Good lord.
or perhaps time frame that you would like to stop "the hobby"
I certainly had no idea, I would be doing it this long.
I think I was embarrassed at first, then it just became easier and more convenient.
Easier, than a relationship? Paying some student loans?
Did you say to yourself, "I am only going to do this for or until ...."?
Your thoughts if any?
but if anything, it has increased.
So, it appears that the only limits will be financial or physical.
Probably better for the former.
So, it appears that the only limits will be financial or physical.
Probably better for the former.
When I was 19 and hiring a Times Square Peep Booth gal for an after hours tryst my goal was to lose my virginity. After a few times of that I was "hooked" so to speak. Sex is like a drug, the more you have, the more you want. Soon, my goal changed to save just wnough to get laid at least once a month (all I could afford) I was hopeless with civvie gals, few social skills. Ended up in more than one "Just friends" situation while trying to get laid with civvies. The goal became "get your dick.wet once in awhile". Then I got an honest to God girlfriend and we fucked like bunnies for almost a year before we broke up. Even moved in together. Went back to providers after 2 months of nuthin when broken up. More failed attempts at gf finding then found a gal, got engaged got married, she was (and is) the best lay and bj giver ever. But she is completely infrequent in her need and want. After suffering with very little (even if really good) sex, after about 4 or 5 years I but the bullet and started seeing providers on the side again. Now the goal was to supplement the wife. Thats where I am today after another 12 years.
I am only going "to do this" until my dick falls off or I die, whichever comes last. lol
and just why a grown man, unmarried of course, would be embarrassed about getting pussy, a LOT of pussy for many of us, is beyond me.
Personally, I think anyone embarrassed or ashamed of either being a hooker or seeing hookers should seriously reconsider what and why they are here.
It's unfortunate, but a reality most of us with family, friends, and careers that has to be considered.
Not too long ago being gay was something to be ashamed of. More recently the transsexual community has demanded to be recognized. Even stoners who were jailed by the millions finally have made progress getting their "crime" decriminalized in many jurisdictions and most pot smokers now freely admit they toke up occasionally. Are we honestly admitting that these groups have more courage that we do?
I can't imagine doing something, especially something that so many of us seem to spend so much time and resources on, but be too embarrassed and/or ashamed to admit it for fear of the disapproval of others. If I were that embarrassed or ashamed about what I did, I'd damn sure quit doing it. Pussy is a great thing, being a pussy is not. Most of you people should be ashamed of yourselves, not for either paying or being paid for sex, but for being too fucking cowardly to admit it.
The sex drive in humans is second only to hunger in intensity and need for satisfaction...for some it may even be first...satisfying that urge has been stigmatized to the point where many are raised to believe that sex is evil and those who partake in the act are bad people...
Everybody pays for sex...for some it's money, for others it's time and compromise, and for some it's misery and unhappiness...but for everybody there is a cost...
I'm single...I have no one to answer to for my actions...most of my friends, family, and co-workers know I employ the services of escorts...not all approve, but all accept my right to live as I see fit...
And I am not embarrased or ashamed of it in the slightest...
It's part of who I am...
I can't imagine doing something, especially something that so many of us seem to spend so much time and resources on, but be too embarrassed and/or ashamed to admit it for fear of the disapproval of others. If I were that embarrassed or ashamed about what I did, I'd damn sure quit doing it. Pussy is a great thing, being a pussy is not. Most of you people should be ashamed of yourselves, not for either paying or being paid for sex, but for being too fucking cowardly to admit it.
Most of you people should be ashamed of yourselves, not for either paying or being paid for sex, but for being too fucking cowardly to admit it.
But remember not all of us are self employed. I'd love to shout from the rooftops how wonderful this life is, and although my employer wouldn't fire me if they found out, it would cast a shadow on me which could lead to some disrespect. And, if it so happened that the committee I sit on were to find out, I would certainly lose that seat, I don't get paid for that seat, but it's a seat which allows me to bring positive impact to my field.
I have never yet denied my involvement as a monger, I've only been asked once specifically by a close family member and I confirmed it. I have defended the idea of this life in a few discussions, a married friend of mine made the comment once that he would never pay for sex, I told him "you pay for sex every day of your life". But it's not something that I can broadcast.
Not all of us who don't speak openly about our life are ashamed or embarrassed or would lie about our involvement if asked, some of us simply prefer to avoid the position of being asked about our involvement.
I'd love to have the flexibility of your position, and when I retire perhaps I'll purchase a bullhorn. Until then I'll just tread water.
Gays, Stoners, Trannies all had to come out of the closet at extreme personal risk in order to fight persecution for doing something that didn't hurt a soul.
If you can accept that a bunch of stoners and fruitcakes have more collective balls than we do, then so be it, but you fuckers need to quit whining about how LE should be spending their time fighting "real" crime if you aren't willing to stand up and be counted.
That the LGBT agenda was exploited for political purposes.
When has being a tranny been illegal, minus a tranny working as a prostitute?
Why else would a person be a tranny if it wasn't to earn a buck?
It's my personal opinion that it is a waste of time, effort and resources when LE spends time chasing those of us involved in our life. Not whining, but my opinion just the same. And, knock on wood, I've never experienced anything close to an LE bust, but then I don't see BP or CL ladies. A small amount of research significantly reduces the risk of encountering LE.
I'm also a single and independent "mature" man and all my friends, family and yes, business associates know of my desire to "date" hot young women and pay to do it. I admit that guys like GaG and I are not the average johns in this game but I agree that hiding and "skulking around" in the shadows is far too stressful and unproductive. The more of us that come out of the shadows, the smaller the shadow will become. Courage is needed and at times it seems to be in short supply in this game.
I can't imagine doing something, especially something that so many of us seem to spend so much time and resources on, but be too embarrassed and/or ashamed to admit it for fear of the disapproval of others. If I were that embarrassed or ashamed about what I did, I'd damn sure quit doing it. Pussy is a great thing, being a pussy is not. Most of you people should be ashamed of yourselves, not for either paying or being paid for sex, but for being too fucking cowardly to admit it.
Although I was a juvenile at the time, and adults may have faced more time. There are far more post smokers, that have never spent a day in jail, than have.
Speaking of the LGBT community, why did the provider/client community let them put their cause before the majority, who dabbles in p4p.
Congratulations, nobody in your life cares if you see hookers and it doesn't affect your job status. But there are many of us who would lose our careers if our participation in this activity was revealed. You regularly call people pussies for not saying fuck it, I don't care what anyone thinks, the hell with my career and family. Do I think that this should be legal and that the persecution of those involved is wrong? Absolutely. But I started my career long before I began this. Do you think that the ladies who are afraid of being outed to their friends and families are cowardly? Even if they risked losing custody of children to an ex or their "respectable" job that maybe provides benefits that this doesn't? It's easy to condemn others when you yourself have nothing to lose. The people who have worked so hard to end discrimination against minorities and the LGBT community, trying to help people who have no choice about who they are, actually risked something. By your own admission you've risked nothing. Bragging about participating in a voluntary activity when nobody in your life cares hardly makes you the next Rosa Parks
I've never seen minorities, and LGBT discriminated against, to where it might actually effect their lives.
Gays and trannies are one thing, that is not a "choice" but smoking pot certainly is and there have been a hell of a lot more people thrown in prison for pot than prostitution, so put that in your pipe and smoke it.
I made conscious decisions about being "out" I have no idea how many multi million dollar deals I might have missed because some bible thumping millionaire might have decided not to do business with me because I am a whore monger. I run the same risk by not hiding my disdain for religion while living and doing business in the Bible Belt.
Try to cover up your cowardice all you want, it isn't flying with me, but as long as you aren't one of the whiners who decry the persecution we all face because of a victimless crime, I suppose its' your right, but don't deny a bunch of fairies and stoners had more guts than you.
Apparently if you're concerned about being outed to friends and family it's because, like me, you're cowards.
if you've got a family and you're stepping out on them to see providers, that's on you and not on the hobby community or industry.
adultery is a different, if conflated, issue from sex work.
i am not ashamed to admit how many wonderful evenings and afternoons i have spent in the arms and legs of wonderful, gracious and giving women. in fact i've had the best sex of my life in the last 6 months, thanks to my lady friends in the hobby.
I'm far from embarrassed, however there is still a stigmatism among guys and "having to pay for it" even though it is a "choice". For some reason, it's considered less manly to pay for pussy, than it is to obtain the pussy through other avenues.
You meant "a stigma." Astigmatism is......
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Although against another contender.
http://www.thefreedictionary.com/stigmatism
Did I say, I thought being a hooker was a negative thing? NO!
Stigmatism - 1. The condition of being affected by stigmata.
2. The state of a refracting or reflecting system in which light rays from a single point are accurately focused at another point.
3. Normal eyesight. http://www.thefreedictionary.com/stigmatism
Stigmata - A plural of stigma. http://www.thefreedictionary.com/stigmata
You understand what "context" means?
In that context... Perhaps that's not the correct context, I will use the English language as I see fit
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So go ahead and use it but it ain't English. You don't "use the English language" as you see fit. You abuse it.
It's obvious I knew what word I was using, per the definition I provided along with the other times I spelled the word right.
OK, you meant "stigmatism." That's a synonym for "astigmatism," the latter being the preferred spelling. But, again, you meant to say "stigma." Not "stigmatism," as I explained in my first response on this branch.
Good lord.
Good lord.
Why you can't understand this is beyond me... Where did you learn to use English?
shortly after my divorce. my goal was just to survive it. Met a lovely CL provider who offered an amazing BBBJ and hot, steamy sex. I was smitten. Rescheduled that evening ... which is now the pattern of my behaviour ....
And I am a "fool for love songs", so I guess that you could say I'm .....
"Still Crazy After All These Years"
I met my old lover
On the street last night
She seemed so glad to see me
I just smiled
And we talked about some old times
And we drank ourselves some beers
Still crazy after all these years
Still crazy after all these years
I'm not the kind of man
Who tends to socialize
I seem to lean on
Old familiar ways
And I ain't no fool for love songs
That whisper in my ears
Still crazy after all these years
Still crazy after all these years
Four in the morning
Crapped out
Yawning
Longing my life away
I'll never worry
Why should I?
It's all gonna fade
Now I sit by my window
And I watch the cars
I fear I'll do some damage
One fine day
But I would not be convicted
By a jury of my peers
Still crazy
Still crazy
Still crazy after all these years
I know that sounds rather simplistic, but it's the truth. After 27 years of marriage, the last two of which sex free - I needed to have sex and I didn't want to complicate my life by having an affair. This seemed like the best solution.
After my first date this past summer, I thought I wouldn't do it again... The experience was great, I just didn't know if I could handle it emotionally. I've since learned from the few providers that I've had dates with that I'm not alone.
After two very bad experiences, I'm really picky about who I see, spending time reading reviews before reaching out. Once contact is made, I pay close attention to her communication style to see if we'll hit it off. It may be a brief encounter, but I also look for a connection to make the experience not only fun filled, but emotionally satisfying.
I'm about quality over quantity and agree that sex is a drug and I enjoy it... I see myself supplementing my married life with these infrequent experiences, and have found value in long, unrushed dates as apposed to a session that is all about wham bam, thank you mam...
I'll meet one on Wednesday morning. Then another girl of my dreams on Friday. If I'm really lucky, another girl of my dreams will be available on Sunday.
I am smitten with being able to enjoy these amazing ladies and not have to live with them.
Thanks to all the girls of my dreams.
after years in an essentially sexless marriage. My only goal was to find out if there was something wrong with me - was I doing something that instantly "turned off" women's libidos, did I suck in the sack, what was it about me?
I don't feel that way anymore, and I have no goal other than to enjoy this world as I choose, for however long I choose. It's a fun luxury for me, not a sport or game where I need a goal or objective, or to in some way "win".
WINNING 😉
Considering you leave with far less money than you walked in with....
I don't think the client can ever "win".
If you buy something, you leave with less money. With a hooker, you leave with $300+ less money. If you go to a movie, you leave with $10 less money. Get it?
The consumer never "wins" What I'm saying is buying stuff isn't a contest you can win, or a contest at all.
Next time take a moment to think about what I say, before commenting.
The consumer wins if he/she enjoys what was purchased. If one of my clients has a great time with me and leaves feeling energized, then gets a smile on his face when he remembers the session, I'd call that a win for him. There does not have to be a loser. Except in your case. Ever hear of "win-win?"
Take a moment to think about what I said before commenting. Actually, don't comment at all.
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I don't think you grasp the concept of "winning
Fancy here's your one chance....
I certainly had no idea, I would be doing it this long.
I think I was embarrassed at first, then it just became easier and more convenient.
Easier, than a relationship? Paying some student loans?
Did you say to yourself, "I am only going to do this for or until ...."?
Your thoughts if any?
Sorry to hear that, Fancy. I hope you're finding joy and happiness as well as money in your escorting adventures.
it was no longer something I enjoyed. Got to a point where I was more annoyed than happy and I took almost 2 years off (cold turkey if you will). Then I felt like doing it again and had the flexibility to juggle it with the rest of life and here I am.
Still plan to continue until I no longer want to. The climate on the boards has not been super hospitable these days which is sad and discouraging, but luckily there's a whole world of other clients and amazing ladies out there and they keep me grounded and content.
...the longer I have been at it the more comfortble I am and I am in a real comfort zone now. Also many unique experiences, good and bad. Even the bad ones make for good stories. I am loving it. The goal is to carry on....
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I wanted to have my dick sucked at that very moment.
That goal was achieved.
Somehow, I think this post was directed to the other side of the coin.
...I'd stop...but that hasn't happened in 51 years so I'm not expecting it to happen at all...
My budget is the only limiting factor for me until I hit the wall and die a fiery explosive death...
No, I said to myself "Oh hell yes, I've found the life for me", and I've not looked back.
Much easier than a relationship. Some people like the thrill of the hunt/chase of the bar scene or the dating world. I'm not one of those people, I enjoy the sure thing, which involves no work/effort other than stuffing an envelope.
No drama, no bullshit, just the fun part.
I JUST WANTED TO FUCK YOU ALL! Thanks....carry on.
KK
You call your favorite hooker,and go to town on her.......How's that working out so far??...I'm 3 1/2 hours short of the finish line.
I started out with the thought that it would be one time for the experience, and to satisfy a curiosity. After the date, I realized how much of a sucker I had been playing the dating game. I have met some wonderful women, and had a great time all the time, so I see no need to stop. Until I am in a committed relationship with a woman, the hobby is there for me.
I started in 09 and did this for about a year. I saw 1 girl a month. After that year I decided to stop doing this because it got pretty expensive and also the last few experiences seemed more like going through the motion than actually enjoying it. Then about two years ago I decided to give myself a treat and see a provider. Two years later I signed up for a VIP membership and I'm in the game again. Unless I ever get married to get into a serious relationship I will probably dabble in this for the rest of my adult life or as long as my wallet will allow.
less intimate.
I plan to continue as long as the equipment continues to work.
Thank you to all the wonderful ladies who have put a smile on my face over these many years. The internet has made this much less stressful. But, I'm not thanking Al Gore.
That was almost 12 yrs. ago. Now? The Song Remains the Same, except that the majority of the ladies I've met along this Winding Road are worthy of befriending, and my life has been richer as a result. Who knew?
It was just a way to get back at the wife for cheating on me. I found that it was better than I expected, and I will now hobby until I run out of money or die. And if I'm ever in a serious relationship again, it will be with someone who wants to hobby with me.
i was embarrassed the first time i hatrd to ask for money for something i really enjoyed he asked for a blow job but he was so big i vouldnt get it in my mouth i put just the head in and sucked when he nutted i did swallow i really enjoy escort job
LOL ...
#confession
My number one fantasy since I was a young girl was to have an affair with a married man ...
I know you cant " do this forever " but to anyone out there with a 9-5 job . Is that what YOU are going to do forever??? ... Everyday I do what I want I'm so free I've never been so happy in my life .