Someone I'd seen a few times took out a tazer on me today. He stole my phone, a laughable $80 (his grandfather rate) and left.  

I stay in nice hotels, but as far as LI goes, safes are hard to come by.

irst, glad you are safe.  The outcome could have been a lot worse.

I know. Its still really bothersome.  

Must have deleted what I wrote...

Just because a lot of the competitive crap goes on out here... And I'm independent, so that makes me a more obvious target.

Self defense courses are only good up to a certain point, unless you want to spend your entire life in the gym learning how to fight, the average woman is NEVER going to be able to fight off the average man if he is determined to hurt you. The same goes for weapons, the first thing you have to do with a weapon is be able to get your hands on said weapon. As you are painfully aware, sometimes that is impossible.

GG. Always a pleasure to read your thoughts. I've skimmed to say the least (I may have taken a liking to u)

1. He stole your phone to keep you from blacklisting his number..OR calling LE..Nobody memorizes phone numbers these days, especially in this hobby.

As any guys walks in your door, be on your phone.  

and also if it happened at a location you use a lot and plan on using a lot in the future.

Bug spray is a damn good idea.  

Your post above is great advice in that the best self defense in situation like this is to "get away"

I still remember the first 6 digits. And a have a very picturesque memory, so above anything else, I'll know to stay away.

In the meantime all I can say is that I am really really sorry this happened to you.

And it was.. Other than my peace of mind..

Thanks :-/

If she had, she'd understand that the OP could have done nothing to protect herself.  And let's not also forget that lil Julia's first post did talk about kicking his ass.  So she's talking out of both sides of her mouth here.
She should watch this, then go stand in the corner

You did everything right. Fighting back will certainly get you hurt, killed, or arrested if you get lucky and hurt him first. He picked you because he knew you wouldn't go to LE. Going to LE and saying so and so robbed me will end with hours and hours of repeated questions. Their goal is to get you to admit to something illegal on your part. You are dealing with people who are trained and experienced at deception (they lie) and worse, their mindset is that everyone they deal with is a liar so don't expect much help from LE. The best thing you can do is inform others about  this guy. Good luck!

A lot of indie providers start off at the top, where problems aren't experienced regularly. I'm still working my way up, I'm still fairly new and my first 9 months didn't exactly go to savings, more just getting things in order, so I can't afford to not make a date for a week, or only make 300 a week and pay my 200/week bills, on top of gluten free food, phone bill, gas, etc. I honestly don't understand how you "hobbyists" all get by. Truly the economy is crap for everyone

I am so sorry this happened to you & you did nothing wrong & everything right.  Write down everything you can remember from his contact information...  maybe the rest will come back to you.  You best defense...  is sceening...  Do you book through email?  Save the numbers...  You could text or phone his digits to another phone in a secure location before he arrives...  it could be your phone or a "safety" friend...  I would not under estimate the deterent value that someone knows something if you don't come home.  Even if it's a bluff.  He won't know.  And it's not totally a bluff.      
You can not very well take your cash out to the car very hour but there are hiding places inside the room.  I've heard of thieves going into her purse while she's in the bathroom...  dispicable!        

If he were just the kind of jerk who sneaks back a few 20s from the donation when you're not looking, that's one thing:  Put him on the black list and DNS on your phone and computer.

I'm just quite nervous to risk the possibility of arrest. Due to my PTSD I am terrible under pressure and will be very nervous.

I didn't mean to sound like a scold if you or anyone in that circumstance decided not to call LE against the guy.  It's very easy for me to pontificate in the comfort of my office on this while you gals are in the trenches facing these madmen.

She will end up on LE's radar as they consider everyone a criminal. They have a dim view of all people and anyone who is involved in"criminal activity" is nothing more than a criminal to them and undeserving of their assistance.  

This is pretty serious. Why not?

Be careful about that Taser in NY. Just having it can catch you a case. Use it and you'll probably catch a  felony. BTW people have died from being Tased. That's a whole lot of legal problems.  

EOM

I suppose I will.

How did this guy get a taser in the room without you seeing it?
He only took 80 or that's all you had period?
And finally what kind of clientele you seeing?

local SWOP chapter (http://swop-nyc.org/) for support, and the Sex Worker Project at the Urban Justice Center: http://sexworkersproject.org/ to see if they can help out. I'm so very sorry you had to deal with that!

You were seeing a low-end guy -- not exactly the elite of the New York Area. You have good looks and reviews. I would not expect you to settle for this low a fee – even from a regular. People that are pathologically cheap tend to be trouble eventually. No guarantees --but wouldn't only seeing more upscale guys should help reduce the risk of this kind of problem?

The only thing I might suggest is stricter screening.  I understand with being new and just trying to get on your feet you don't want to lose appointments.  However, you should always put your safety first.  Requiring a gentleman to give you his first & last name, and then verifying the information (I typically do employment verification) will greatly reduce the risk of seeing this type of predator.  It will also allow you to do some research and see if he has been blacklisted, criminal record, etc..  And, in the case of a situation like this, you will have their real world information if you do decide to go to the police.

Just a hunch, but your profile says you're from Long Island.  I just checked on the National Black List (Browse the NB Registry) and at the top of the list it says: " Long Island.....tazerhaverguy......Seen him before, pulled out a tazer."  As a non member that's all I could read so I don't know how much other info is in the post.

Call the police

while I would love to see his scumbag ass arrested...  I universally recommend only going to the Police with your lawyer...  so they stay on message & not turn it back on you.  They say that Police would go after the armed robbery felony charge but the mere possibility that some cop would turn it on you...  would be enough that I would not go without representation.  

It was small, like a cell phone.  

As I've said previously he's seen me SO MANY TIMES. he's only seen me for a short stay ONCE before when he was in a rush to work, I assumed it was the same story *shrugs*

Thank you.

Yea I did it.

That was my real phone. :-|

His scum bag ass will be charged if there's anything I gotta do w. It