Ladies,

I'm seeing my first provider this week. She is 5'6," and I'm only 5'3."

The woman I dealt with at the agency understood my concern about the height differential, but said that if anyone is made to make me feel comfortable, this particular provider is. The agency lady also said that from a woman's standpoint, that's the last thing she is worried about.

I know in some ways it's crazy to even think about the height differential, but in the civi world, it would more than likely be enough to keep me from having a chance with a woman. It's just reality.

What are your thoughts as a provider, as a woman? In this situation, how big a deal if at all is the height differential?

Thanks for your time.

I don't think some women care about hieght differences. It's our society beliefs that is the problem. If in your case it was reversed, you would not even be asking this question. Would you?
Just go and have fun.

I have seen gentlemen your height and had no problems at all. I have a gentlemen that I see almost weekly for the last 15 years. He is close to your height just laughs and says maybe it's time to take your shoes off.

Once in bed it doesn't much matter and if I liked a man 5'3" I would date him.

Kisses Haley

It just really seems like a lot of women in the civi world who are my height want somebody taller. And it's true I wouldn't care if the situation was reversed. I'm not sure a lot of guys would.

I"m amazed that you would actually date someone who is 5'3," because I've just not seen that too often. Hats off to you for being open to that!



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I've seen your photos, love that tattoo, as well as the rest! I'll make a mental note for next time you come through my area.

that height doesn't matter when you are horizontal.

Since I'm about the same height as you, I can relate to your concern about a taller lady's height differential.  However, one thing that's nice about this hobby is that a majority of the providers are nonjudgmental when it comes to a hobbyist's height.

By the way, I've been with a few provider who are 5'8", 5'11", and 6' tall.  Just remember that when you're both "horizontal", that height differential will disappears ...LOL.

Play safe and happy hobbying!
-TheKarateKid-

Every provider replying to this thread is going to chirp in with "I *love* short men!".

It's the wrong site to be asking this, I'll tell you why:

The reality is, providers who post here, and most providers at all, will not really describe what they're actually attracted to.  What they'll go on & on about is the kind of many they think will offer them the best "experience" (safe, clean, no danger, no drama) or the best cash, or both.

Providers do not care what the guys look like so long as he's clean.

The reason you might be asking here is, you want to feel like you are attractive to the woman you're with, even if she's a provider.  You have to let go of this, just presume she is, and don't worry about it.

I understand, though, that it's sort of a mental issue because of your experiences in the real world.  I'm barely taller than you by a couple inches max and I know what you mean about the "civvies".  Most people, in fact, do not know the day to day "real world" issues guys who are below average in stature deal with.  Being overlooked by women, joked about behind our backs, stereotyped for having some complex we don't actually have.

I've thought about this often over the years and here is what I've concluded: Just don't care about it. Don't give a shit what anyone thinks, just don't act in ways or carry behaviors that give them even an iota of a chance to confirm their stereotypes.  Take care of yourself, dress well, have good posture, and never hesitate to socialize.  You will be taller than your height, and if that's not good enough for some (or even many), it's MORE than good enough for the few who matter.

With only a three-inch difference in height, you'll pretty much be the same when you're horizontal. Maybe you could get some elevator shoes and she could wear flats. There's more than one position.

Hugs,
Ciara

What really matters is what you do with what you have. I know tall  people who couldn't do a thing; short people who can do anything.
It is not the size of a man but the size of his heart that matters.

Don't worry about the height differential...the ladies don't care.  This is the hobby, not civvie world.  I'm a shortstop myself, and it has never deterred me or been a problem.  Just show up with the envelope!

I've seen ladies approaching 6', and have only good things to say.  Don't let lack of height hang you up!

As a short guy that has seen Sophie, the height issue is a moot point after her first kiss!