That truly sucks! You deserve better! I'm sorry that happened to you.
Most of us have been here for years, but someone messaged me — a very kind, sweet, respectful, and promising person — and asked what some rookie mistakes people make are.
And honestly, everybody makes rookie mistakes every single day. I made one today myself.
So I told her: I’ll tell you mine if you tell me yours. 😂
Now it’s your turn. What’s a rookie mistake you’ve made lately?
Love,
Katie
asking a provider about specific sex acts that may or may not be included or available. They can avoid this by simply asking the provider if their TER profile is up to date with respect to the services offered. If they ask directly about sex acts, they will most likely be ghosted by the provider, or at the very least, get off to a rough start.
It also FEELS like a mistake to mention Rancho Mirage to some providers. Lol
I can't, because of the word, "lately." Lol
Well, my rookie mistake happened YESTERDAY. And it's a spin-off of this.
I am OFTEN assumed to be UTR as a cam girl. And I've decided that I am going to do some light touring in October. Dip my toes in the water. So, yesterday morning, a gent from Philly asked me if I do P4P. I replied "TER" but I told him to go to my site. Then I tell him to email me.
I ask him if he's on any review sites and he says he's married and doesn't want to sign up for anything else. He just picks girls from the site that he likes and most of them have rates on their pages....
He comes back asking me the rate and what is included etc. I haven't decided on any of that myself! So I just stopped replying. It felt weird and I clearly wasn't gonna get a review from it. But that's less money than I will have for Rancho Mirage....
-K
Stay away. He is wasting your time.
Very few guys when they first look into escorts understand how to insure a provider is legit. They are unaware of TER. They are unaware of the number of scammers that exist. Their little head is doing almost all of the thinking. New Guy (we will call him) sees that ad for a smoking hot vixen and she is, of course, one of the cheaper providers. He reaches out and all seems to go smooth. No screening is even asked, not that he would even know that it's a thing. And yes, of course, she wants a deposit to secure the date. And, many suckers send that cash over because little head has been hard ever since he thought he was going to bang this hottie. And, then, crickets. He never hears from her again.
He goes through a series of emotions. He rages and is pissed. Then, he feels a little sad. At some point, he decides he's an idiot for falling for it. He might even wonder, well maybe something happened and I will still hear from her. All these emotions and the disappointment leads New Guy on a hunt for escort reviews. And, when he discovers TER, he goes full keyboard warrior and leaves a rip-off review.
Thank you New Guy for being a TOFTT Deposit. Hopefully, you learned your lesson and will now be experienced enough to benefit from reviews from other suckers.
I was visiting someone I've seen on a few occasions, so I knew the drill.
I was walking down the hallway to her apt. I was feeling high as a kite, totally invincible kinda like they don't make bullets fast enough. I had that hop to my walk.I think I might have been whistling some tune,,, I was just in a good mood.
As always she asked that you don't knock on the door. It'll be slightly open when you get there.
Well, I got to the door and...I KNOCKED. Did the Da da da da da....da da iconic knock
When she opened the door, she looked at me, eyes telling me, "Happy...you know better"....oops
I was with a great gal I'd seen a couple of times before. I never thought to review what her rules were. I was having a great time. She really was a terrific fuck. I went for an oral finish and blew a huge load in her mouth. She immediately started yelling about how I'd forgotten she didn't do CIM and why didn't I let her know?
I apologized profusely. She gargled.
Agreed to an outcall without a deposit. Paid for parking. Showed up at the hotel. No one there. Left after ten minutes. Five minutes later he called and tried to claim he had been there. He was not.
Agreed to an outcall without a deposit. Paid for parking. Showed up at the very nice private residence. The gentleman whose name and info I had received was there … and had no idea who I was or what I was doing.
Agreed to an outcall without a deposit. Took an Uber that I paid for. Showed up at the very nice apartment complex. Guy stopped answering all messages. I couldn’t get an Uber back and ended up walking a mile alone in the dark.
This was all within the past month or so. Sorry, boys, I can no longer do outcalls to texting app guys without a deposit.
That truly sucks! You deserve better! I'm sorry that happened to you.
Having both emails on my regular phone and leaving it open. No timeout in like 10 seconds of inactivity.🤦🏻♂️
before I could see a hooker.
When I went down to the police station the nice officer told me that I didn't have to register until after I saw the hooker.
Why don't they tell us these things in school or somewhere?
Were you wearing a wool pork pie hat and a plaid sport coat? Yes, yes you were quite the dapper gentleman, I remember it well. And very polite.
Still waiting for your paperwork to come across my desk though.
Pre internet we had a trusted lady we would call to see who she had available. It worked well maybe it should return ? Seeing girls back then was getting harder and harder to do to so I bit the bullet and contacted P-411 to " get verified ". Gina and her crew extracted several pounds of flesh from me to get this done as I have always run my own business ( self employed people always get a harsh lookover ) . As a fresh new p-411 guy with 0 oks I started my search. I found some girl who had more red flags than you can imagine, but I didn't know it. She did have a reference sheet no longer used ( many years ago ) that stated she offered a BBBJ. Her fake pictures looked good and I was hooked. I stupidly set up an meeting at my home residence. She showed up and quickly asked for the cash which I stupidly gave her. Immediately after she received the cash she starting acting weird and and said she didn't feel comfortable. As you can guess she looked nothing like her pictures. End of the day I got 1/3 of my money back and she hit the road happy as hell ! She did log a complaint on me with P-411, thankfully I just told the truth to the p-411 crew and that ended my first real experience in the internet stage of seeing providers.
Either you have your years mixed up or your internet mixed up. Been getting escorts off the internet since the late 90s. It wasn’t quite prevalent that far back. But it certainly started taking off more by the early 2000s.
I agree , around 2000 I first started using the internet to look for girls. I also still used phone calling to a special lady for a long time as it worked well for me. I also resisted giving up my info online . My years might be off but not much for me.
Before the internet, it was mainly ads in the free weeklies on the street and the free monthlies inside the strip clubs.
Usenet lists included topics such as alt.sex.prostitution and there non-usenet forums where people could exchange information about opportunities and their reliability, authenticity, safety, etc.. I do not specifically remember anything that could be regarded as "ads" but the information was getting out there.
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Usenet was just a dent. The print media, mentioned by ed, still dominated (not to be confused with alt.sex.bdsm dominated).
Before the internet, it was mainly ads in the free weeklies on the street and the free monthlies inside the strip clubs.
I’ve used a particular agency for years with never a disappointment. Hadn’t been to them (or anyone) for almost two years. I got the itch, went to the site and decided to see the new girl with no reviews. Oops. Not a new girl. Just a new profile. With reason. What a waste of time and money. I might wait another two years for the next one. But I’ll never again Toftt.
—-later
I love this thread! KK 💥
Fortunately, for me I have not had a repeat of any rookie mistakes. I did enjoy reading everyone whom participated. I think because my business is extremely selective I take my precious time considering all new potential clients. I am not in a rush and poses patience. Intuition. I feel I am at the top of my game. I started requiring deposits to book way back in 2010. Time is a luxury many people can not afford to waste. I choose to spend my time wisely & respect other people's time as well.
....in the initial contact information including personal information about my appareance and age etc. Was ghosted twice. I even posted about it here. It was almost exactly a year ago actually. lol
A rookie mistake I ALMOST made was booking a provider that is known to text back a menu of services once you contact her. She ended up being arrested a literally a few days later for pimping and trafficking of all things.