I’ve played for a lot of years and heard a lot of comments from providers  … and I’ve always known 99% of what they were telling me was pure BS.  While I always tried to stay physically fit, I was average.  And while I could almost always maintain an erection, I damn sure wasn’t hung like a horse.  And I damn sure wasn’t ever mistaken for any hot guy.
So when a lady tried to tell me how sexy I was or … I knew it was BS.  She was hoping to entice me to see her again to make more money.
It amazes me how many guys fall for it.  
When I still new to the game, A well seasoned monger taught me the “4F rule” for mongers (and the concurrent “4F rule” for providers).  I’ve never forgotten it as it was the best advice I ever got.
For guys:  Find Her.  Flatter her.  Fuck her.  Forget her.
And the Providers version:  Find him. Flatter him. Fleece him.  Forget him.

Escorts will give their real name when they want you to zelle them money...or even a child's real name and phone number if the escort's  own account is overdrawn and she is desperate for quick cash.  This is a level of trust I never would have expected.

But also, how true. I always tell guys that when she looks at you she sees a wallet with legs.
That said, I've met a lot of working girls over the years who were pretty genuine and we've become friends, but within limits. The problems come when you presume to step over those boundaries and assume there's more there than actually exists.

I feel differently. I think you should cherish good memories and learn from bad ones.  

Yes, and,
All women, including civilians, learn to get what they want/need from men.
Usually women want security,  
and men want sex.
Let the Games begin.
I mean, Carry On!

I agree that their flatter usually isn't honest.  But in fairness, I don't think you can entirely attribute their white lies to greed for your money.  They also might be giving you false compliments simply because they're nice people and want to make you feel good.

A little flattery, kindness,  politeness,  interest in others is how every service industry works, not to mention most casual other relationships.

50 bucks say !! UR a SSSSP  (Street-Smart Sweet and Savvy Provider)..

none of this is real. We pay for the illusion and the physical. This is not much different than any other purchased service or the advertising that goes with it (leaving aside the legal aspects and the expected lack or legal recourse to disputes). It's also not much different in terms of how the two sides relate -- both generally act in ways that best get them what they are looking for from the transaction.

Honesty? You want honesty?
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My hostesses usually greet me with a disappointed look on their face.  Then say that they only meet with handsome gentlemen but in my case, they'll make an exception.  
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Early on in the session, they usually say that they prefer to perform our activities covered and ask me if I'm OK with that. Of course, I agree. Then they give me a brown paper bag with eye-hole cutouts to put over my head.  
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However, I think they really like me a lot and are afraid of falling for me, big time. As I leave, they thank me for visiting but say that it's probably best if they never have to see me again.

is if she says she prefers doggie and wants to stay that way.

ummm.

Agree 100% !  Been doing this for many decades now and so am 'up there' in years.  I've had several long term relationships with providers that have turned in to friendships (well - sort of).  Through all of that, I have never found a single one to be 100% honest.  Many have given me their real names, family info and background, etc. but each and every one has lied to me at some point or another.  A good example -- I had a 10+ year relationship with a provider that I would see probably at least 5-6 times a year with a number of our meetings being for overnight.  A couple of years after she left the business, I found out that she had a daughter - purely by accident while looking at Facebook posts.  Probably had the child when she was in her late teens.  We 'dated' from the time she was 20 until about 31-32 and she confided much in me.  I even helped her write part of the copy she used on her website.  Anyway, I think we can be very naïve in this area.

I don’t want it; you misread the message.  But it’s a fact of life.  While there are certainly a few ethical ladies who don’t fleece clients,  there are many who will tell a monger whatever she thinks he wants to hear in hopes of sucking more money out of his wallet.  That’s my definition of fleece..

I would respectfully argue that it isn’t trust, it’s desperation.

Perfectly said.  And, I lie/embellish constantly to providers.  I tell them all how pretty and sexy they are, how they rocked my world like nobody else and how I can't wait to see them again.   And, I bet 99% believe me.  It goes both ways, at least for me.

Every time they tell me they’re cumming or my dick is big, it’s got to be true!

I take your comment that 99% believe you as satire and thus good humor.  If it wasn’t satire…

You forgot:
4real4real!

Missed that 4 real  LOL

The compliments are obvious lies, comically so, usually.  That's annoying, but the sadder part is that when they appear to let down their guard and share their more natural side, you know if the meter wasn't running, they wouldn't be giving you the time of day.  

but not always. There’s ways you can tell if compliments from a provider are genuine.  One is if you’ve had the same compliments from people who aren’t taking your money or have some other reason for puffery.  Another is if it’s unlikely the provider will get any more of your money, eg she’s retiring from the business or moving far away very soon.

When I book a session, I’m looking for hot sex, not honesty! I couldn’t care less what the girl says to me! As long as she’s hot and sexy, and she legitimately attempts to satisfy my sexual desires for the hour, I’m a happy man! I usually tip if I feel the girl has given the effort, and I probably tip 90% of the time! This is sexual fantasy so anything goes! Honesty shouldn’t be part of the conversation or expectation for either party!

Reading your note, it sounds as though you’ve been embittered by some recent personal experience. I think one of the first things we learned about empirical research is to not assume your experience is universal. I can’t speak for other players, but the obvious anger in your note makes it hard to relate.

I feel your pain!

Escorts are professionals. We are human beings with feelings, but we understand that a date with a client is not about our feelings. I am inclined to feel fondly for and empathize with my clients because they show up on time, have good hygiene, pay my amount in full, and treat me with respect. Of course I want repeat business, I run a business!

You have a great point. I've been asked by a couple of clients if I wanted to date them outside of hobbying so obviously there are men who don't understand that is a p4p service, not a dating service.

The resentment in OP’s original note seems like an overreaction to a simple and not unkind thing that women in P4P do.  The gentlemen making a big deal of it doth protest too much.
If the car dealer compliments my tie I figure (1) he’s buttering me up a bit, (2) he’s just finding something nice to say, (3) he recognizes good taste in cravats when he sees it, (4) and/or all the above. In any event it’s nothing to get upset about. Just relax and enjoy the new car, pussy or whatever else you’re looking for that day.

Then why do so many guys always say  things like "suck that big dick"  or "yeah baby, you like fucking that big cock don't ya"  when they know it's not???  

"And for the guys who are deluded, why do you care? As long as your eyes are open, why do you care if some schmucks buy the sales pitch hook, line and sinker?  How does that detract from your fun?
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Would Chris Evans’ and Chris Hemsworth’s love child also be named Chris?

A self-assessment like that which is obviously inaccurate it likely a form of role play.  They are living out a fantasy.
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So why is that different than getting fake compliments?  Well for one thing it is not a self-assessment, it is an assessment by an outsider.  Secondly it may or may not jive with their current fantasy scenario.
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I find fake compliments off-putting and often cringy in their denial of reality.  So a guy with a small dick insisting that his cock is huge is just a fantasy he himself is experiencing.  But telling a guy who knows he has a small dick that it is huge is just reminding him that you've noticed how small it is.  See the difference?

I said “deluded” not defrauded. You understand the difference right?

I feel like since flattery is a lie, the delusion stems from a lie which is deception either way, whether or not it's hyperbolic or subtle.  

You probably need to expand on that a bit to make clear just what you're saying.

than a bartender flirting with me for a bigger tip? It's like any other personal service. You get told a little BS so you return as a customer. Who cares?

I don't agree with the "forget them" part. If it's good the first time around I don't want to forget her. I wanna go back. Sex ain't ever great the first time, I don't care if you're a stud or she's a goddess. It'll get really good like the 3rd time. Providers are great for that reason, it's like having FWB without the risk of emotions getting involved.

Whether good, bad, or indifferent, I want to remember all those times.

You should be happy anyone is giving you any compliments. I bet your alot of fun at parties.

If the purpose of this forum is to prompt discussion / discourse, then this topic achieved that purpose.  Many interesting perspectives.

Most people have a pretty good idea of how they look, and guys are certainly keenly aware of the size of their dicks. The seasoned monger quoted here, sounds as cynical as the OP. If her comments bother you that much, ask her stop. But you're engaging in a fantasy when you see an escort, where's the harm in her complimenting you as part of her service. And if you repeat(s) isn't she doing her job and doing it well ?

who can't take a compliment because he knows he sucks. A lot of escorts are just regular girls who like sex and realized they could make a living having it. Full stop. Not too many have the capacity for the deceiving, duplicitous, hustling bullshit you're alleging. It's exhausting. I thought the lying jezebelle trope died decades ago. Shocking that this review board is stuck in the 70s.  

Most guys in the P4P fantasy world think they are sexier and better in bed than they really are because, as you say, they fall for the marketing flattery.  It's refreshing to hear from a guy that knows he's no prize for the ladies and doesn't bullshit himself or others.  

And were just trying to "coach" you up...ever thought about that?
Bottom line, take it for it is, it's all part of the game...

Amazed at the breadth and depth of thought in some of the replies.. though there were some replies that wouldn’t have wetted the tops of ones feet.  This is what makes the forum fun

The final postscript… the original question of why guys believe escorts didn’t come from the guy who posted it … it came from his girlfriend who was a very successful escort ( over 90 reviews on this site) and who would  readily admitted her “job” was to tell a guy whatever he wanted to hear..  cause that was what got her tips and repeat business.  And she was VERY frustrated by all the fake reviews written about her on TER.

God gave man a brain and a penis, but only enough blood to run one at a time.

Wait she was frustrated by fake reviews resulting from her lying to people? Really? Like she made the experience seem more personal than it was and then didn't like that it had the desired effect. Psycho!

No.
She was frustrated by reviews written by guys who NEVER saw her.
Get a clue .. TER is full of reviews written by guys who randomly write reviews on escorts they’ve never seen just so they can 15 days of full access.

"who would  readily admitted her “job” was to tell a guy whatever he wanted to hear..  cause that was what got her tips and repeat business.  And she was VERY frustrated by all the fake reviews written about her on TER."

LOL