was watching Dr Phil last week.  he made the general statement that most women who go into prostitution do so because of  low self esteem, have been abused as a child or are addicts of some kind.  I think that this is an unfair statement as I have met many providers that seem to be happy well adjusted people.  what do you think? is the escort business full of wackos and damage people ?

who put way too much effort into appearing as if they are just the opposite as what you mentioned,
which again I personally find a little bizarre when people try to portray themselves as to fly listen to perfect and they aren't really human or genuine or seem to have any real problems or anything realistic to talk about besides trying to sell themselves and act like they are some fancy high and person
I think in itself that can be a little bit deranged.
all the different people in the world and brains all acts differently.I think that's what makes the world so interesting.
some peoples typing styles are different
certain people may have different issues going on were typing may be more difficult for them
I know for me this week I haven't been able to use my right on my fibro is acting up in the right side of my upper back
It's Made doing chores and cooking quite interesting
you should have seen me trying to chop potatoes with my left arm without being able to use my right arm today it was absolutely the funniest thing in the world
I think what most people would say is crazy usually some of the most creative successful people would be deemed crazy by people who are  supposedly whatever people think normal is supposed to be.
     I don't know anyone who grew up in a perfect home that does not have any tragedy .
I have one friend who is very successful extremely stable and her father got arrested for selling her one when we were in high school and was on the front page of the paper
then the police were always at her house because her dad would beat up her mother
I went away on a family vacation with them my parents were divorced we didn't have family vacations anymore so most of my friends in the neighborhood I got brought on their family vacations
I remember showing me her dads crack pipe we're about 11 years old he kept in the bathroom
this is one of many of the people I grew up with who had a rocky family around them but they turned out to be very very balanced and very successful with normal jobs and normal families
that particular girl she is doing very well she has a job as a nurse she has a child and she has a husband and she always has been very normal she's never been crazy she's never been a drunk she's never had any drug problems always a good student
I think this job may attract people who have a lot of creative things they are trying to do that they may need the free time to do. obviously if you're trying to start a business or following some dream to become a famous musician or whatever your case maybe you may not be able to do that if you're working 40 hours a week at a job that pays a lot of your energy
I've heard people say that to that most dancers and most escorts had problems before
well I'm speaking from someone that does go to counseling every week
to be completely honest my therapist is very all for me escorting.I tell her all about my job she laughed a lot of the stuff but she doesnt think its a bad job for me.she had said to me once there are some people that will go through some things and it can be traumatic to them. then you can have another person go through the same experiences and it will not be traumatic at all to them.
I do admit I have a lot better self esteem when I am escorting.there's nothing like having a guy a lot older than you come over and look at you and treat you like you are just the most amazing thing he's ever seen.
I can attest I have never once had a guy the same age as me treat me as nice as the older guys treat me.
I don't really know about that because I grew up with a lot of people with extremely traumatizing things going on around them all through school
and every single one of them was a good student and now has a very successful nice normal career family in life
I definitely don't think that is true what he said because what is he basing that study on probably 95 percent of the women who escort don't tell their counselors about it or talk openly about it to anyone
is probably basing that study on the few 5 percent that are open about that to people
which is probably a very small percentage in a certain personality type that likes to talk about crazy things to people.
well as thing other people may think it's crazy to me it's not crazy I think it's a perfectly great career I don't think there's anything wrong with it make a lot of people happy and it helps me out because I have a hard time to with a lot of things having fibro.
like for example yesterday I was at stop n shop and I realized I can't lift my shopping basket it was only a tiny shopping basket too.
so I had to call my friend that was out in the car and I had him come in and get it for me to help me
all I was thinking is I have to get home and get something in my stomach so I can take a motrin 800
and you have to be very strong to not get extremely frightened when all the sudden you're unable to move completely
what happened a couple of times the most embarrassing was when it was during an appointment and I curled up in a ball and I had to get a heating pad and then we had to call 911 I had to get rushed to hospital
I literally could not move I was in such bad pain from fibromyalgia
so I think everybody does this job for a reason and some people may be very very grateful they have this as a job
I know I have a neighbor and she has fibromyalgia and she has to have a personal shopper and then she has to have a house age coming to her house keeping for her cause she's not able to do dishes or vacuum or anything
and I read on the internet people that have that disorder if they start to get ostracized from other people because they go on disability it can make their condition worsens
as far as the mental illness thing goes I am sure this is very convenient for people who has mental illness and are able to interact with people well in public or maybe they just don't have the ability to keep a stable job because they have mental disorders
and then the whole thing about people having been molested well I didn't have to say it when I was a dancer they were an awful lot of the girls I was friends with their that has been molested
but I think we would find that at any job if people opened up about it there are probably a lot that were.
definitely a lot of people assume promiscuity means and equate molestation as a child growing up.

Do so because:
They want to be healers but haven't the balls to do med school and an internship...
Or:
Because they want to be in the science community, but can't cut the math and are pretty slushy about collecting uncontaminated data...
Or:
Are terrified of the goblins in their own minds and figure if they can pass themselves off as psychologists nobody will catch on that they're scared shitless...
Or: They like to quantify behavior even though there is no mathematical way of doing it...
Or: They just like to probe into other people's shit until they find out that being a clinical psychologist means spending an inordinate amount of time with nut jobs, then they switch to research and either go into psychometrics for corporate America or hook up with a pharmaceutical company and live out their Lomanesque lives as rat wranglers.
Or:
They're too lazy to do anything else and can't bear a work environment that doesn't have a couch nearby.

From what I have heard about Dr Phi, he lives in a very fragile glass house and should put those stones down immediately.

Dear Ms. Bond:
I am just wondering if you had to take a survey from your colleagues on the reason they ended up as providers I am sure that they would have a wide range of replies. With that said, would you hazard a guess that most of the providers that you have come across get in because they can make enough money to supplement their mainstream incomes? Would you also say on this tier of the game that most of the providers would have some college education and are smart and articulate business women who have some type of concept on how to market their commodities and know the specific questions to ask and where to find an answer? Also would you say that the group of women who you do come across are some of the most savvy hustlers and screeners and know how to protect themselves as well as raise and maintain revenue and price themselves accordingly? With this said, would you deduct that the typical woman that you would come across in this particular tier of the game would be a lot closer to the woman that would work a mainstream profession but with a little more daring,calculation and moxie about how they apply the scope of their skills to optimize their revenue streams? Thus if you would answer these questions accordingly the typical woman the Dr. Phil would be alluding to , would be the antithesis of who would be participating on this level of the industry.

And, some happen to be anything else you can name. The rest of us are fine---even the escorts

You need to be nutso as well.

Rather than the aspirin I would suggest he learn how to use a vaporizer.

Posted By: hotplants

And, some happen to be anything else you can name. The rest of us are fine---even the escorts  
   
 Take 2 aspirin and stop watching Dr Phil.

Housewives. So he will assess based on what they want to hear.

(And that's about what it's worth) is that there are as many different types of personalities (damaged or otherwise) among providers as among most other populations, including clients.  It may be true that there are a lot of girls that are trafficced, damaged, pimped and otherwise taken advantage of.  These tend to be BP girls and maybe some agency girls, depending on the agency.  My very limited sampling leads me to believe that most of the independent ladies that are on TER are not advertising on BP, do significant screening, turn down a goodly number of potential dates and otherwise indicate that they are independent people who have chosen to be providers - some for the long term, some for short term financial issues and who will then will return to RL.

Sorry, minor point, but i cant agree with your ridiculous CEO comment, which you've said before. If you mean a provider is intelligent enough to be a fortune 500 CEO, there is no doubt. But capable, there is not a single person here on your side. Why? For one thing, it takes discretion, organization, and leadership skills. The discretion part is the main problem. A person who could choose hooking as a professional career, no matter how talented, does not have the discretion to run a Fortune 500 company. Do you even understand how shareholders would crucify a public company to have such a person who makes risky decisions like that at the helm?  

I'm now waiting for neurobiologists to weigh in on the issue, studying possible variations in brain activity between escorts and non-escorts. I don't think anything can be gleaned from a checklist. If a person is simply asked if they have good self-esteem or low self-esteem, most don't really knows what that means in a comparative sense.

Seriously, the guy doesn't have a medical license.

That nut ball does not help people...
He makes money off of what he can sell..
That.. Is ratings? Commercial time?

but I doubt it is the women.  

A psychologist has a degree and is certified to listen to your problems and help you work through them but can't prescribe psychopharmaceuticals, but s/he can diagnose you. So, he does so, but only within the confines of what's considered symptoms of disorders.

He didn't say "all." The definition of "most" is 50%+1. It seems very realistic that "most" ladies that go into prostitution have those kinds of issues. Then again, as hotplants and others have said there are people with those issues in all types of other occupations, including psychology.

Maybe we hobybists should put together a fund and ask for a volunteer provider to go service DR Phil and see what he thinks then

So, I don't give it any thought.
Deprived

Because doctors, lawyers, servers, street sweepers, teachers, CEO's, workaholics, and housewives also have low self esteem, have been abused as a child, or are addicts of some kind.

They go into that field to find out what's wrong with them.

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He took two and felt better, so he didn't follow through.

Total contradiction… especially when you JUST said you'd never see a woman who admitted to thinking anything negative about her job as a hooker.