Planning for my first overnight with my ATF.
Curious how much of the time is spent on rest.

I think that is something that you both end up mutually agreeing on.

As much as you need. LOL
Just like in most things hobby related, it depends....
YMMV, but you should certainly expect to allow the lady a reasonable amount of rest. I suggest you talk things over with her before hand to align expectations, but if she is your ATF and you are communicating well, the O/N will leave you with a smile on your face that lasts for days and probably in need of a nap sometime the next afternoon.
Enjoy, and please don't forget to report back on how it goes.

I have a weekly o/n in Vegas who goes to sleep by midnight & gets up for golf @ 5am....I prefer late nights but I get up when he brings my Starbucks & do amazing things with a hot latte that improve his, um, swing....

That's what we get paid for right? Just don't keep poking her in the back while she sleeps hoping she will wake up & ravish you, ewww.

Bon Apetite!

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Let's clarify this first. I LOVE sex in the middle of the night. And, first thing in the morning. Hell, I love sex, period.

But an overnight several years ago still casts a dubious light on those rare events these days. He was "elderly". You'll probably all laughing and saying, "ah, Anneke, YOU'RE elderly." No, I mean REALLY elderly. And, he had so much lung damage that he's on oxygen full time.

We hop in the car, oxygen tank too and have dinner at the most deluxe place around. A family dinner. (I am not making this up) We drive back home and we have to retire early. It's his habit. But before we do he takes a Viagra.

ALL night long he is poking me with that thing. The problem is that when he got excited he started to GASP, his chest would heave, he would  turn blue and it seemed like he was dying. So, he'd stop for awhile, we'd fall asleep and in a few minutes he'd start again. Poking, gasping and passing out. I had my CPR skills ready for any moment.

I thought the night was NEVER going to end. LOL

I survived and life is still good.

Smiles,
Anneke

If she is your ATF the two of you should work this out on your own. The truth is the answer is going to be different for every situation and it is NOT something you want to end up arguing about once you are alone together trying to enjoy each other's company.

An overnight is still a date. An exchange of money for her time. You should not go into it with any more apprehension than necessary. Talk about your expectations in advance and figure out if the two of you are on the same page.

From my POV an overnight is not really about non-stop sex.  It is about spending some extended time with a lady who's company you enjoy. For me it would ideally involve sex, dinner, cuddling, sex,cuddling, sleeping and wake-up sex!

Just one man's opinion...

in between he'd lit up a cigarette. I don't smoke.

It's a wonder you lived to tell the tale.

If this poor guy doesn't drop dead of a heart attack first, igniting the oxygen will get him first.

By the way, any night with you is a night in heaven.

(And yes, all you physics buffs, I'm well aware that oxygen is an accelerant, not a fuel.)

I see to it that I earn my sleep beforehand and then have the alertness and energy to pick up where we ended in the morning.

For dinner I like room service and I also like going out. Gotta have my cuddling needs met and wake up sex is a delight I really want on an overnight. I find that to be the most sensual sex of all because waking up is a slightly altered state. Nice and slow, lightly rubbing each other. I'm having an overnight soon and this is getting me really looking forward to it.

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I've met some ladies that I would love to ask. The problem is that I've seen myself in the morning, and that's been known to scare small children, so I haven't quite worked up the nerve to ask yet. Someday!

Hungry,

I guess you'll have to find a provider that likes to be blindfolded, and save that part of the play for the morning. You just have to be creative.

Just kidding, as I feel your pain. As you said... someday.

You're a f#%*king genius! If you'll excuse me now, I have phone calls to make.

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Wake up before she does and hop in for a quick shower. Brush your teeth (I even shave) and sneak back under the covers...

Genius? I'm a f#%*king moron! Talk about TOFTT!

Now not only will you be making plans months out, you'll be contributing to a bidding war started by the other guy sitting over in the time-out corner.

Ah, what the hell....

Good luck, man!

HAHAHAHA I'm sorry but I literally burst out laughing at your story. LOL that's so funny!!!!

You got the rest of your life for rest.

No lie - Had an O/N with an ATF.  We both lay back, exausted from our endeavors, thinking we would try to get some sleep.  (BTW - it's hard to do with someone new/different in the bed than your used to) when all of the sudden I hear a dog barking!  WTF?  It stopped.  Thought I heard something.  Then it happened again.  Forget sleeping, by then all we could do was giggle!  Needless to say, my next O/N will be in a hotel that does not allow pets!   lol

Kari~~

Had 3 overnights. One was terrific with a nice blow job in the morning, with another woman she slept a loooong time and did not want to wake her up (was horny as hell), the third one she was so tired from work, that she slept all the time. Anyway would repeat, but non stop sex is out of discussion for me, I need my sleep of minimum 8 hours. I don't expect non stop sex but a nice conversation, nice dinner and sex in the morning, just love that.

the never ending overnight from HELL!!! ROFLMAO!!!! Sorry to hear you had to endure that!