider would idealize and would personally consciously refrain from engaging in any less-than-ideal behavior. So why the cold shoulder, ladies? Providers have needs too!

ospectacular35 10 Reviews 288 reads
posted
4 / 27

but that beats the purpose of you looking for a beautiful woman.... instead you'll get a beautiful MAN

MermaidJade See my TER Reviews 234 reads
posted
5 / 27

There are plenty of female providers who enjoy other providers. If you want to compensate them for their time then clearly state that. If you have a great reputation I'm sure you will find someone.

inicky46 61 Reviews 187 reads
posted
6 / 27

Especially in the big cities it's a great way to meet other providers who want to play.  At the ones I've been to, hot providers were cruising each other almost as heavily as they were cruising the guys.  Lots of hugs, and tongues flicking back and forth.  Fun to watch!

TrulyMsMocha See my TER Reviews 213 reads
posted
8 / 27

.... what's stopped me wanting to book time with another provider is thinking she might be freaked out that i'm a provider too.  Maybe that's the reason for the cold shoulder....they're weirded out you both "do the same thing". *shrugs*

hotplants 232 reads
posted
9 / 27

Sad commentary—but, my first reaction to this post is that you are a guy looking for titillating responses to this question. But, I’ll put my skepticism aside…..

While my impression is that women who are providers may be more open to this idea, I’ve seen more than a few puzzling responses from providers on this question. Which has led  me to understand that providers, while (predominantly woman?) tend to share the same biases and social conditioning as men (or women who are not providers) when it comes to the concept of women who would “pay for it”.  

Arbitrary silliness as far as I’m concerned. But, as a woman who can clearly see the advantage of no-strings-attached-P4P, some thoughts:

You gotta be HAWTT: I have seen ‘some’  providers (women) express the idea that the only way they would be willing to see women, is if that woman met some minimum bar of socially agreed upon “attractiveness”. Noted primarily because providers (nearly across the board) say they do not care at all about the physical attractiveness of the men they see.  As you are a provider, seems unlikely that would be a problem for you :)

You gotta be a man?  I’ve encountered a number of providers who never responded to me. Then again, so do men---so who knows whether the lack of response had anything at all to do with me being a women.

You are not the target audience: Many providers who ( I strongly suspect)  would be more than willing—even thrilled---to see women, do not actively advertise that on their websites.

You want a porn scene, right?:  And, maybe you do. A goodly number (most?) of the providers that actively advertise “girl-on-girl”?....I often get the vibe that their interest in women is much more along the lines of engaging in the  kind of interaction that [most] men find interesting.  I “get that’. But, the distinction is important if you’re not looking for “a show”.

And, why the non- response to your requests? Who knows? Any of the above could be coming into play. Or maybe none at all.  If you are a provider---I have to wonder why you would not just ask other providers? I can’t imagine a better way of getting all the back-channel info you need to find a provider who truly enjoys seeing women.

SweetCherry69 See my TER Reviews 188 reads
posted
10 / 27

That they do not respond to you. I know I have couples on my website but Im not sure if i actually put woman down.

Personally I love woman and I have a girlfriend on the side. I understand where your coming from because there are times that I just want to be with her. Snuggle cuddle and cum over and over and over again. I had a guy ask me "what makes her better then me" I said "her dick doesnt go soft" LOL

I love men too dont get me wrong I couldnt live without either.

Maybe its the way you are wording it? Possibly just say you would like to book an apointment with them? IDK why they would get weirded out. But best of luck to you darlin. I know how we can crave the soft skin and Voluptuous body of another woman.

big hugs xoxo
Cherry

Posted By: LaLaundeuxtrois
More and more often I, a provider, crave the hobbyist point of view. I want to enjoy compensating a beautiful woman for her company... and yet when I scroll the ads of other providers who claim to offer services for women and send them the most polite emails, I get no response.
            As a provider, I know all the elements of an encounter a provider would idealize and would personally consciously refrain from engaging in any less-than-ideal behavior. So why the cold shoulder, ladies? Providers have needs too!

I-masturbate-to-lucabrasi 123 reads
posted
11 / 27
Little Phil 166 reads
posted
12 / 27

I'd say that you're off base on the first reaction but probably pretty close on the rest.  I would imagine that all providers know this but in case I'm wrong, the ladies that advertise as bi run the gamut from "Ooooh" to "Ewwww".  I know quite a few that have profiles indicating that they'll see women as part of a couple who cringe at the thought of going down there, and a few that only would fuck a guy for money.  So, it seems that ladies face the same thing as guys do when it comes to finding a great partner for the evening...you have to separate the marketing from the bullshit.

hotplants 143 reads
posted
13 / 27

Good to know I'm not offering a thoughtful response to a complete wanker...lol...

And...  a nod to a lovely, delightfully BS free minx---who knows who she is :)

Oceansfun 12 Reviews 162 reads
posted
14 / 27

Buy I say this in the nicest way possible...take a purple chill pill and give the OP the benefit of the doubt. Surely our good mods LP and GG wouldn't let some schlub come in here and pretend to be a lesbian/bi woman.  This is a fuck board with chacacters, not some sleazy adult video forum filled with mutual stories of spank-o-vision.  Other than that, I agree with you.

hotplants 129 reads
posted
15 / 27
TheQuietStorm 162 reads
posted
16 / 27

You have absolutely zero interest in getting drunk and fucking someone "whom [you] barely know"?

But you do have an interest in handing over an envelope of cash to fuck someone you barely know?

Shut up, hypocrite - you don't sound smarter or more evolved than anyone with an else with an opinion in this dress.

I was speaking very casually and very generally.
I'm a few years removed from the sorority - I'm attractive, I'm smart, I know what I like and women I'm drawn to are comparable me.  Yeah I like to go out and have a couple, dance and have casual sex.  How exactly is that a problem?

Oh and yes, if a PROVIDER  makes a genuine request to another PROVIDER and she ignores it yeah we should assume that either a) the receiving provider doesn't find her attractive or b) the request rings strange (like a trap, like a fishing expedition, like a "I'd love to play with you....do you mind if my husband watches because I'm desperately trying to save my lame relationship").

Where is my opinion based on this one?  YEARS of experience of other providers contacting me.

You'd bet I'd never say the same of a man?

Get off it - I absolutely would if we were talking about male ESCORTS seeking other male ESCORTS.

Just because you're a female don't trip because you can't understand the dynamics of provider to provider contact. MOST of us are not going to play with with any provider we don't find attractive of entertaining for free, MOST of us are not going to respond to appointment requests that don't ring as genuine...and being that most of us are here to get paid....we're not going to leave money on the table for appointment requests which seem genuine.

Go take your bullshit somewhere else.

TheQuietStorm 130 reads
posted
17 / 27
TheQuietStorm 158 reads
posted
18 / 27

The standards I hold women I have casual sex with are a great deal higher than the standards I hold them to when I date in my personal life.

I've dated beautiful women, I've dated average women in my personal life.  I've fucked ugly female clients, I've fucked beautiful female clients....but no, I will not knowingly choose to fuck an ugly female provider even if money is on the table.

Why?  I can afford not to endure someone I know I won't like and I can afford to avoid allowing another professional to observe the intricacies of my business or my processes.

As someone who truly loves women and knows of other providers who do as well but are equally picky in terms of which other providers they will spend time with - women are not men point blank.  No matter how you try remind us of the flaws or double standards of the thought process of bisexual women you can't say anything that trumps my instinct.  
I am a woman so I require more of women in terms of attraction and the triggers that I experience in bed with a woman are completely different than when I'm with a man.

cutehunkie 70 Reviews 144 reads
posted
19 / 27

Maybe they think you want to work with them for a 2-girl show, and they wan to work alone ?

hotplants 145 reads
posted
20 / 27

That type of scenario is EXACTLY what eventually led me to P4P.

Been there. Done that. Done it again. And again. And you know what? It just 'ain't all it's cracked up to be. At this stage of my life, I have absolutely zero interest in getting drunk, and fucking someone whom I barely know. Mazel tov to those who do. Not my business.

And do note the operative word here is "drunk" not "stranger". None the less---I've had as many completely anonymous drunk zipless fucks as I care to.

If a woman is making a genuine request to a provider--and she gets no response---she should assume she is unattractive, or is "coming off weird?" That's the exact shit that I hear from providers that just boggles my mind.

good bet---you would never say the same to a man.


Drunk³ 112 reads
posted
21 / 27
Little Phil 139 reads
posted
22 / 27

Just because this isn't an example of it doesn't mean I wouldn't.  Hell, think of all the impersonations that go on here.  Guys pretending to be hookers, women pretending to be pathetic johns, some of you dumb asses pretending to be human...you get my point.  If we had to verify that everyone was who they claim to be, nothing would get approved.

I guess that makes hotplants a pretty cool chick.  Perhaps a cool pretty chick as well, but I'll hold off until scoed posts her picture.  :)

Oceansfun 12 Reviews 106 reads
posted
23 / 27

Good point and where is Juggs Judy when you need her to rule in on these kind of things?

BstyBlndEscort See my TER Reviews 131 reads
posted
25 / 27

I agree. Not responding is just rude. I have provided for other providers. It was a fun experience and I would do it again.

LaLaundeuxtrois 119 reads
posted
26 / 27

The only motivation I have is to enjoy the same luxury of an experience with a lovely girl as a hobbyist enjoys. Where two people can make a connection and have a blast without the awkwardness of a civillian date. Is that so wrong? I'm definitely not unattractive (get a lot of 10's), kind, and *very* sensitive to the position of the provider, but maybe I'm going after the wrong demographic of provider? or I'm too young so my requests seem unlikely? Is it because providers think women are more high maintenence or we take longer to get off? Should I not disclose that I'm a provider myself?

LaLaundeuxtrois 110 reads
posted
27 / 27

Yeah? Excellent!
   Would you PM me for a chat, BstyBlnd?
Excitedly,
moi

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