I know this has been mentioned before but I feel it is important to state this again.

If you are in public and you happen to stumble across one of us, PLEASE do not approach us and start asking questions.  It amazes me at how people think it's cool to walk up and state "are you on the internet". Then after a great cover-up you get "are you bella?".  Sorry but what the hell.  Do you really think we would openly say "oh yes I am her".  How stupid can you be?

Then on top of that if you are "thinking" about approaching one of us, remember you have NO clue who is around us listening with all ears, especially if you are in a bar.  Did you ever stop to think that maybe a boyfriend or significant other is around? Maybe a parent, a child, or just friends that have NO clue what we do.  

This, of course, also goes for the hobbyists.  It would be soo inappropriate and just flat out WRONG if I ran into one that I had spent time with and walked up to you and started talking to you.  

I say ignore them.. Now if you can get away with a smile or a nod, then ok, but if you have NEVER met that person, just do what is right and WALK AWAY. Live your fantasy with, wow I just saw .... in your head!!!!

Ladies and gents chime in....

OUCH!   That would not be a pretty scene.  All you can do is simply reply to the idiot standing in front of you 'I think you have the wrong person' and turn away.
There is no excuse for this type of behavior on either side.  
Nothing else to say about that.

...That half the hobbyists and escorts are of below average intelligence and common sense.  You could say to not approach someone a thousand times, and there will be those who will still approach others.   It will never end, even though it should

My way of approaching someone if I think I know them and I want to be responded to,  is to just look them in the eyes, and see how they respond.   There is nothing wrong with looking a complete stranger directly in the eyes if I am smiling at them.   If they choose to respond to me, then fine.   If they choose not not acknowledge me, then that is perfectly fine too.

Luckily, I have been lucky though.   I always wonder if I were to meet on the street some of the women I have seen if they would be discreet enough to not approach me.  That would cause some problems.

-- Modified on 8/8/2008 11:23:49 AM

That asking you to autograph the 8X10  photo of you I carry with me all the time is a no-no also.


Thank You
2008=27

However, those are the folk on TER....   I would suppose that of the total hobbying population this represents only a fraction.  Witness,

a little over a year ago, I took a pornstar-escort to my favorite strip-club.  Not only did guys approach her, but the managers approached her to try to set something up.... not too cool... although she was a great sport about all of this.

During the same period of time, I was out at an incredibly "upscale" restaurant with a "stripper-escort" - who was dressed to accent her uh "features."  I excused myself to go to the bathroom and when I returned, she had laid out 4 business cards on the table.... from "GENTS?" who had approached her.  needless to say, that too, was not too cool....

In short, I've witnessed this behavior - and in the case of the Pornstar - one of the dudes admitted that he had seen her announcement of coming to my city.... but just did not wish to call.????  What?  So it was cool to do so in front of me?!   yea - right.

well, the women I meet in this hobby - are incredibly classy!!  and I too, look at beautiful women all the time, whether I know them or not!

So i'm wondering how they new it was you.

Most ladies do post their face and that is a big problem for them. My picture is all over the place and thank god it has never happened to me.

I have ran into gentlemen that I have seen before with no problems. I do know how to behave in public and do hope most of the gentlemen here do to.

It never hurts to give us a little reminder though

Kisses Haley

I suggest that we touch the corner of our left eye with out left index finger as a way of saying:  "I (eye) know you."

I tried that one time and stuck my finger in my eye. Since then, I just stick my left index finger in my left nostril. It has almost the same effect.
jhb

I am a Psychologist in a fairly small town. I run into clients on a regular basis in public sttings. What I do is I do not acknowledge them but if they come up and talk to me, which most do, then I carry on a pleasent conversation with them  I have been amazed actually. People have introduced me to their friends as their "shrink" I actually discuss this topic with my clients ahead of time so they will know why I am ignoring them if I do see them.

Now I am single so if any provider sees me in public, which is very doubtful, then you can come up to me and chat all you want.  I would certainly have the good sense to not acknowledge you first. It's interesting that I find many parallels between my profession and yours. Except I cannot have sex with my clientsThat would get me in big time trouble. Any way I am ethically bound by and understand the concept of confidentiality and being discreet.

I agree with the need to be discreet in public. I was in a fast food restaurant one day and a stripper who I knew from a strip club saw me. I did not see her instead of approaching me as soon as she saw me she waited until she saw that I was alone then came up to me and spoke. She stated that she would not walk up to someone she met at the club without seeing if that person was with a female. I thought that was very thoughtful.

I took it for granted, unless you are really close to the provider and she actually greets you.

No public contact.  It's a hard fast rule people.  You are OUTING the other person.

I thought I saw a SP at a nice bar one Friday night and resisted the urge to even look at her again.  About two months later, I booked my first appt. with her. Asked her if she was there that night.

She enthusiastically said, "OMG, yes I was wearing a white dress."  Amazing that a woman can remember her outfit two months prior...

Should my ATF ever see me in public and out me, my only recourse would be to shout to the heavens, "Yes, this absolutey hottest woman on the planet rocks my world on a regular basis, neh, neh, neh, neh, nehhhhhhh!!!"

Lay it on me babe.

-Western

Bella, agree with you totally; I have never experienced the phenomena of meeting a lady I have seen or wanted to see in the street, restuarant , or anywhere else. I like to think I would mentally acknowlege it to myself & move on..Would not think of approaching her.

Unfortunaley , the booze has its impact here; need to really watch this if you spot someone in a restuarant or club..

BS..we are indeed truly fortunate to have such beautiful & wonderful ladies here on TER..I tend to agree the intelligence level of most folks here on the GDB is pretty impressive; I have learned alot ablut all kinds of subject for the folks here.

wander over to P&R...that will change your mind in a hurry!

Hobbyists and ladies alike need to exercise the greatest discretion when it comes to "seeing someone" in public.  

Example, last weekend I was at an upscale mall in the Tampa area and kept a careful eye out to be sure none of the ladies I have shared "private time" came walking by and wanted to share a public greeting since I often sit is the aisle while waiting for my SO to shop in one of "her stores".  What if SO might just happen to come out to the aisle and say "who was that you were talking with?"  "Oh, just some hot chick who wanted to hang out" will not cut it.  

Practice safe sex and safe conduct.

Many men I have seen who said they were singfle ( no ring on in session) have cringed, terrified that I was going to aproch him ..and his wife walks up. I just happened to be in the dairy section at the same time.
Of course I wouldn't say anything but many guys look really scared.

I agree 100%...I have been out shopping etc and on numerous occasions have had gentlemen approach me, even when my little boy is standing right next to me holding my hand...another txt me when i was doing last minute christmas shopping looking at towels..txt read "go with the red ones" had no clue who it was (didnt recognize the #) and was so creeped out that i left the store and missed out on a great sale for plush towels As much as i enjoy the people I spend time with at no time under any circumstances do i ever want to be acknowledged when i am with my children...i prefer to not be approached regardless although if eye contact is made a simple nod or smile is more then enough.

I've always wondered what I would do if someone I knew came up to me when I was on a dinner date with a lady.

Similarly, what would the lady do if someone she knew came up to her.

Maybe I should stick to the 1 and 2 hour dates.

that providers have to point out the obvious.

C'mon, guys, we should be better than that!

Hats off to you today! You are one of the founding fathers who helped make this site so great.  
    Thankyou
      Kisses Haley

Eye contact, a slight nod, walk on by...  
skb

If you not comfortbale being a escort and being  see out if public.

Why are you a escort?

You should not be doing it.

That said I would not walk up to a lady I have seen, and just start talking. But a simple head nod or just a passing smile is that ok.

Bengalguy

I'm in MEl's diner on Sunset Blvd, eating a Ruben and minding my own bizz when this guy barges in on my happy reverie to ask if he can sit with me. NO.

Can I tell you a joke. NO.

I'm a bigshot movie producer and I want you in my films. [yeah right] NO.

Then he starts begging and making a total ass of himself, loudly letting the whole place know he recognized me from watching PORN and that I have great tits, and he wishes I would show them to him RIGHT NOW. In fact, he made sure everyone could hear him tell me how much $ he had and that he was willing to give it all to me if I came home with him, because he knows for a FACT that all porn chicks are ho's.

WoW.

I am a Lady, so I didn't kick him in the balls, but the security guard (friend of mine) did make sure to trip him on his way out.

.....

Men demand our attention all the time. We graciously give more than 100% and never complain because most of us really enjoy what we do. But when we're relaxing, or make it clear your attention is not what we want then just smile and leave. Don't take it personally. We still like you, we just want time to ourselves.

A knee in the groin sounds more apropos than a common trip.

Was that the OP and others could have posted this exact same message every single day, and there will be those who simply either do not read it, or simply do not understand it, and will still approach others in public when it should not happen.

And as to averages, even among the great people on the TER GDB, there are those who are above average, and those who are below average.   There simply is no way that everybody can be above average!