I can't seem to find the list of talked to death subjects around here and I didn't lurk first so if anyone can point that out, great.    Sorry if this is one, I can't seem to get much from the search function yet.

http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=660805&boardID=12&page=#660805

just to be clear, I wasn't planning on doing it, I never have before, this just seems different because I know she's low volume and counts on my cash.  I'm sure there's no personal feelings either way. just wondering if maybe i should let her know for planning purposes, thanks  

attrition both in case of hookers losing clients, and clients losing hookers is the norm.

she is right at the end of her career and just needs a few more months to finish school, it's understood we are regulars, but no real spoken agreement other than we like seeing each other. I will feel shitty if I just ignore her, sorry. This isn't about me, it would be a lot easier for me to do nothing.  

If you just said something to the effect that you are very glad that you had a chance to get to know her and leave the "I won't be comin' round no more" part just hinted at or understood, it would be a gracious way to good-bye.

Seriously dude.. You will have far better hobbying experience if you stop playing Capt "Save-A-Ho" and just do what gives you most satisfaction in bed...  

When people say they don't 'need' your business, sure, they like it, but there are many other guys who will P4P. (Depending on her price range.)

lol, no she doesn't have any of my money, what sort of an idiot would pay ahead??? What do you take me for ;

and I'm not talking about the government. No Strings Attached, that why many of us do this. No break up letters required. Clients come and go all the time, as do escorts. Just move on. If you can't seem to move, try a round of sport fucking. That should do the trick.

we don't have much contact at all , she is extremely busy so we've gotten where we email each other when we are free. She is she is sure contact me as usual. I have to answer or ignore.

maybe you just skimmed the thread, I have moved on,  I just dont want to be a jerk to a girl I like, wtf is the big deal about this??

If you've been seeing some gal regularly for like a year or more, believe it or not, she might worry that something happened to you if you just all of a sudden stop calling. Yes, some providers actually do care about people they have been seeing for so long, because friendships are formed. If I were you, I would WAIT for her to contact you asking "Are you ok?" I can bet you, that is exactly what's going to happen if you do nothing.  

He is not talking about a courtesy email. It seems that he is truly torn that he can't see her because of whatever reason and desperately wants to convey it.  If it were a truly courtesy email, I bet you he would not have titled the thread BREAK UP LETTER.. Its clear that he is making this out to be more than it is.  Go back and read the post. He is feeling guilty for not being able to see her...lol

and tell her what the deal is. If she doesn't don't worry about it. Suspect that regulars drop off the map all the time.

She calls and texts you- whereby you can drop a btw, you ARE the shit, not WERE- don't say anything and definitely don't break up.

It's just the NSA facts-of-life.

Because he saw the pound of flesh we took from springer89.

Well in that case, save it. Christ. We don't care WHY you don't want to see us again.. really, we don't. If you've all of a sudden developed some puppy dog type affection/adoration, I really don't care! I do not want a married man or ANY client that has paid to fk me, thinking about me in any other way besides a fk... in fact, I find that highly offensive to both his wife and myself! That's just the brutal truth.  

Why are you taking this personally...my little hooktard..

"I won't be able to see you anymore. It's been a blast and I wish you all the best." Done.

Do whatever you want to (isn't that what this hobby is all about anyway?).
If you want to say, "hey, just a quick note to let you know..." then go for it.
Stop the hand-wringing, be decisive, "own" your decisions.
If YOU later see mistakes in your actions, then learn from them - and move on.
Don't overthink things like this

OP, you're the only one here who knows you, her, and the nature of your interactions with her.  There are no laws or rules here.  If it feels right to you to let her know, then do it.  Who cares what anyone else thinks?

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I'm afraid you don't seem to be listening. I don't feel guilty. She wont care, except for the money, she openly admitted in the 1st 5 min on the first date that she was only seeing me because she needed the money and would quit at the first opportunity. she will completely understand.  
I want to do nothing, its the easy way out.  
I only titled it "break up letter" because people in the other thread were calling it that.

that's pretty much what it would be, she won't care at all why or be upset either, in all my deals with her we have have never had a an email longer than 2 sentences, I doubt this one would be different.

If you have been seeing a woman regularly, you enjoyed your time with her, connections were made, and maybe even a friendship formed, I do not see any harm in sending a nice note thanking her and wishing her all the best.  If the shoe was on the other foot, she was retiring or something, wouldn't you want to know rather than her dropping completely off the map and your emails ignored or bounced back. Frankly, I see it as a nice courtesy.

the other lady was 7 years ago when I was a newbie, this is current events

In a community, people are bound to think differently.

Than the other thread. You guys have been seeing each other on a regular basis, correct? And thing have been going well? In that case, a nice "my circumstances have changed, but I'm so glad that I was able to meet you" note wouldn't be out of line, and would be welcome, I think. If we seemed to have really clicked and then you suddenly drop off, we do wonder if you're ok, or even if we were the ones who caused the relationship to end.  

The changed circumstances don't matter at all here, she wont care and I wont tell her. Truth is I've moved on and found the girls who will occupy me for the foreseeable future. /

The test might be: Did she give the unemployed guy a sympathy session or two? Or dump him like a hot potato? Probably the poor guy lost his job & his pussy on the same day!

Did they write the farewell letter in blood,  or deposit something on your face to get the message through?

This is what I had planned to do before reading the other thread, then decided to just let it go, it would be easier and maybe better?  But I expect this email anytime and it feels like I should say something. idk   thanks for the input

You were not in a 'real' LTR, you were not boyfriend/girlfriend.  It sounds to me like it should be more of a 'Bon Voyage" letter if any thing...

Very poor choice of words.

I've developed a rapport with this guy on the boards named AnotherDonJohn, and I'm thinking that maybe before I go I should send him an email just to let him know that he won't be seeing me on the board anymore, and... Well, what do folks think?

some perspective: When I was at lunch with my brothers on Saturday, the cute waitress was flirting openly with me. I had to leave before they did, so I picked up the check and left a 20 dollar tip for the waitress on the table. I'm afraid that one of my dumbass brothers thought  it was a mistake and picked it up, since the bill was less than 40 bucks, and left a not like UncleBill sort of tip.  I care more about the girl in this story, but have been more worried about the tip for the waitress, lol

you will learn that what you see is what you get with me, I think it's quite pointless to BS in any way, unless it's about fishing, tuning secrets or if some chick wants to know my "real name". lol

I dunno what you are talking about, what business?  

You're welcome.
I think some of the other late replies here are good too.
I look at everything this way - just be yourself, while at the same time trying to understand the realities of this hobby.
Only you have to live with the consequences of your decisions in this hobby - not anyone else on this board.
Try to be a decent guy, and trust your own judgement.
I say this because this is what I've done in my short one year in the hobby.
Have I made a mistake or two?
Maybe, but I have no regrets - because I treat people with respect.

A Fav provider I've seen periodically over 5 years...  decided to retire.  She picked up my last call & informed me she had gotten a day job & would not be offering services in the future.  I'm sad to see her go because I enjoyed her services & we became friendly acquaintances.

we host a big M&G, maybe in NYC (although not organized by GED), where the departing member fronts the cash,

Obviously not much thinking. Courtney hit it right on the head!

And you still asked this question? Do you enjoy being laughed at and insulted?

I just saw the term "break up letter" and it fit what I was thinking about.
 

Posted By: 89Springer

And you still asked this question? Do you enjoy being laughed at and insulted?

Nothing says you don't care like singing the cover of an overcovered love ballad.

Posted By: UncleBill54

I can't seem to find the list of talked to death subjects around here and I didn't lurk first so if anyone can point that out, great.    Sorry if this is one, I can't seem to get much from the search function yet.  
   
 I agree writing a letter to tell a provider you've been seeing regularly all the things she did wrong and why you wont see her anymore is stupid and should be avoided.  
 What if it was a positive experience for both, but circumstances changed and you wouldn't be calling her anymore.  I feel like I want to tell her what a good time I had with her and I'm sorry I wont be seeing her and it has nothing to do with her. I can't fathom what a provider would think though, clue me in. thanks

The elaborate lie with his wife was because he's a nice guy and wanted to spare your feelings.

what you feel is best and not worry about what everyone else thinks?

Since you've been seeing her somewhat regularly, she deserves a goodbye.  

What will happen will happen whether you fret over it or not.

succeeded in grasping the stone from my hand!

Hookt-rd

...Sank that into TSLA, NFLX, DIS, and your fav ETF like TS.

Or, how many times did you see the client ?  3 visits? 10?

…there's nothing wrong with saying goodbye. It's preferable, actually. And all you have to say is something like: "Hey xxx. I've enjoyed spending time with you over the years, and while I won't be able to see you anymore due to a few circumstances, I want you to know that if things change, I'll be in touch for more sexy fun and good memories with you. Take care. - xxx

Escorts contacting clients is frowned upon, so while some ladies do it, many don't and he would just be waiting and waiting for her "are you ok" email.

and you see ladies taking advantage of the easy marketing posts all the time; she doesn't. I don't advertise here (so no worries about marketing), but will echo her sentiments; I think she's genuine. Some of the other posts (threADs), I don't agree w/ and totally see them as insincere and marketing.

I received the expected email this morning and emailed back saying I won't be seeing her anymore, sorry and thanks for a good time. Without the input here, I most likely would have made a bigger production out of it and made it worse all around.

Her emailing me only developed because we were having a hard time scheduling. Since she is like 100 times more busy than me, it made sense and I suggested it. Only one other girl ever emailed me for a date and it turned out she had a drug issue.  

Posted By: WondersOfTheWrld

Escorts contacting clients is frowned upon, so while some ladies do it, many don't and he would just be waiting and waiting for her "are you ok" email.  
   
 PS. Nice to see you here

We are not talking about cold calling some dude you've only seen a few times, but if I have been talking and seeing a guy for a year, damn right I am going to wonder if he got hit by a truck, if his wife found out, etc. if he all of a sudden is dead silent. Truth be told, there were only about five guys who would fall into that LTR category, so we are not talking about 50 guys here.

I still would never send them an unsolicited email, except for one client (friend) who I see for overnights at least once a month (typically more). We email nightly, so if time went by and I hadn't heard from him, I'd probably reach out. But I wouldn't do that w/ all my clients (friends). And I'm not talking cold calling either. It's just ingrained in me not to email my long-term clients (friends) first. I just don't do it b/c I've always allowed them to reach out to me on their terms and that won't ever change for me. I was being playful in my initial post to you b/c I know there are ladies who call and text b/c they need money, but if we're being serious, it's just not my style unless I already talk to a dude everyday. And I don't do that w/ most of my clients (friends). But in the OP case, it appears the OP said that's how they do things and I respect that. I actually missed that point, otherwise I wouldn't have made the joke. And yes, literally every single one of my clients (or friends) have been around for 5+ years, so I don't do the 50 guy thing, not that there's anything wrong w/ that in my eyes. more power to escorts who handle their biz the way the see fit and make as much money possible. Now off to enjoy some more vodka. have a good night xoxoxoxoxo