I was impressed when a lady had a chair positioned just so to accept my clothes.  (Joi was the first but not the last to feature this)  A place on her dresser next to the chair or even a basket for his pocket items.  
I've often had ladies assist me to undress/dress & shower which is superb.  A nice big clean towel.

Luckily my wife hobbies with me, and if I want to see someone without her, I just talk to her about it first.

I do think though having some things like that would be nice.

I love the little touches, like when my wife and I saw Karson Lee she went and got a towel and soaked it in warm water before bringing it to us to clean up.

I really appreciated that.

Cleaning up afterwards, having something for men to shower and use soap!

It's all about the service...before, during, and after

Neutral smelling soap.  Ivory is best.  Nothing worse than coming home smelling like you took a bath in the back room at Victoria's Secret.  Old Spice only covers so much, and your wife may wonder why you soaked your self in it after a card game with the boys.

My place of employment wouldn't care either. That's the benefit of working for a family owned business

In fact I always let my wife know. How is that for hiding this secret?

...Most every play date that I have had I have made use of the shower before leaving. Simple enough. BTW- if you are expecting a lady client and a shower is available,  be sure to leave some feminine smelling soap for her to use....she prolly doesn't want to return home or back to work smelling like Old Spice!

Now my other indulgence- stripclubs- poses a much more difficult job of hiding, due to the dancers perfume smell getting into my long hair and clothes - not to mention glitter and fake tan all over my clothes. I keep a "de-stripclubing" kit hidden in my car trunk that consists of baby wipes, gum, lint roller, etc to help me get to my next task with as little evidence of strippers left behind as possible.

One little hair is all it would take for the house of cards to come crashing down.

For those guys, I would recommend going to an AMP so at least you don't get the problem of hobby phones, etc.  Watch out for the hairs though.

As a married man, and someone who wants to remain married, I do take precautions.  I only hobby when my spouse is out of town or when I'm traveling.  That doesn't leave a lot of opportunities but risking it otherwise is too close for comfort.  Such as, "I called your office today but you were out all afternoon, what's up?"  The other matter is accumulating a hobby budget.  When there are shared expenses and mingling of income it get's hard to explain a withdrawal of several hundred dollars without a good reason.  But, since the other caution means that I don't hobby frequently there's usually enough time to build up my war chest

My wife is allergic to perfumes and colognes, I will never be the guy showing up to see a lady with too much cologne, I don't have any!    When I travel, which is when I do most of my extracurricular activities, I usually take a polo shirt that will not be missed and a pair of jeans that is also disposable, that way I can be more relaxed.   If something happens, I simply leave them at the hotel.  I learned that trick a long time ago because I come from the lopaw school of hobbying, I came up through the ranks at the stripclubs (which also have the issue of the smoke smell.)   Downside is that when I see ladies, I am never in clothes that I really would wear out to say a night out in the town, which really sucks, because I enjoy dressing well.

Now that I think about, I can add one more thing to worry about, the spray tanning stuff.   Earlier this year, I went out with someone who had obviously just sprayed tanned that day, we went out to dinner, held hands, walked closely, etc. and the next day I realized that the gray sweater was now half brown and it smelled funny, off to the garbage it went.

1)  Have a legit hobby that allows for the constant funding of a $ stash for this hobby.
2)  Have a second identical shaving kit with same soap and all else you use at work to insure that you smell the same as when you left home that morning after you shower at the end of the visit.  (I take my shaving kit to every date.)
3)  Take the time to hang all clothing as they come off if you can, especially if you plan to wear the same clothing home.  (Do this BEFORE you smell like perfume or get lipstick on you!)
4)  Use cash whenever it's possible for ANYTHING purchased for date -- wine, room, etc.
5)  Change addresses on credit cards used to reserve rooms and hotel perk cards (IF you use them) to PO Box that SO has no access to. (Preferably in another nearby town.)  This PO Box can also be used if absolutely necessary if something important is left out of town.
6)  Leave NO incriminating evidence in hotel rooms -- I move wine bottles and condom wrappers to trash in lobby when I depart any hotels reserved by me.
7)  For MANY years I never played in my home city, but no longer worry about this... but still pick hotels 30 miles or more from home.
8)  If I reserve the room, I change into a new outfit for date that I brought in my carry-on bag that I check-in with, change back before I return home, and drop off my own clothing I wore to the dry cleaners.  (Be SURE to check pockets!!!)
9)  Hobby phone, in area code out of town, changed with new number periodically.
10) Have a legit-sounding email and screen name that's not real name.  LOL

This has all worked pretty well for over 20 years.... though I did not play (in the US) for a decade.

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I have an unusual situation in that my wife and I are not intimate.  In fact, just because I felt like it, I asked a provider today to scratch the hell out of my back.

It helps as well that my wife has no clue that I have the energy to do anything more strenuous than swearing.

To make sure there is a plausible reason for being absent at any given time, I make a habit of being absent during that time frame.  Most of the time, I am not doing anything.  But being gone for a whole morning or an evening isn't out of the ordinary.  Nor is it unusual for me to have my phone on silent.

I have many more secrets, but they wouldn't be secret if I aired them here, would they?

I found the fool proof precaution

I got divorced, there's no one who cares if I see hookers, except of course me.

I'd have never been able to get away with it when I was married, she was an amateur detective, and I'm a lousy liar.

I've never looked back.

What is worse. Telling your SO or family that you fuck hookers or lying to them about it for X amount of years before they find out? I believe in being brutally honest in all facets in life. I don't tell "white lies" to save peoples feelings, I don't feel the need to hide the truth, at work if I fuck something up I don't wait to see if somebody figures it out. I raise my hand and say hey I fucked up over here. All in all my peers have quite a bit of respect for me because I am honest in all things and it avoids a whole lot of drama.

All that being said thank God I am single.

Just not talking about it with family, and civvie friends is enough.  

As to those precautions I take when hobbying, the most important is to refrain from drinking alcohol if I am driving to & from an incall.  Three times when leaving NYC, I have been stopped at DUI checkpoints, which NYPD sets up every now and then at exit points from Manhattan.  Since a DUI would be as bad, if not worse, than getting busted by LE in a hobby sting, it's a preventable risk.  Now if I'm hosting, or don't have drive anywhere, I will happily share drinks, or a few tokes is she is so inclined.  Periodically clearing phone logs and deleting old texts is also a good idea.  Also, physically destroying old cellphones and hard drives rather than recycling if they were used for hobbying activities is better than taking your chances that someone might do a back trace.  And never, ever use employer provided laptops or electronic devices for that, either.  Discretion is the better part of valor, unless you work for government.

Use your brain more and not doing stupid things like, not setting up your own partition in family computer. Not setting up passwords in smart phone and letting everyone use it . Not having a personal space for yourself.  

If you pattern of behavior, abruptly changing it all of sudden. Don’t go home late on every Wednesday, do so on different days. Never establish a pattern of any type, unpredictable. Set up different bank account, credit card, etc., in your own name for the hobby.  

Above all, Do Not PANIC

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There are many things in my life that naturally lend themselves to hobby secrecy, so those make it easier. Beyond those, the most important thing I can do is plan a real life activity in conjunction with a session. Sometimes three or four activities. Usually, those activities will diffuse, then completely mask any interesting smells I may have picked up during the session. If not, a post session shower is mandatory. With my own personal brand of soap I might add.

I'm lucky in that I have a second job that can be used to explain coming home later than I normally do. Also I periodically get paid in cash, so have my hobby funding. The only problem I ever had was going to a very early morning rendezvous, and when I got back to my real job, realizing I had that slight "perfume" smell on my... Hoped no one at work would notice and I managed to get home early enough to change clothes and shower... I will seriously have to look at keeping a shower kit with me

I consider it part of what I am paid to do... be discreet in every way possible. I keep this a secret from people in my life I know it would truly hurt. I do have some friends who know and don't much think anything of it, but they do not know ALL the details. I pretty much just let them know I am not the type to screw around for free without a benefit in it for me, and they can jump to their own conclusions. Most think I am a gold digger lol.

and I realized all I needed was a good fucking and some head.
So now I tell my SO, I am going to my therapist.
my therapist does not have to tell anybody anything about my visiting or my sessions.

when my SO asks how my session went, I tell her that it really is really helping my state of mind

In Amsterdam its not uncommon for a married woman/man to

to tell her/his spouse that she/he is going to spend the night with the cute guy/girl she/he met and flirted with at the bar or across the room...and the other spouse will most likely say "sure honey" with a kiss and smile....we are a wild bunch...