Hey Folks,

I'm not sure there is much you can do since you're not even supposed to know what's on that board.   TER could ask you who told you that and they'd get in trouble if you told them.

You missed a golden opportunity to name this thread "Episode V: Providers Strike Back"

Providers are PROHIBITED from sharing what is said on the PO board, just like reviewers are forbidden from leaking things said on the RO board.  Now that he has run his big fat mouth here on GD telling the whole fucking world that there are providers leaking things said on PO about him and any provider sticking up for him is going to be labeled the leaker.

So there is another guy in your age range that a lady said has Asperger Syndrome and trashed, that was posted as well

Just say what was posted on our po board????  
What in the actual fuck? 😒

MacLeaky is still here, so they can't be taking it too seriously.

That the provider who was talking shit is brynn huh 😂😂 that’s your last review which was a 5/5 😂😂

Exactly

It's so good to have a topic different from the last few days.
Rip the leaking bitches and bastards new ones!  

"Some provider said some guy...."

If you honestly think people aren’t sharing info across boards then I’ve got a bridge to sell you...

No doubt.  Old timers here are more likely to have friendly providers feeding them all the gossip.  Old timers are objecting to others now getting in on the gossip.

Almost every time a guy describes himself as "Sweet" or "romantic" or the famous "nice guy" he turns out to be complete trash. I'm just saying. In my years of screening and meeting guys, screening for other ladies and getting feedback, whenever a guy describes himself as a nice guy, i know he's going to be at minimum annoying, at worst terrifying. So i'm not sure her posts about you are unwarranted. Its very unlikely a lady would make comments like that about you if they didn't happen, theres a reason those website are confidential.

I have NEVER described myself as either "Sweet" or "romantic". I think most providers recognize the various synonyms for "stalker" "boundary pusher" and "love sick puppy dog" lmao

After reading the OPs reviews I think you may be onto something.

Apparently she doesn't want to see you anymore. Go find another hooker to play with.

I'm a nice guy.  Of course I don't usually toot my horn when setting up dates because ... well I wasn't taught to brag on myself.  But if I didn't think I was a nice guy, well, I'd feel pretty shitty about myself in that case.

Well, thanks all for the colorful responses!   Did not know certain protocols that were called out. live and learn.
I did hear a suggestion last night that worked.  And that was from a provider I have not reviewed.  They pointed the negative comment I was referring to out to me.  They have simply posted the negative comment was not their experience, and that I was a good guy.  Will accumulate those.   Ultimately, as many of you said, its a free country, so touche, I will get some thicker skin.

because another potential provider brought it up

Here I'm sympathetic to all the women who claim fake reviews and things on open boards they don't like... I'm rethinking that one...  

the provider was using that flawed info to determine whether we should get together...and that could happen again and again..simple train of thought

well said~!

I don't care what they think but if it begins to impacts who sees you or not than its an issue

no, it must have been a while ago.  The provider said it was last summer but wouldn't say who.  I had never heard of this secret providers resource.  The thought I "was a nice guy and wanted to let me know".  They put a comment in to the contrary.

You've never met him, but you are 100% implying he's a " problem client". Based on the word of another woman....you have also never met.  
This is the 1st time on these boards I've ever " jumped in anyone's shit". But you're dead wrong here.
Now, if you have seen him or witnessed 1st hand that has a problem, then I'll recant....
But reviews are subjective...
Each writes what they feel was of note...to them.
" Oily skin"?
Ok....maybe she has a true dermatological issue.
But do you know That?  
Can you 100% say that she kept up with her hygiene that day?
If the guy had shown up with oily skin....something tells me that you would be on the soapbox bashing his hygiene habits.
Basically, you are going to side with " provider"....everytime.  
Which makes your opinion " null and void".

This guys best bet is to never give out his TER name, you’ve looked through his reviews haven’t you? There are a lot of ladies that won’t see him based on his reviews and scoring. He will do just fine only using references from those that have no issues with him.

I did look at his reviews. And I scrolled through the ratings of the ladies he reviewed low. They tend to have a lot of middle of the road reviews.
Is he a little more critical than Most?
Probably...
But reviews are ( once again) subjective.
I'm not here to take up for him...
I'm just speaking up as to the " provider is always right" mentality.
I'll speak up against a guy when he's in the wrong just as fast.

I've been a nice guy. I had a reg for 8 years get into drugs. I'd white knight since I didn't see it and of course she treated me well.  

Seriously!  I showed up clean, friendly, and with a good attitude.  She was kind of dirty..oily was the nicest word I could come up with.  Like she'd been sleeping all afternoon in a hot room.  Did not freshen up at all.  I also asked her to brush her teeth too but didn't put that in the review!.  My review wasn't trying to hurt her but to give a reasonable steer to other hobbyist.  "not freshening up" seemed like something I would want other hobbyist to take into consideration.  

While I agree with you, it’s there choice who to see and give it up to. As I said, he should avoid having them know his TER name. It limits his acceptance where they don’t want to be downgraded or begrudged by oily skin or the few extra pounds, true or not, it might cost him opportunity. He can still review them later, and as long as they don’t put 2 and 2 together they will likely just complain it was a fake review, true or not...

If not based on his reviews, what was your opinion based on? This thread?? Seems it was your pointing out the comment of oily skin which was in his review. That an how unkept or dirty she was. If you where in his place how would you have wanted others to know and consider meeting her?

Smartie brought up the oily skin comment in his review in an earlier post. Who am I to say? I wasn't there either. I don't know him, or her. I see patterns in his reviews, but that doesn't give me the right to label him as this or that. I don't know how I would have put that particular issue in to review. I don't see women who have hygiene problems. Actually...if the girl was dirty, I would have walked. Then there wouldn't have been a review to leave anyway.
If I showed up dirty or drunk, or whatever, she would be well within her right to kick my ass out. But I'm not a disrespectful prick...so that isn't ever going to be the case. It's just a disagreement. I saw your comment that I better hope my username is never known. Why, because not getting in line with what any provider says on here means I'm a problem client? She uses an alias too. So do you. All the shit posted about this SESTA stuff and censorship, but I should fear having a different opinion on a matter than someone else? Well fuck me!

My suggestion was he would be better off not letting his TER name be known as his history might turn others off. I however write reviews as an alias. Not to slam a bad session though.

Most providers have been abused and treated badly by men. So when a guy is nice to a provider it's a shock to their system. Think about it for a minute. If someone has been treated badly and abused for a while that's the behavior they expect from everyone. It's very sad. I've had a few providers like this. When a guy is nice to these girls they don't know how to react. It's like the "Deer In The Headlight" look.

I read 6 of your reviews, half positive and half negative, and there's nothing dehumanizing or degrading about what you wrote as long as it's accurate.  If providers can't handle being held to account for their poor hygiene or performance then they should de-list and find a safe space.

Who?

Neither you, nor I know the truth in this. It could be a problem, or it could be bad hygiene. I just don't see it as harshly as you do. Dehumanizing...not so much. Demoralizing.... yes, if she has self esteem issues, I'm sure it could be quite hurtful to her.
He may have made a rash judgement about her skin.
But she may have also not freshened up before the appointment  
Are you absolutely saying that a skin issue is the only reason this could have occurred? That there's no possibility that her or any provider out there may not  keep up with themselves once in awhile?
I'm just trying to be objective here...
If the tables were turned, and a " trick" showed up to you " appearing" dirty, would you accept it as a condition rather than he didn't bath?
I just think your having a knee-jerk reaction to him saying something about a fellow provider.
Anyway....ive lost interest in this debate, as it's going nowhere. You have your opinion, and it's clear you won't be swayed.

If I had a nickel for every provider who told me they were on an antidepressant or anti-anxiety or bipolar  medication, then I'd have a giant vault like Scrooge McDuck filled with nickels.  And these are the well-reviewed ones!

I completely understand how sensitive women are about looks. The oily skin part wasn’t necessary.  

I don't doubt that many of the stories I'm told are true since the women I've spoken with seem very sincere and honest.  

More than 25% of all women in the USA are on mental health drugs of some sort, leading my friend to quip -- "Oh my God, that means 75% of them are walking around untreated!!!"

I had a similar situation once. Having a chat with a lady and I asked something that I thought was harmless and her response almost brought her to tears. Her eyes got watery but she withheld the tears. I felt really bad. I don't know if she was on meds though but what a sad site to see.

Was with an agency girl, who I saw for over a year intermittently. She had been drinking...
But she broke down crying and thanking me for always treating her as a lady, and not a pro.
God, I miss her!

Think of it as nature's massage lube.

XoXo