Last weekend, I had an encounter with a gentleman, he was a true sweetheart! After playtime, he made a comment about his wife being a avid detective. As funny as it sounds, I began to wonder what precautions do gentleman take, when seeing a provider. I think us ladies should always have the necessities on hand for such an occasion (Personal hygiene items, hangers, iron and ironing board, etc.).

I was impressed when a lady had a chair positioned just so to accept my clothes.  (Joi was the first but not the last to feature this)  A place on her dresser next to the chair or even a basket for his pocket items.  
I've often had ladies assist me to undress/dress & shower which is superb.  A nice big clean towel.

Luckily my wife hobbies with me, and if I want to see someone without her, I just talk to her about it first.

Neutral smelling soap.  Ivory is best.  Nothing worse than coming home smelling like you took a bath in the back room at Victoria's Secret.  Old Spice only covers so much, and your wife may wonder why you soaked your self in it after a card game with the boys.

My place of employment wouldn't care either. That's the benefit of working for a family owned business

In fact I always let my wife know. How is that for hiding this secret?

Change everything

...Most every play date that I have had I have made use of the shower before leaving. Simple enough. BTW- if you are expecting a lady client and a shower is available,  be sure to leave some feminine smelling soap for her to use....she prolly doesn't want to return home or back to work smelling like Old Spice!

One little hair is all it would take for the house of cards to come crashing down.

For those guys, I would recommend going to an AMP so at least you don't get the problem of hobby phones, etc.  Watch out for the hairs though.

As a married man, and someone who wants to remain married, I do take precautions.  I only hobby when my spouse is out of town or when I'm traveling.  That doesn't leave a lot of opportunities but risking it otherwise is too close for comfort.  Such as, "I called your office today but you were out all afternoon, what's up?"  The other matter is accumulating a hobby budget.  When there are shared expenses and mingling of income it get's hard to explain a withdrawal of several hundred dollars without a good reason.  But, since the other caution means that I don't hobby frequently there's usually enough time to build up my war chest

Very Important to consistently build your "Hobby Stash" to avoid large unexplained withdrawals! A few dollars a day set aside-every day-regardless of how small the amount-will build in a short time-keep it secure-keep it hid-change hiding places from time to time-remember where you hid it last !  When paying cash for any items-keep the change separate and throw it in the stash-plus a couple bucks !  Slow and continuous !!!

My wife is allergic to perfumes and colognes, I will never be the guy showing up to see a lady with too much cologne, I don't have any!    When I travel, which is when I do most of my extracurricular activities, I usually take a polo shirt that will not be missed and a pair of jeans that is also disposable, that way I can be more relaxed.   If something happens, I simply leave them at the hotel.  I learned that trick a long time ago because I come from the lopaw school of hobbying, I came up through the ranks at the stripclubs (which also have the issue of the smoke smell.)   Downside is that when I see ladies, I am never in clothes that I really would wear out to say a night out in the town, which really sucks, because I enjoy dressing well.

1)  Have a legit hobby that allows for the constant funding of a $ stash for this hobby.
2)  Have a second identical shaving kit with same soap and all else you use at work to insure that you smell the same as when you left home that morning after you shower at the end of the visit.  (I take my shaving kit to every date.)
3)  Take the time to hang all clothing as they come off if you can, especially if you plan to wear the same clothing home.  (Do this BEFORE you smell like perfume or get lipstick on you!)
4)  Use cash whenever it's possible for ANYTHING purchased for date -- wine, room, etc.
5)  Change addresses on credit cards used to reserve rooms and hotel perk cards (IF you use them) to PO Box that SO has no access to. (Preferably in another nearby town.)  This PO Box can also be used if absolutely necessary if something important is left out of town.
6)  Leave NO incriminating evidence in hotel rooms -- I move wine bottles and condom wrappers to trash in lobby when I depart any hotels reserved by me.
7)  For MANY years I never played in my home city, but no longer worry about this... but still pick hotels 30 miles or more from home.
8)  If I reserve the room, I change into a new outfit for date that I brought in my carry-on bag that I check-in with, change back before I return home, and drop off my own clothing I wore to the dry cleaners.  (Be SURE to check pockets!!!)
9)  Hobby phone, in area code out of town, changed with new number periodically.
10) Have a legit-sounding email and screen name that's not real name.  LOL

I have an unusual situation in that my wife and I are not intimate.  In fact, just because I felt like it, I asked a provider today to scratch the hell out of my back.

I got divorced, there's no one who cares if I see hookers, except of course me.

What is worse. Telling your SO or family that you fuck hookers or lying to them about it for X amount of years before they find out? I believe in being brutally honest in all facets in life. I don't tell "white lies" to save peoples feelings, I don't feel the need to hide the truth, at work if I fuck something up I don't wait to see if somebody figures it out. I raise my hand and say hey I fucked up over here. All in all my peers have quite a bit of respect for me because I am honest in all things and it avoids a whole lot of drama.

When I was much younger, many, many  years ago,  I worked in a strip club at night for a while, in a city no where near my home town.  
  I was  collecting money at the door and warning guys getting too close to the girls on stage.
  If a guy sitting next to the stage was breaking rules and  wouldn't listen to my warning, I would ask  a bouncer to kick him  out.
 If a stripper didn't show I would have to call and  find a substitute.  
  I had all the Gals phone number.
    It was an easy job with lots of benefits except when the Gals with  BF's told me about their problems.
 Sometimes that was excruciating.
   A stripper I knew very well, I had met a few months before I started working at the Club .
   She  became a good plutonic friend of mine.  
  After a few months working at the club she  knew I was doing half the strippers.  
     She couldn't care less.
  I wasn't anything special other than the new young broke guy in town.
  Seemed like half the strippers had the attitude if her friend did the new guy she does too.
 I was okay with that.  
   
    Sometimes when we were closing, a stripper would ask me for a ride, my stripper friend  would laugh and tell her sure he will, he's  an easy Ho.
 
    One night while sitting at the bar a stripper well known for  turning tricks outside the club was flirting with me in front of my stripper friend.  
 When Barbie walked away my stripper friend said if I ever fuck that tramp she'll never speak to me again. She went on and on how that Gal made money on the side fucking loser desperate guys.

when a couple can have fun & not be insecure!

In fact, that makes it even better!

What you have to do!

It is always great to plan ahead & I can agree with on the secrets!  

Just not talking about it with family, and civvie friends is enough.  

it was her cat's!

I told her I had been at a cat house.

8o)

I'm not ashamed of what I do. Why should I be??

Use your brain more and not doing stupid things like, not setting up your own partition in family computer. Not setting up passwords in smart phone and letting everyone use it . Not having a personal space for yourself.  

There are many things in my life that naturally lend themselves to hobby secrecy, so those make it easier. Beyond those, the most important thing I can do is plan a real life activity in conjunction with a session. Sometimes three or four activities. Usually, those activities will diffuse, then completely mask any interesting smells I may have picked up during the session. If not, a post session shower is mandatory. With my own personal brand of soap I might add.

I'm lucky in that I have a second job that can be used to explain coming home later than I normally do. Also I periodically get paid in cash, so have my hobby funding. The only problem I ever had was going to a very early morning rendezvous, and when I got back to my real job, realizing I had that slight "perfume" smell on my... Hoped no one at work would notice and I managed to get home early enough to change clothes and shower... I will seriously have to look at keeping a shower kit with me

I consider it part of what I am paid to do... be discreet in every way possible. I keep this a secret from people in my life I know it would truly hurt. I do have some friends who know and don't much think anything of it, but they do not know ALL the details. I pretty much just let them know I am not the type to screw around for free without a benefit in it for me, and they can jump to their own conclusions. Most think I am a gold digger lol.

And I know it!

and I realized all I needed was a good fucking and some head.
So now I tell my SO, I am going to my therapist.
my therapist does not have to tell anybody anything about my visiting or my sessions.

My guy now hobbies with me as a male provider.  Talk about win-win!  He's a seasoned swinger, so it came pretty natural for him.  Our relationship is better than ever.

Let's break down some barriers here

to tell her/his spouse that she/he is going to spend the night with the cute guy/girl she/he met and flirted with at the bar or across the room...and the other spouse will most likely say "sure honey" with a kiss and smile....we are a wild bunch...

you are a lucky man!