The many different reasons why we got started in this hobby.Something that happens in our life that perhaps pushed us into this hobby.

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So I will try and keep it short and simple.

Became a lifestyle choice.  After my divorce a number of years ago, one of the items was to see a provider. So while celebrating a few life milestones in Vegas, made the call.  I will say it was a terrible experience.  I didn't know anything about this world.  

A foreign country interaction with a pretty SW hard wired my brain to the hobby. I couldn't get her out of my mind, and thinking of her, lead me to my first actual encounter several months later. I often wonder where I'd be if it had been the preacher's daughter who grabbed my cock, instead of that first SW. I might be on church chat now, instead of TER chat.

I doubt that many women grow up wanting to be escorts, but the truth is that I've been interested in using my sensuality to my advantage since I was old enough to discover its power. As a young girl, I was in awe of the kind of women who could command the attention of an entire room with just a flick of their hair or a coy smile. While most other girls my age obsessed over Disney princesses with fairytale romances, I was drawn to Jessica Rabbit, with her sultry look and seemingly magical ability to turn the opposite sex into putty in her gloved hands.  

...I found myself halfway across the country for a job away from family and friends.   Working a lot and not having the time to date or develop a relationship I gravitated first to a rub & tug but eventually to FS escorts.  So at the ripe old age of 52 I got my start.  By the way, the location was Dallas- not a bad place to start!  

wondering if I'd ever find a gal who wanted to have sex with me.  Gals loved me for platonic relationships.

.....and I'm still a stripclub hound who suppiments my clubbing with hobbying

And needed a way to pay bills while having plenty of time to study and party.

Drunk and  horny meets opportunity is a good way to sum it up.

I didn't want to divorce her at the time, because she needed spinal surgery and I'm a sucker.  I figured I'd just even things out by finding a friend with benefits.  After years of being married, I'd forgotten how much the dating scene sucked, but I started to remember pretty quickly.  My final, desperate attempt was the CL personals.  I was ready to call it quits when I found it was mostly webcam girls, but I did get a reply from an escort.  I didn't follow through, but then there was a nationwide string of LE stings, and a prominent Canadian politician was caught in one.  The article mentioned BP, so I looked at some reviews of it, and decided that the cops would now be tied up with the courts, the pimps would be in hiding for a moment, etc.  I made a few phone calls, and the one that finally agreed to meet me is now my ATF.  After about a year and a half of playing with BP, I accidentally stumbled onto TER, and the rest is history.

- Single nymphomaniac. I profoundly hate dating, even the pretense involved in random hookups irks me.
(I know one might protest that escorting is all about pretense, but in fact I find the understood boundaries and explicit expectations incredibly refreshing.)

simply shut down our sex life. A workaholic at her career, social affairs and immersed in everything kids and house-related. We had sex 6 times in 9 years. Before kids, it was several times a day!!

turn off her source, but I am not done..

In as much as two civies are supposedly being straight with each other when they are not; but in the hobby pretense is expected (and delivered).

...except that once I found this playground, I rarely visit the clubs any more.

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I'm jealous.

Been there done that. Never going back.

Besides, how will you ever meet that Panthera dude?

Kind of figured I wasn't alone in this situation.

But I'm confused. So you're saying he's no longer a gent in this world? Oh well lol. I like dating here. Its real enough for me and works. Feels like real dating anyway minus the bullshit. If that's the case am I doing something wrong...again lol?

while cruising the internet and I signed up for a free membership, just curious at that point.

Very briefly:  Needed sex, couldn't get it at home, became angry and frustrated, didn't want a divorce, ventured into the hobby.

My marriage was falling apart and the sex became scarce and then never. Surfing around the internet, I found TER and made a mental note of interesting women in the local area. Now that I am separated and on my way to a divorce, it was time to make those fantasies come true.

In my marriage, her -3 affairs , me 2 yrs no sex,  yep found the hobby, haven't looked back, cost my marriage too, but then again didn't really have one.....

Me and the wife separated briefly only to discover her sleeping with her boss. At the time I didnt really know what to do with life in general and didnt know how to safely navigate the hobby to get even in my mind to move on. 3 years later and shes never been the same(including cutting way back on sex) and financially not being able to break away(school bills, separate house in my name). Until recently I got a huge Xmas surprise in a 30% pay increase and dont share a bank account.  

my wife wouldn't do a very specific role play, and it's the sexiest thing i can think of.  besides i'm just a pig and i wanted to try sex with someone besides my wife.  i'm a pig.

Thank you to all of you for sharing your experiences with others,It is amazing to see the different reasons why we all begin this hobby,I was a very happy married man until my wife had a hysterectomy do to ovarian cancer,I never thought I was going to cheat on her one day,I never thought I was going to pay for sex one day,I learned that life can force you to do things that you would never thought about it.