You stated: I started in this industry very late in life compared to most ladies, so luckily I have other skill sets.
What you may not be conscious of is this sounds as if you feel some of the younger providers don't have any skill sets. I would be careful with the generalizations as many do.
Per your question, I have been in this life off and on here and there over a few years and when I graduate from grad school next spring, I'm done and gone. I've held other jobs before, have degrees from a prestigious university, lots of internship time and am published in a variety of journals and places within my field. It's my expectation that with the Master's degree and the quality of references and experience I have, I'll be able to get a great corporate job. While I'm not thrilled about the 9 to 5 bit, if it's something that I enjoy, I fully expect to adjust to the lifestyle of a normal working person.
As for success stories, I know a girl who used to provide. She quit one day because she'd gotten way too much attention and was outed at work (she was also a waitress.) She packed up and moved and ended up finding the love of her life, marrying, getting pregnant and finding a new career that despite her lack of education or work experience outside of the waitressing arts, she excelled at. She's doing quite well and I love to hear about her much more normal exploits these days. We still keep in touch.
Katie
The thread below on “retirement” got me to thinking. Many ladies retire only to get back into the lifestyle a few weeks, months or years later. I know most have the best of intentions, but life doesn't always work the way we have planned.
When I initially got into the business, over 6 ½ years ago, I thought I would only do it for a year. Take a break from Corporate America and check out from the real world and the stress of life.
I have had an amazing life and yet I still wonder when it will all end. As I get older, I wonder what will the future hold for me. It will be difficult to go back to a real job. That would break my spirit! I guess I’ll have to continue to be an entrepreneur to maintain the lifestyle I have grown accustomed to. I started in this industry very late in life compared to most ladies, so luckily I have other skill sets.
I get to see the best of men. They’re dressed up and on their best behavior. Someday I would like a quasi normal relationship. I can’t tell a man in the real world what I have been doing for a living the past 6 ½ years. They don’t understand. I tried once, and he couldn’t fathom that I had been with hundreds of men.
An ideal relationship for me would be to have a lover! I don’t know how often I would see this lover, once a week, once a month, or maybe even less. Hummm, maybe an occasional or distant lover so to speak. I don’t think I could handle a live-in type of relationship. I need my own space and free time. I want it to be special every time we meet; knowing its not realistic, but this is what I want. A lover who adores me, understands what I do for a living, and accepts me unconditionally.
Over the years, I have only seen a couple of relationships work with escorts and hobbyists. It’s rare! So my question to the board is where do the ladies go when they retire? Are they now in a normal relationship? Are they now, in business for themselves? Did they invest wisely? What happens to ladies when they finally retire their garter belts? Any success stories?
I've seen so many ladies re-enter the industry after a short retirement. I wonder if a normal life is ever possible again. Not sure that I want normal.............but I often ponder the thoughts.
When I decided to retire 5 years ago it was for he same reason a lot of ladies retire....I met someone. I was acutally one of the lucky ones and the relatonship has lasted and we got married last September. I knew before I met him that I wanted to be done and had my plan to retire before the end of 2003. Meeting him just moved up my timeline.
But that being said, after being in the industry for 5 years prior I found it very hard to give it all up. Not the sex per say, but the people in general. That is when I kicked my web design business into high gear. It has allowed me to keep in contact with all of those I knew and loved and still maintain my life outside the hobby.
I have found over the years in talking to some of the ladies that they retire on impulse, they meet a client and on the surface it is heaven. They post their retirement only to announce their re-entry sometimes as soon as 6 months later. So many just want to have someone to call their own, but while the fantasy plays out well in business, most of the time it doesn't play as well in reality.
There is also the lure of the money. When you are able to pull down a grand a week or just pay your bills on a regular basis without the duty of a 9-5 grind, 5 days a week, well that in itself is a big reason to head back in. And there are still those who just love the thrill of meeting someone new and living the fantasy.
Women who post ther "un-retirement" will always be comman place here. To speculate why anyone comes back is just impossible. Their reasons are as wide and varied as their reasons for getting in. That being said it would make an interesting study in behavior. *wink*
xoxoox
Valyrie formerly, The Celtic Lass
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Cherish your happiness--I can't think of anyone who deserves it more. And the love is very evident in this picture.
Valyrie,
Thanks for sharing your story! I really like to hear about happy endings.
Mr. and Mrs. Fisher are another example. Except Mrs. Fisher has not retired. Rather living happily with Mr. Fisher has her very special friend and lover.
I wonder if Mr. Fisher has a brother? hehe
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Ms. Fisher (We are lovers but not married.)
And yes, I have many brothers but they are all, alas, taken.
You're a very Blessed indeed....or as we say ~ BLESSED BE!lol Much luv & respect - Kelly Nicole
In a relationship or otherwise, the garter always helps....*S*
Obviously I can't answer your question but it did prompt an allied question:
What would the ladies (who talk amongst themselves) estimate is the average (and I know there is wide variation) of staying in the providing business is?
Is 3 years, 5 years 10 years.....more? My feeling is that 5 would be a reasonable guess for an averag.
G
I believe I am one who can prove that there is life after being in the business. I started in '98 with specific goals and retired in 2000 to
focus on personal development and attaining credibility in the civilian world. I returned in 2001 and then went into semi-retirement in 2005.
I have been happily enjoying life in the mainstream while walking a fine line on still enjoying the perks and benefits of good friends that were made in the biz.
I'm not sure if I will ever cut off all ties because I have had a close and intimate friendship with at least a half dozen or so clients who I feel will always have some place in my life. Of course if they decide to call it quits I will happily kiss them and walk away, I just don't see that happening anytime soon.
The providers that I have known over the years who work with a specific goal in mind and a game-plan to attain that goal usually walk away happy. The perks and the benefits that are afforded to a woman in the biz will always be a lure to entertain old friends and enjoy the benefits. I just feel that once a provider is dependent on her income from a career path outside of the business and once the majority of her time is consumed with activities outside of the hobby, walking away just becomes a natural avenue.
I personally would never end my enjoyment of the hobby or base any of my decisions on another individual, whether it be male or female. I have taken ownership of the choices I make and enjoy the lifestyle that I've attained by using the business as a spring board to my own goals. You might find, in time, that once you have become established and have ventured into other areas of the business world which were afforded to you through the business, men aren't as challenged by your part in the hobby. I have found that men who are successful in their own right are not intimidated or threatened by a woman who has attained her own independence and achievements.
I've personally known at least a dozen women who have taken the same path and all are happy with the outcome. While a common belief is that providers are never happy and never get out of the business, I just haven't found that to be the truth. Perhaps it is because most providers start stepping away and then just disappear that the general public doesn't focus on those cases as much as the women who scream about their misfortune. When used effectively, the business has tremendous potential to help women attain goals through avenues that they would not have otherwise had the ability to achieve. Each individual case probably has it's own story but I have witnessed enough of the success to have it outweigh the misfortune and poor planning that seems to be in the spotlight so often.
As with any profession, I feel the success of the individual goes hand-in-hand with their plan of action, their level of commitment and their dedication to their own success. The only difference is that in this business, a woman has the ability to determine her own fate.
Best wishes and kisses ~Tori (*formerly known as Tori Of Atlanta*)
You stated: I started in this industry very late in life compared to most ladies, so luckily I have other skill sets.
What you may not be conscious of is this sounds as if you feel some of the younger providers don't have any skill sets. I would be careful with the generalizations as many do.
Per your question, I have been in this life off and on here and there over a few years and when I graduate from grad school next spring, I'm done and gone. I've held other jobs before, have degrees from a prestigious university, lots of internship time and am published in a variety of journals and places within my field. It's my expectation that with the Master's degree and the quality of references and experience I have, I'll be able to get a great corporate job. While I'm not thrilled about the 9 to 5 bit, if it's something that I enjoy, I fully expect to adjust to the lifestyle of a normal working person.
As for success stories, I know a girl who used to provide. She quit one day because she'd gotten way too much attention and was outed at work (she was also a waitress.) She packed up and moved and ended up finding the love of her life, marrying, getting pregnant and finding a new career that despite her lack of education or work experience outside of the waitressing arts, she excelled at. She's doing quite well and I love to hear about her much more normal exploits these days. We still keep in touch.
Katie
Katie, I am sure you could garner some excellent references from some of the folks here on TER!