OK, this might seem kind of like a strange post but has anyone noticed that since they began hobbying their interpersonal skills have improved?  What I mean is that you are now more at ease and it is easier for you to start conversations with stangers or people that you have just met at work or in public.   Also more outgoing, in all situations,  than you were previously?   I guess in a way it makes sense because when you are hobbying, a provider, who if you are meeting for the first time is a complete stranger, comes into your room and you are basically forced to become outgoing or at least start talking to her very quickly.  That, in addition to getting completely naked with a complete stranger within 2 minutes of meeting.  

Just wondering if anyone else has experienced the same thing?  If we look at it that way it is really not that much more expensive and a hell of a lot more fun than taking a self improvement course at the local community college!

I've always yapped too much wherever I am , whoever is there , except with providers , I
tune in  the scheduled program  with minimal  words .
 
 

I do see that my public communication skills have improved, well, improved with talking to the ladies. In my profession, communication is a mandatory skill. So, my professional communication skills remain the same. However, I do feel a bit more at ease talking to girls in my personal life. I feel that I have made improvements, and you are right. I was a bit conservative before, but, have opened up tremendously now. Good point.

of course..unless you are an introvert it frees up your inner being..you are more relaxed..more confident..providers can stroke your ego like no one else..providers are the best medicine around to just make you feel better about yourself..they really do underestimate what they do for us men who are fortunate enough to know them..

I can say that I became more confident. And it is much easier to talk to strangers (women, or older women to be exact). I was worrying that maybe seeing providers might degenerate my social skills, but so far, it is quite the opposite. Regretting that I didn't find this service year before.

Usually at social events in a business context, I find myself much more at ease but also wondering if she is secretly providing as a sideline!

I hobby because I have no social game. While I get along great with providers, it hasn't at all made it easier for me to meet or talk to civvy girls.

But my attitude towards women has changed.  Before the hobby I thought all beautiful women were bitchy and conceited.  All they ever did (for me) was bitch, bitch, bitch.  Now whenever I look at any woman, I think about how much fun she would be in the bedroom.  

A major attitude improvement, but now I get caught a lot more staring at tits and butts.

About the hobby. Getting naked in front of women I just met, and the ego boost I get when a beautiful woman plays with me.
I was extremely shy, and self conscious before.
Every experience I have, takes me further out of my shell.
I can also look at beautiful women now, and appreciate them in a light I never knew existed.
What I mean by that is...
I used to see a hot girl, and be embarrassed about thinking of fucking them.
Now when I look at them. I smile when I think about them fucking me.
It's hard to explain. But it is definitely a confidence thing.
So yes I agree with you,  and thank the ladies for manning me up!

I know it may sound contrived, but I no longer look at women in a sexual context. In other words, I do not feel the need to have sex with every attractive woman that I meet.  As a result, I feel more comfortable engaging in conversation and interacting with women in a more "down to Earth" manner.  I believe this change is in response to a very satisfied sex life thanks to providers.

Before I hobbied, I found that every interaction I had with a civie gal was focused through a lens of "Will she like me?"  In other words, needing sex, every interaction was colored by the question of:  "Will she have sex with me if I say the right things and do the right things?"

This produced a distortion in these relationships owing to the fact that I was never an equal, and also prevented me from being authentic.

Now, knowing that I can have enough sex by virtue of the hobby, my way of relating to civies and much more representative of myself.

Ironically, this makes me more attractive to them as well, but I've learned to overcome that temptation, for the most part.

walks into my office LOL
I have to keep myself in reality and remeber not everyone introduces themselves that way!

It has definitely improved my social skills. In high school & before, I was one of those who would hide in the back of the classroom & cringe when the teacher called on me. Even though I usually knew the answer, I hated public speaking. Although I still hate public speaking, I am now much better at conversation with people I have just met. Being in this profession, you run into all types.. some who obviously love to talk & others who it is like pulling teeth to get them to say anything, lol. I have learned some great conversation starters since I started providing

Hey Nikki,

Nice to see another one of your posts and as always I enjoy them.  When we got together we had good communication both verbal and non verbal as I recall.  You're awesome!!  Hope we can get together again one of these days when I am up your way.

Posted By: nahtynikkey

It has definitely improved my social skills. In high school & before, I was one of those who would hide in the back of the classroom & cringe when the teacher called on me. Even though I usually knew the answer, I hated public speaking. Although I still hate public speaking, I am now much better at conversation with people I have just met. Being in this profession, you run into all types.. some who obviously love to talk & others who it is like pulling teeth to get them to say anything, lol. I have learned some great conversation starters since I started providing

I want to point out that being introverted does not necessarily mean a person is also shy.

I am an introvert.  That is, at the end of the day, I really enjoy my alone time.  
I spend time "in my mind" and if I'm surrounded by people who do not make me comfortable, I feel worn out.

When I tell this to people, they laugh and doubt me.  "But you're such a social, friendly person" or "You're so approachable!"  Yes, that is true.  I'm an open book, I enjoy getting to know others and hearing about their life stories.  It's probably for this reason that I get along well with those who WOULD be categorized as "shy."  

Through my experience as being an escort, I have felt more free and comfortable with myself.  My patrons have helped to boost my confidence and self esteem and many have become dear, dear friends.  

So it goes both ways...the side benefits I've experienced in this demimonde have been empowering.  I realize sound like a cliché but I am being completely honest.  

I've learned how to connect with others better, I've learned that most of us are wired similarly and experience parallel life issues.  

Life is good.

And my patrons have made ME feel fortunate to have met them.  

I'll leave aside the shy vs. introvert debate and just say that it has given me more confidence in my civvie life...