I've been seeing a lady, my ATF for 4 years now. We see each other 3 or 4 times a year for weekends and usually a one week vacation. She knows everything about me, but she has told me little of her private life other than stories that often create questions. I've always respected that. But, recently while doing some research related to my job, I stumbled on to her real name and other information including her facebook page. I now know that she's married, has kids, and where she lives (over 1,000 miles away). I don't want to stalk her, out her, or do anything to harm her. I will be seeing her next week while I am away on business. She'll be spending two nights with me. My fear is that I will have difficulty keeping a straight face when she tells me about her fairy tale life. Should I tell her what I know?

If she chooses to lie about her personal life why do you care as long as she fucks your brains out that's all that should matter

Even if the way you found out about her is as innocent as you say, she'll probably not believe you and will think (with some justification) you've been peeking into her life.  So if you value your relationship with her, just STFU.

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Let alone every page she's on?

I never pry for providers' real info or stalk them. I could care less about real names and backgrounds when spending an hour or two in p4p. However I would never spend a weekend, or a week or travel with a lady without us both knowing each other's real info.

Hell that's longer than most average marriages LOL. You must be really gullible. And yes, she deserves to know the truth now that you know for her own safety. Approach it sensitively, but approach it most definitely. Realize you could lose her...but also maybe not. Maybe you'll lift the 'fantasy' weight off her shoulders and she can be herself with you and it can be even better. Who knows.....but 4 years she's been playing a fantasy with you and you had no idea?  

sounds like you've been Internet stalking her.  

No I was not internet stalking her. The name I was researching happened to be the same as her maiden name. There's no similarity at all between her real name and her escort name. And, while we've spent weeks together, we've never traveled to the location together-we are 1,000 miles apart. She's never had to show an ID in my presence.

and claim you don't know her real name...OK.  Seems a bit far-fetched to believe you wouldn't have asked her on that first week-long trip in the event you needed to assist with something.  But I'll play along and pretend that this isn't just a troll post.

for some reason and 'her' name popped up? I will assume the only way you would've known if it was on Linkedin or something with a photo and if it was actually 'job' related...how else would you have known.  

So she meets you somewhere (presumably for a week or so)...and fortunately she hasn't had any issues that might have required you to intervene.

If any fool would take a woman on a vacation (presumably for a week as well) and NOT know who the fuck she really is...

and I have been battling heads for a few weeks now LOL. Ya wanna wrestle CPA????

...I think it would be in the best interests of both parties to cut each other loose and move on. You don't even need to give her a legitimate reason why, since you don't see/spend time with each other day-to-day.

'voluntarily' send a photo/website etc etc to me at some point during our conversation. They are more than comfortable in letting me know who they are.  

hope its not you ... xoxo

Yea, I figured no one would believe how I found here but it happened as I searched the images associated with a name. So, I will see her next week and I won't tell her what I know. But I do need to ask her what I would do if she got sick or injured and I had to intervene. And yes, I was stupid of me to spend that much time with her without knowing the answer to that question.

BACKCHANNELING Mr. Black which you claim you don't do...remember?  

why would I ask these guys who I should fuck ? think about it ? exactly , lol

Posted By: TaylorSteele

BACKCHANNELING Mr. Black which you claim you don't do...remember?  
   
 

deniro in heat ... xoxo ...  

ou googled her and she was too dumb to realize her provider info. connected back to her real info. Probably used the same email, phone number or photos on one too many sites that got crossed. Just stop seeing her. It's obvious after 4 freaking years, you are more of a couple vs. a provider and a client so either back off or ask her to marry you, after she leaves her husband lol.

Some providers create a 'fairy tale' bio in order to protect their privacy.  It goes right along with their stage name etc.  I would not tell her what you know.  Her life outside your time together is none of your business.  If she reads your face or raised eye brow...  and challenges you on it...  you say something seems odd & toss it back to her.  If she swears to it, fine, let it drop.  

Probably not if you expect to get a decent blowjob...

Shit does indeed happen...and if something were to happen to her (or you) and you don't have any way of getting her the attention she may need quickly...you know the rest of the story.

slap slap slap . dammit you were talking in your sleep again , some funny love story or something  

I wouldn't...but that's just me.  I guess other dudes whack off to the thought that a hooker is looking at his picture.

Posted By: TaylorSteele

'voluntarily' send a photo/website etc etc to me at some point during our conversation. They are more than comfortable in letting me know who they are.  
   
 Go ahead, you can freak out now LOL    
   
 I think it's a wonderful gesture and that is where trust begins on both sides and I believe they know I take that gesture very seriously in having an idea of who I will be spending time with...and yes, it eases my mind absolutely. We've already established 99.9% of my dates begin in 'public' so no need in my mind to fish for their ID like I'm a god damn bouncer at that point. It's simple, they don't match their photo......I'm out. If after they match their photo, I feel the need to go fishing....I most certainly will.  

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I have fake id , Reginald van Gleason at your service . and the photo ALDO of course xoxo

Posted By: TaylorSteele

'voluntarily' send a photo/website etc etc to me at some point during our conversation. They are more than comfortable in letting me know who they are.  
   
 Go ahead, you can freak out now LOL    
   
 I think it's a wonderful gesture and that is where trust begins on both sides and I believe they know I take that gesture very seriously in having an idea of who I will be spending time with...and yes, it eases my mind absolutely. We've already established 99.9% of my dates begin in 'public' so no need in my mind to fish for their ID like I'm a god damn bouncer at that point. It's simple, they don't match their photo......I'm out. If after they match their photo, I feel the need to go fishing....I most certainly will.  

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You've been lining this girls coffers for ages now. It's long overdue.  

+1

They doo it

shell need to know who the fuck he is for emergency care .. lol

You're not dating the girl that you found her "real life" online...
You're "dating" a "persona."

There are a lot of married providers out there.  The longer you are in the hobby the more you find out. Some will disclose to you in session if you make them cum really good. Some are separated or husband in jail or husband over seas in a war.

and you know I like the TS smell. Let that bouquet linger, I say.  

down there , in fact floral with no pungent aroma of the seven seas ? zen don't let a brother down before he even goes down ..  

Posted By: MasterZen

and you know I like the TS smell. Let that bouquet linger, I say.  
   
 And that's all I'm saying, LOL. No WAAAYYYY am I getting in the midst of this budding romance.  
 

and that tuna is just fine on your menu. You ain't foolin' nobody!

She clearly wants her hooker life to NEVER cross paths with her real life. The minute he lets on he knows I bet she shuts down and that would be the last he hears from her.

Or he can ask for a discount and she can lessen her time or acts commensurate with said discount.  

he would have a bad accident while away. And I am not even slightly kidding.

A code word for "after months of stalking her"

I call bullshit, and guys wonder why women guard their personal information with their life. Fucktards like the OP are why. If the OP wasn't a stalker he would have simply closed the page and forgotten what he saw after "stumbling" on her private information.

then you have to start knowing the real person.  Hours or even an overnight a persona is OK.  But with whole weekends or a week, I'd want to know who I'm really with.  Don't much care about a real name, but the rest...

Did you check out that blood moon last night.

After all that time you're going to know more about her outside of her Work. She tells you private details about her Life because she Trusts you. Don't mention all the info you found out about her. Just enjoy her company and don't betray her Trust

Heck...to a 20 year old I'm pretty sure I'm old.  To an 80 year old...I'm a punk.

And on the downside, be careful about going outdoors during a thunderstorm.

(btw, I'm assuming OP is on the level here--everyone else here has called BS on him--I have my own suspicions about the legitimacy of his "stumble"--but I'm going to set those aside for the moment)

Provider type #1 is a low profile or even no-profile sort.  She might have reviews on this or some other site--but may not even have made it known that she was interested in being reviewed--she might even have been reviewed, and asked for the review to be taken down.

This type wants to be UTR for whatever reason--other civvie career, does not want her family/friends to know what she does, whatever.  These are the types where you'll be hard-pressed to find out any real info about them.

(Although really?  Weekend and week-long getaways and you've never needed to know her real name?  Presumably, you're not paying for her travel with your credit card; you must really trust her a lot that she's not "marking up" her travel expenses, and padding out her tab that way.  But I said I wasn't going to challenge the fact pattern.  So let's move on...)

Type #2 is kind of "out" to some extent or another.  They have no problem with family members and friends knowing what they do for a living.  They usually create identities in the name of their stage name on all the social networks, for the purposes of promoting themselves and their business.  Some of them even leverage this exposure, in search of other sorts of paying "adult" work (modeling or similar), or maybe because they're an advocate for some cause or another that's important to them.  This type is usually going to be pretty open about revealing real names to clients when it becomes necessary/convenient/expeditious to do so.

In any case, this lady has obviously made it clear that she doesn't want her real life, identity, etc to be a topic for discussion.  So don't blow it.  If she starts spinning stories because she thinks it's "her turn" in the conversation and appropriate for her to "share" (to keep up the pretense of the GirlFriend Experience, where if she really were a girlfriend you might be expected to give a shit about what's going on with her), just change the topic back to good movies or books seen lately, how the Dodgers are doing, or whatever.  She'll probably be relieved not to have to stoke the fires with more lies.

DON'T tell her what you know.  For whatever reason, she wants her privacy.  Respect that.  No reason to rock the boat.

(FOUR years of weekends and week-longs?  Shit, in ONE year of weekends and week-longs, I know more about one of my faves than I knew about my wife after our first year of dating?  Seriously?  Wait, I said I wasn't gonna challenge the fact pattern presented..sorry...couldn't help myself...)

...that made her results come up.  Had you looked at escort photos of her on this same computer?
I had something strange like this happen to me.
I went to my HS reunion, then the next day googled a completely unrelated topic (looking for images of ships for something I was working on), and as it turned out, one of my classmates was an artist who sold artwork depicting ships, and her results were near the top.  Of the millions upon millions of images of ships on the internet, having her artwork come up couldn't have been a coincidence.  I had been using the internet on that computer to get info about the reunion, which had a list of people from my class.

just enjoy the good pussy your not gettn at home in reality, thats not what your there for, to get to "KNOW" each other, maybe get to know each others private areas, inside and out,  
 You may abviously not like to hear about her husband n kids during a romantic hedonistic sex frenzy vacation, or do you?
 I know for me I dont like being asked alot about my life. I enjoy doing the appts and i enjoy escaping to an alternate universe just as much as the next guy. when i am encompassing ANGEL EXOTIC, i dont wanna be asked so how long you been doin this?
 or so why dont you have a boyfriend?
 do you guys want us to tell you we DO have a boyfriend and he is actually good looking and jacked and tough and will whip your dork ass ? the guys ask dumb questions like oh you dont have a bf? of course every escort has a godam bf! why do you think they are workin so hard to get all the money to buy a condo to live in alone?
 the guys need to focus on thier pric durin the appts, dont try to get to know us, we dont wanna know you guys any more than you wanna know us, I say stick to conversation on topic, like what you been horny over in porn you watch lately, the need for friendly banter that is just fmaking everyone uncomfortable durin a session is just ridiculous, the worst is the guys that come and talk about other escorts as if they are being told truth and the stories are real. i heard a ton of guys come tell me, about how this poor escort got robbed and he came to bail her out and give her money! i heard that one alot, just enjoy her for what your paying her fpor, no need to stress her out unessisarily and ruin the whole dam appt dude. cuz thats essentially what your gonna do, think about it,  
 how do you think her performance will be suckn your prick after you tell her you know who her kids are?
 really truly rethink the question,,,,,, honestly.
 think real hard.
 what outcome you think youl get? your gonna ruin the whole time together, leave it be, and forget you seen it,

If not, enjoy what you have and if you have a problem with her being married and having kids, it is better to break off instead of creating a bad blood between the two of you.

My first reaction was this was total BS and that the OP just wanted to test the waters here on outting the provider to herself -- and let's be clear, that is exactly what he'd be doing. Reasons? Maybe he wanted a closer relationship, maybe he wanted to force an ending or maybe he just didn't think it through and thought she might find it funny/interesting. Only the 'force an ending' is likely.

When she is with you, she is the character she assumes while working.