With me, each experience is completely different. Just because i DFK this one doesn't mean I will the next. Chemistry plays alot in an appointment with me. Appearance doesn't so much matter as personality and hygiene.I prefer the more intimate connections. Maybe having some things in common, small things do mean alot.
I think that if you have a good personality and treat me like a girlfriend instead of some "working girl" then obviously we are going to get along much better.
As much as I love money I don't see gentleman on a repeat basis if we do not have chemistry. no matter the weight, looks, whatever.
I'm sure even Brad Pitt can be difficult at times. (lol)
Personally, appearance doesn't matter to me, though being clean, polite, and respectful is a must! I have regular clients that may not be visually appealing but are the sweetest and cleanest, and that's what matters to me 
To me the most important thing is communication. I enjoy feeling some connection with each person I meet.
I am not a rare beauty nor some young spinner. I have seen many gentlemen who wanted an older mature lady for a change but had no idea how much they would enjoy my company. I have quite a few reviews that state that fact.
I never pass judgement on someone just because they may not be perfect on the outside.
Kisses Haley
I have dated a variety of men: football stars to sedentary overweight men; shorter (5’4”) to taller (6’7”), average to hot, 20’s to 60’s (age), etc. I have always enjoyed a man’s personality over looks and have seen this way of dating men spill over into my provider lifestyle. If I like a man’s personality, he becomes attractive to me. So, any of my regulars that I may not have been attracted to at first, I find quite sexy now.
Further, within the first 10 minutes of meeting a new client, I usually look for something (even really small, e.g. the curl in his lips or tone of his voice) that I find attractive. This allows me to enjoy our time together...which is why we both are there!
I can only speak for myself, but i find something attractive in every gentleman i see, no BS honest to God truth..there was only one man, who i couldn't find a thing attractive about, not his personality, or his laugh, or his eyes or hair not even his ass, and to be honest with you, if it gets that bad for me, i won't see him again, and he wanted to see me again, but i didn't $$$ or NO $$$ it's MORE then the $$$ for me, i'm sorry but it's the truth, yes it would be easy to talk the talk and spew the bullshit and let him hear all the words he wants to hear, but i'm not that type of Provider, it's a connection for me, it's the conversation, it's the feeling of being comfortable in my company, and I in yours,It's being able to talk to me about things you can't talk about at home, or to do things with me your not allowed to do at home, the comfort level is what makes a good "date" because only then will you feel totally content and make your time with me the best part of your day,(a good blowjob helps too! LOL) but hey, that's just my opinion!
Jay
If you don't think he is attractive but on another note that is your opinion lol...
Think of him in Legends of the Fall with all that golden skin and those beautiful oh so kissable lips...OMG....
I agreed with LadyJay at first, but then got the mental picture of him in Legends.... Yummy!
Exactly. When I think of him I think of two things...Legends of the Fall and Mr. & Mrs. Smith. I do so adore a man who can wield more than one "gun" hehehehe.
~Rae
that he may look good but I bet he's not that great in bed. lol Besides, Hollywood can make anyone look good.
Keep the faith.
I would still do him. I bet he is fantastic in bed and has a ginormous schlong.
You know I am kidding.
But in all seriousness how hot would a 3some with him and Angie be? God I would love that. Yummers!!
I don't find Nngie attractive at all. Never have. I know I am a minority on this, but she's just too out there for me....
that the cherished illusion in the "hobby" that appearance does not matter to providers does not really stand up to scrutiny. Rather, you are gifted in such a way as to look beyond it, to be able to find value and connection without reference to appearance. And you are able to place value on some qualities that trump appearance, for which I am personally grateful.
This may not be the best thing to write here (I often reveal too much lately), but there are a few providers whom I really enjoy, but who do not fit my ideal of appearance either, but I would not trade my time with them for anything. Who they are and how we connect is of great value to me. I would rather spend time with them than "trying out" all of the super hot young ladies that offer their wares here.
I appreciate your kindness. But I personally would rather not be reminded of how I as a man in my mid 50s, balding, gray, with middle age sag, stack up against the ideals of appearance that providers, as human beings, also hold.... I've got to be more careful about what I read here... '
Cheers
Gregory
and that one was mine babe!
Jay
I am just messing with you
No harm no foul lol.
I personally don't believe George Clooney is handsome at all but that is just me.
Now, the new James Bond....
Can we have like a lollipop or a ice cream bar made in his image please....
Because he is just scrumptious.
George Clooney ISN't handsome, and the New James Bond is a very DOABLE creature!!
Jay
no harm taken lol
Great question! When I first started about a year ago, I was concerned that I wouldn't be able to "perform" if I didn't find the man attractive. Funny thing happened - I very quickly stopped looking at the outside and became attracted to the personality and quality of the person I was with. Some of the most intense sessions I have had were with men who weren't even close to Brad Pitt. But they were kind and caring and knew how to use there God given talents. lol
On the other side, if the person is rude, obnoxious or arrogant, I won't see them again. It's not about the $$ to me. I won't/can't pretend to be someone I'm not. If I don't like you, my eyes always give me away. (That's a good thing when they show how much I want you. LOL)
Kari
It's how he looks at me.
That being said, personally I haven't yet been with a man that I found too unattractive to have a session with. He might be out there, I just haven't run across him yet.
There are some who's attitudes I can't deal with and so I refused them a second session.
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.......has been with men that would probably be considered less than gorgeous. It's all about chemistry. With the right ingredients, it can be explosive.
ps......I don't like Brad Pitt. He's too ....enfeminate? I dunno, he just seems not real manly to me. jmho
the gorgeous men are not very good lovers. They are too into themselves. Note, I said most of the time.
I'd be a liar if I said that a handsome man who was a wonderful lover didn't really ring my chimes. But, I've found the best lovers were ordinary looking guys, well groomed for sure,who treated me with respect. Ones who were willing and eager to please and who were not afraid to let themselves go and let passion have it's sway.
I've said it here many times before, respect gets me halfway to arousal before you even walk through the door.
Kisses,
Anneke
Ok ladies....If looks don't matter,then why is my phone not ringing off the hook?...When i was younger,I had to beat em off(women)with a stick!(lol)...Damn, i miss those days!
Yes, they do tell one hell of a story.
I can't speak for anyone else, but I choose my regular, special friends based on their personality and how they treat me not on how they look. I appreciate, that out of all the choices in girls one has, that I have been chosen as well...that's what makes handsome for me
Let's be honest here!...Of coarse the ladies would prefer that we look like Brad...but as Zayzha said...."No Honey,No Money"
yours truly,
Tom Cruise
I learned a long time ago that the surface stuff is the least important factor for me. Often times, the better lovers are those that are not "GQ" types. I find that "hot" guys might be energetic and prolific, but often lack the ability to really connect the way I like. What resonates with me is how someone can make me feel *beyond* the physical. The physical is great, but that is all surface stuff that is easily lost and forgotten when the next physical pleasure is in front of you. Those that can connect to touch me on a deeper level (physical and then some...) are those that stay with me, and are my preference, in my experience of life.
xoM
But in reality I am not that attracted to them. Sure it would be nice to have a super hot guy come see me ever so often but I think personally guys who are average or a little under average in looks are WAY better in bed.
A guy who is pretty average in looks usually has tried harder to learn what is necessary to please a woman sexually, so, he and I are more compatible.
I have a "lover" who is a little overweight, out of shape, older, and just in general not all that attractive physically but he is a great conversationalist, hysterically funny, sincerely nice and no lie, gives THE best oral I have ever had in my life. Period.
Now, I have a younger guy who is really really attractive, physically fit, and great body but he's got a piss poor attitude. Always tries to get me to see him for free, constantly asks about a "price reduction" since I am "having such a good time".
Who would I rather see...total no brainer...#1.
Women are more apt to see a client who is good to them, respectful, clean and good company than someone who is just physically attractive.
However, if I had a client who looked like Daniel Craig I would most likely become a raving lunatic and refuse to see anyone else.
I think the idea of Ice Pops or lollipops shaped just like him is a great idea. Ladies?
Isn't that pug sitting in a great place right now?
When we connect, whether emotionally, mentally, or physically, we both have a WONDERFUL time .
One can be downright drop dead handsome, but if he has a bad attitude, it can really put a damper on things.
I can honestly say I have met nothing but nice gentlemen thus far.
*knocks on wood* hehe
I treat ALL clients with a baseline of professional courtesy. I do have special and unique chemistry with many clients. It's a shame when clients believe that they are "just another guy." Many of my clients are people I genuinely care about, and I consider them real friends (with benefits.)
What really impresses me is when clients treat me well and have a good personality. That is the most important thing of all to me.
I won't lie: Model material clients do exist, and I have seen them before. I take it as a "bonus."
What I don't like is when clients assume I am a fake bitch (just because I am a provider), and they try to force me into "really liking them" because they have such low self-esteem! That is such a turn off! There's no need to "force" me. If a client treats me well and has a good personality, everything else will happen naturally!
