Wanted to see what the opinion is when a hobbyist arranges a GFE and the Provider sets up someone they knew wasn't on their Best Day or even a decent Day to be able to do the experience.
 Ran into this this past Weekend and wanted to see what the opinion is from those more experienced than me in this area.
 Turned into an expensive Day without any experience to take away from this.

Your question is too vague for a clear response. Was the lady reviewed as a GFE provider? If so what was the reason for her not being able to provide the services that you arranged for?

A good provider will rarely show it however, and will soldier on as if nothing is amiss.

Sadly, not all providers are able to do that.  Some, if they are smart, will cancell and explain extenuating circumstances.  Those will be fine.

Others do not, and severely impact their reputations as well as lose a client.

It happens.  We have all had expensive lessons but realize we can not even hope to get 100% of what is advertised.  It even happens when it is not your first meeting.  What to do?  Search for good consistent reviews and when you find someone who clicks with you, repeat.  That will improve your percentage.

She may be willing to refund your money or set up another date when she is sure she can deliver to you what you desire and need.  We are all human beings, and sometimes we genuninely just can't put on a happy face.  Mr. Fisher is correct that it would have been better to reschedule, but my guess is that the provider would really want to make this up to you in some way.

Aa a courtesan, I do not see gents on my off days and think most women do the same, so it leads me to wonder about you. I don't mean this in an offensive way but was your hygiene lacking in some way?

All to often gents will come over expecting a full GFE session when clearly they haven't taken care of the basics, a thorough shower, flossing and brushing, minimal cologne. You would be amazed. And then they expect to kiss the whole time. Bad breathe is a HUGE turnoff. You will not get GFE, you WILL get avoidance. Did you glaze over washing your backdoor?  (we CAN smell that!, EWWW)

Also did you try to do things to her that she clearly did not like?  Was the word "ouch" used at all? Were you trying to put hickies on her neck, breastfeed or otherwise scar her? LMAO but serious.

I write this not just for you but for the many men who don't get their GFE wishes fullfilled. Looks are not important in most cases, but hygiene and courtesy always are.

You don't give us much detail to answer your question.

What's with the refund? He had a session and did the deed (he didn't say he didn't) so he got something...not worth a refund IMHO.

At this pint in time we know nothing about the details of what was not GFE. It may have been a case of YMMV. Maybe a review might be in order if she allows them.

There's a high percentage of women who make the claim and don't deliver. If you are not a VIP member, you might want to become one so that you can get the research you need to find providers who deliver and then some. If you can't get a clear indication from her reviews or some other data don't see her. You are not alone.

that sometimes personalities clash.  I wouldn't think this would happen too often but maybe this was the issue.  Just try to find someone who is a better fit.  That's all you can do....try, try again!

You don't mention if you read all her reviews. Especially the juicy details. There are a lot of new escorts entering the business. They claim GFE, but they don't really know the definition.


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more than enough gray area there that unless I asked what she had in mind I won't really know what she was thinking.

An agent does that. May that was the disconnect.

And how would "the Provider" know someone wasn't having a good day?

gripe is with the agency, but they may not have known the escort was not at her best if she needed or wanted to work.  It's up to the woman to tell the agency she doesn't feel up to giving a GFE on a particular day.                                      

The agency probably won't make it up to him as it's "he said, she said." I  don't think the agency would care enough about one client to waive their agency fee on a make-up session.

So sad, so true!

Ok, so I think GFE is the dumbest term EVER for what we do, lol, ask any of my ex's for a review of me & they will not likely be as high as my TER reviews!

The problem with agencies is that the girl may not be in a position to cancel if she wants to keep getting booked.

Tell us more!

forget it and move on.  Though you say a provider set up this person. If this was an agency or someone you use regularly, I would let them know you were not pleased and why.  If it was your first experience, just forget and never use them again.  

It happens to all of us in all kinds of purchases from time to time: a lemon of a car, a vacation that doesn't live up to expectations, etc.

as a lemon date.  If you only went by the review numbers (scores) and were disappointed, then, next time read the reviews.

In this case it was not me that had the problem.  It was that the Provider was Medically under the Weather and the Agency she works for was aware that she was not at her Best and yet still went ahead with the Session.

Wasn't Red Tide but another Medical Condition which meant wasted most of the Time when she could have Cancelled or Postponed which I proposed but she didn't want to(Too concerned with Money and not what this would do to a Budding Relationship).

No Deed was done, that is what prompted me to write on the Forum in general.  Instead was waiting for Medicine which meant no Session at all but instead listening to her Complain and didn't think to Cancel(wanted Money instead).  

Yes she is with an Agency, had informed the person doing the Bookings that she was not able to see people but kept her going anyway.  When I called, wasn't told of her being under the Weather Medically but kept the Booking due to wanting the Money I would provide and their fee they would receive from the Appointment.  Was even called to tell me of change of Site to meet.
She asked to not write a Bad Review since she is New to this Business and this particular Agency.
Time spent was not something I would want again.

Wasn't based on Personality(had seen her before).  Was based on an unknown Medical Condition(Diabetes) which she was needing some Insulin and she didn't want to Cancel even when I had suggested doing that.  Just a Bad session all around.

Situation is the Agency did know, but they wanted her to work since they had few people to work since it was the Weekend.  You've got it right about them probably not making it up or waiving the Fee.