I was doing dinner and drinks one night this week with two of NY finest providers. During dinner the conversation turned to what makes your favorite stick out? We were all shocked by the reasons and thoughts on why someone is a favorite and the answer had nothing to do with money on the women's side and nothing to do with looks on my side. For providers you have seen 10 clients 30 clients 50 clients etc etc. What makes the one or two guys stand out who you hold in higher regard than everyone else? Why do you trust that one guy more than you trust everyone else? For the clients same question in reverse. You have seen 20 girls what makes your favorite stand out? Why do you feel more comfortable with her where you can let your guard down where you wouldn't with anyone else.
 
Let's see where this goes.

For me it's not the looks or performance (although both are important) it's the intangibles,the conversation - not strained, forced or artificial.  Its like we are long lost friends or have always been friends.  A look, a smile, a genuine touch.  Just getting all mushy here

yes intangibles.

what  breaks the mold, its not looks or anything it's personality, it's the twinkle in his eyes when he sees you. No longer about sex or money as a matter of fact I feel having sex ruins it, I don't know why. There are people that I meet that I'm like damn I don't want to sleep with you or want your money because you are so awesome. Let's not ruin it. (that's just me)

Glad to see you posting again.

I think it's ridiculous, so not appealing. If I wanted to be with women I would be a lesbian. Just saying!

It encompasses generosity of spirit, kindness, curiosity, intelligence, consideration, respect... someone who respects my time and business, but whose company I can also enjoy. Someone I can look up to or admire as a person.  

An unguarded moment reveals so much...

extends beyond the "date". Both of us at risk, if you will. Both of us OK with some secrets that we know and trust will not harm us.

but I agree that being spineless is akin to being desperate, it's simply not sexy.

and we have good conversation and get to connect on emotional level

...and it's her wonderful larger-than-life personality as much as her physical beauty that still has me thinking about her and I've been comparing every other lady to her since. She had just the right amount of aggressiveness and didn't have one insincere or shy bone in her body. Gawd I miss her

In what makes a man stand out for me 'here'...

She is one of the sweetest women I have ever met. She is the most beautiful, sexy woman that I have ever met.  

i'm with you all the way gg except i think back channeling can be a vital part of research.  the phrase "back channeling" does itself sound rather duplicitous, which is why i prefer just saying "i pm'd the guy."

What would ever lead you to assume and believe that all "backchannelling" is the tale of the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth? Cause its not. And I'm pretty sure i don't need to tell you why. You're a smart guy.

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i'm with you all the way gg except i think back channeling can be a vital part of research.  the phrase "back channeling" does itself sound rather duplicitous, which is why i prefer just saying "i pm'd the guy."  
   
 all of my back channeling/pm is innocuous, and not anything i wouldn't say to a lady's face, because what i ask for from fellow mongers and what i give is strictly factual information, no opinions or shade.  
   
 such as mostly, specifics about tattoos (how many how large where) or why someone gave such a rating, or why i gave such a rating.  
   
 also, if you had a bad time with a client, but it was only down to chemistry between the two of you, wouldn't you want that fact to be expressed?  "i didnt' enjoy her myself, but she is competent and i am sure other guys would enjoy her, ymmv."  
   
 another thing that can't be expressed easily on reviews is comparisons to individual providers.  sorry to say it is sometimes necessary, especially if a monger has a limited budget and is down to picking among 2 or 3 ladies; if i have seen all 3 i'm happy to express my opinion about who was the most interesting time.  
   
 sorry gg, if back channeling makes me less of a good client, then i am not the client for you.  
   
 sad face  

Chemistry! It's either there, or it isn't. It doesn't matter what she looks like, how much she weighs, what her religion or race is, nor how big her tits are. Some ladies, who take their craft seriously, require a second or third visit to determine the realness of the connection. But most of the time you can tell right away. My magic number is three. If I see you beyond a third visit, then it's going to double figures. If you were to look at the list of ladies I've seen over the years, and the number of visits, you'd see hundreds of ladies with one visit. About thirty ladies with two visits. Almost twenty ladies with 3 visits. And the ones with great chemistry, about ten ladies, no more than two in any one time period, with double figure visits, and beyond. With true chemistry comes my loyalty.  

it goes the other way, too.

Well as long as you take it at face value and know that there are some here with not so good intent sometimes when "she" doesn't do anything wrong, simply cause the john doesn't get what he wants ... then good. Glad you can tell the difference. Many can't.