I do. We are very attracted to one another and a great match sexually (well, she doesn't give a very good or deep blow job and that is pretty hard to tell a woman even though I've tried).  

I was stupid and also meant people in LT relationships that might not be married ones.

reason why we exist, for uncomplicated, NSA attached fun where you can have the best of both worlds without the emotional attachments..

If my wife were a great match sexually for me and we really, truly satisfied each other completely, every 7-10 days or so, I'd think I'd died and gone to heaven. I sure wouldn't be hobbying.

I imagine that many on this board, considering all have played around in the past and still are, will laugh, snicker and think I am full of shit, when I say that I was married for 52 years w/o straying. I'm not religious nor a goody2 shoes.  I was married to a great woman who loved me and we had great sex throughout our life until she became ill and died. I would say throughout most of our life we averaged at least 1/week. She gave great BJ's. I had ample chances to stray but I didn't.
I think that it was more common in my circle of college couples to remain married. The 4 groups we knew stayed together all their lives. I don't know if any strayed but they did stay together.
So there have been faithfull couples and maybe there still are. The sample of this group probably won't find many who are completely satisfied with i woman. Times have changed and now that I am a widower, I'm glad they Have!!!!

Wife once said she could take it or leave it (sex).  What she didn't say was she really didn't want to.  It was second marriage for both of us & her kids were the excuse to avoid sex.  It was once a year when we went away to a dinner / dance / annual meeting for a group we belonged to.  Sex, when it was allowed was by appointment only (except I didn't need to leave an envolupe)...  never spontanious sex.  When she gave in to it she seemed to have a good time & ussually had a big final O.  
Oh, yes, she doesn't like touching or being touched, kissing, cuddling either.  If I had known, I'd have passed on her entirely as all these things are important to me.   When I tried to get her to participate more often, she said (when the children were younger) "It wouldn't always be like this".  Nope.  Now it's stopped totally.    
I came to realize there were experiences I'd never had & never would unless I went outside.  I'm not ready to be abstinant...  so I hobby when I can.    

God YES!!!!  3 to 5 times a week, might not always be full sex, sometimes one of us just takes care of the other,sometimes its eveything, just depends on ho we both feel, cant wait to include another lovely lady into our play time!!!!

As I've said on here in various threads/forums my wife gives the best head I have ever gotten.  Never had a bj so good from anyone.  She knows how to take me to heaven and edge me for hours till I'm begging to finally cum.  Its like what I imagine multiple o's feel like to a gal.  The sex isn't half bad either though she's a little too hefty for a good cg or rcg.  The sex is great.  She is a nice person in general and I have to say that she is my best friend in the world.  BUT

my wife is a plus size girl and has NO problem with CG or RCG, we have been together over 23 yrs and i will say the sex has been good and bad ,off and on, but for the last year it has been ON ON ON, MY mistake entering this hobby was what changed things, that and she was holding onto a LOT of dammage from her ex husband, and honestly, i feel i traded DOWN when i cheated, and even though i caused a lot of damage and pain to the person i love most in this world, it was also one of the best things to happen to us. i wish you luck that things can change for you....( maybe see oif she wants to have a threesome, that was the BEST thing we ever did).

ok, so that's hot!

You have to be emotionally stable to separate love and sex.  Then you have to be even more emotionally stable to separate sex and P4P.  

Here's the universal fact-of-life truth: for 95% of the women in the world she can be either a great wife and mother OR she can be a great lover. But not both.

RT just claimed to be "emotionally stable" I can't be the only one in stitches over that one.

RT, that has got to be the funniest thing you have said all year. lmao

If you said "many men" or even "most men" you would probably be correct. When you say "every man" that makes your statement false.

She can be one stubborn hooker!

Sex only once a year during your annual dinner/dance meeting with your community group?

I need to cancel our date Saturday night!

Like they say curiosity killed the cat. I was on vacation with the wife for a week (recently). While on vacation I sneaked out and saw a provider lol. Then came back and had the wife.  

And all my ex's live in Texas.

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..based on your scores even your daliance with escorts hasnt been very succesful. That can be fixed though.

with someone else since she's probably more emotionally stable than he'd ever could be. That means according to his twisted logic she could separate sex from love just fine.

Remember she was there for him during his darkest days.

The fact that he wants to fuck someone wearing her wedding dress speaks volumes about him IMO.

And by his posts here he DOES NOT think of ladies in the Biz with respect.

Steph out on this one...

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We've been with each other over 15 years.  Plus engagement and dating.  So closer to 17 or 18.  My (second life) here in the hobby has been sporadic at first but now a regular basis for almost 3/4 of that.  She does do cg and rcg but she's awful at it due to bad knees.  We do have great sex but not often, and definitely not often enough.  I tried and tried over the years (nicely at first but escalating to the point of verbal fighting with her about it)  but she explained to me that she just does not want it as much as I do and feels that to submit to doing it when not in the mood is (her words) not "honest lovemaking".  I told her "screw honesty I want to get laid!" And she told me to go masturbate if I had to.  Would she help?  Nope, not in the mood, go have fun.  So I did.  I jerked off till it lost its appeal then went back to my old premarriage ways and started finding providers.
As Far as a 3 way, it will never happen.  She is fiercely hetero (even to the point of being homophobic) so would not entertain another lady in our bed.  She is also a gal who is very insecure and jealous.  If she even sees me talking to another woman she argues with me about it for hours afterwards.  While I am not opposed to a MFM, again, she feels that lovemaking is between 2 people and only when the mood strikes her.  I don't get enough myself and I'm gonna bring another guy in?  Scheduling nightmare, even if she'd go for it, which she wouldn't.
When she is ON, she is awesome.  Especially the BJ's as I've mentioned.  It's just not enough.  The rest of our life together is fairly good. We both work, have two kids a house and friends and family.  One of our kids is  a special needs child which puts strain as well.

If all your exes live in Texas, do you reside in Tennessee?

Wow. Your post sounds like my life.  My wife can also take it or leave it.   Usually she leaves it.  She doesn't like to make out, she doesn't really like to be touched and she certainly doesn't like to do oral (the last time she did oral was probably 13 years ago). She also used the kids as a shield to avoid sex. She told me for years "Don't touch me, I've been pawed at all day long".  Since our last child was conceived, 10 years ago, we've had sex 6 times. Our intimacy shriveled up to a pathetic dessicated thing. I tried for years to get things going again - maybe she's upset that I don't help enough around the house so I did the laundry every week and made sure I picked up around the house (She's a stay at home mom), maybe she just wants non-sexual physical intimacy to get going, and so on.  Basically I've realized that sex is just simply not a priority for her, and she for some reason thinks that she's compromising herself if she "gives into" my sexual needs.  I suffered for years, just taking care of my own business, and then finally threw in the towel a year ago and joined the hobby. I still love her but now she's more like a best friend and a roommate.  

I read this post and felt so bad.  I'm scared to death to get married for this reason.  I know people change and hormones change and that impacts a females sexual desires.  However, it this happened to me I would still want to please my partner and act like sex was amazing and interested.   Does that make sense?  Where do women go wrong with this?  is it age?

With that said and looking at it from that angle.....I had some questions for him.  

There's a natural ebbing of libido as people age. That happens at different rates. For my wife, it's like it dropped off a cliff about 25 years ago, although was never that strong. For me, I feel friskier now than I did 35 years ago. Not a great combination.  

Not all marriages end up like mine. I have plenty of friends who have sex monthly or even weekly in their 40s with 2+ kids in the house. I always was the initiator of sex and intimacy in general. She tolerated it before kids but then shut down after the kids showed up.  In one conversation a couple years ago, I told her that "I signed up for monogamy not celibacy!"  But I met her when I was in my early 20s and she was in her late 20s, she was utterly gorgeous (but totally unaware of how gorgeous) and we were compatible in so many other ways.  

I love my wife and enjoy our intimate time. The problem is we just can't get on the same page frequency wise. I don't need it three times a day or anything but more than once every couple weeks would be nice.

"And another factor, not to be overlooked because of how common it is, is the long-term affect of abuse. This is a tough one because the effects can lie dormant for years, then suddenly manifest themselves. So if your SO starts acting differently towards intimacy and sex, e.g. doesn't even want to kiss you or cuddle with you let alone have sex, or seems detached or out of sorts when you do have sex, and there's no other explanation, it could be from abuse sometime in the past.  Often the survivor doesn't even remember the abuse."

you know that there is considerable debate on the subject of repressed memories, and there is scientific evidence of the brain's ability to suppress memories.  

I do care about the effects of abuse. I do have a loved one affected by sexual abuse.  

It seems that marriage is a mistake.