OK, I used to see this girl when she worked for an agency.  She has since stopped working there and showed up as an indy.  

I have seen her a few times and we seemed to always have fun.  

So I called her one day after work and asked if she was available at around 6.  

She answered her phone and stated that she could only do a half hour and needed to leave right at 6:30.

I said I would do my best to get there at 6.

She called me at 5 minutes before 6 asking where I was.

I told er I was about 10 minutes away and I told her where I was.

Then she called back at 6 asking where I was.  I told her where and said I would be there as fast as I could but traffic was not cooporating.

She then reminded me that she needed to leave at 6:30.

I said OK.

She called again at 10 after 6 asking where I was.  I was just about to pull in to the parking lot of her hotel and she again reminded me that she neded to be out the door at 6:30 and not a minute later.

I asked her if what she had to do was so important then maybe we cold re-schedle for another time.

The then gets mad at me and says that this is not going ot work out and I shojuldn't call her again.  Then hangs up the phone.

My question is was I that wrong to not be able to judge how traffic was going to be?  

She is young and that may have something to do with it, but I am not sure.

Any opinions would be appreciated.

Thanks!

Everything you described was a set up by you yourself. No her.

You may have tried hard and nobody can plan on traffic 100%. However, rushing to a 1/2 hour appointment, to which she repeatedly told you she had to be out of there not a minute more than 6:30pm, what did you expect? Hell even a couple long traffic lights could have ruined such an arrangements.

Move, she already wrote you off and learn something here. First never do 1/2 meetings, and if you must be damn sure your surroundings and the travel to get there are etched in stone as a GO.

You contracted for a time between 6 and 6:30.  If you are 10 min late it on your dime.

to You...she needed to go at 6:30...You should have re-scheduled...nobody knows how traffic is going to be...and You yourself even stated I Will do my best to be there...so that leaves me to believe You yourself were unsure You would make it...maybe You thought because in the past You two had sooo much Fun...she would make an exception for You and stick around a little longer...when she was calling...You heard in her voice the sense of urgency for You to be there...even though You were only going to get 20 minutes...You should have went threw with the appointment...maybe she could have left much earlier...however choose to wait for You...based on past experience with You and the Fun You two had together...I would have been upset too...You knew You were pushing it...and then You cancel...that was Not fair...and even though she is young...I do Not believe that has anything to do with it...She Waited for You...I personally think You should call and apologize to her

You should have at least gave her something for wasting her time.  Are you serious?  Because you two had a good time, it's their job to make you believe that.  You probably believe them when they say you made them orgasim or you have a big dick or other nonsense that's said to get you to a. pay up and b. get "there" faster.  You can't blame the provider for that, this is their profession and they do it for a living, assuming based on past experiences that she would be cool waiting around for you like a girlfriend was your problem.

Some of these girls have more clients than state appointed public defenders, how can you expect them to wait for you when they express to you that there is a time crunch?

You should have never tried to squeeze in an appointment in so little time.  If you had made it there on time, how could either one of you even enjoyed that?  

I wouldn't have been able to relax knowing I had to be somewhere so quickly either.  

I never do rushed meetings.

I had to cancel a meeting with a Fav when the weatherr turned the highway into a paking lot.  But I would have been rushed for time as it was.  I learned that I needed to have extra time.  I find the call point & then back track to that coffee shop until the appointed time.  

I think she was a little harsh but it's her business.
skb

pushing the limits. I've never been late because I arrive at the initial point well in advance, and like SKB, find a place to have coffee, while I wait to call closer to the time of meeting. But, then I would never schedule a half-hour meeting either. Very little margin of error. I had one lady get irritated because I called a little early to let her know I was close by.

You definitely pissed her off, and it seems she's no longer interested in you business, or she would have been more gracious while dealing with her disappointment.

Nope. She was very clear about her time contraint, and you stepped all over that.

Your behavior was very disrepectful.

What if you had a meeting for work, and the person you needed to meet was explicitly clear up front that there was a limited window of time?

You showing up late, and then asking them to reschedule because you didn't judge how bad traffic was going to be would be a pretty lame.

And no, not literally. Shit happens. You were running late, or traffic wasn't 'cooperating'. Whatever.

What if it was 'her' in that boat? Would you've told her to forget about it, and not see her anymore because of those circumstances?

Shit! My ATF here in NM puts up with my crap every fucking time I go to see her. I have to stop to get money. There's a cop on the freeway I can't pass. I have to stop and get her sushi and/or alcohol for me(a little for her ).

Fuck! You'd think she'd be excited and impressed that you're busting your ass to get to her.

IMHO anyway...!

Hey, I have a very busy schedule with lots of people trying to get my attention.

This is no commentary on how important I am--because, I am no more important that anyone else.

But, if someone is looking to get me into a meeting last minute, and I  adjust my schedule to do that---with the clarification that I REALLY only have X amount of time, and then I NEED to be someplace else?

If they can't make the agreed upon time, they're gonna be SOL for that day. Now, *I* do not work for myself. So *I* may HAVE to adjust for this person again.

If that were not the case, I'd very likely blow them off as a complete time-waster, and not give it another thought.

BOTH of them shouldn't have been so presumptuous to make an appointment like that.

WTF is the guy going to get done in 20-30 minutes?

THEN, the lady has to jet for a 6:30 deal?

I can appreciate times are tight and the ladies need to take advantage of appointments, but come on.

This fucking guy should plan ahead, and not bitch that the lady couldn't accomodate his tardiness.

BUT, she had no business telling him 'yeah, but hurry the hell up' because she has another engagement at 6:30.

I'm not trying to tell you how to run your business by no means. But it seems to me, when you're running around that desperate for the almighty buck, some of us can smell it.

And few things stink worse than desperation.

BTW, when I said 'fuck her', I should've said 'fuck it', meaning, ahhh WTF difference does it make?

He didn't get his dick wet. She didn't get paid. It's done. I'm gonna make myself a drink...

was to try to accommodate you when she had limited time.

YOU really blew it! The second you knew you'd be late you owed her a call. You also owe her something for her time...

If she had to leave at that time, assume she'd need 10-15 Minutes to get ready. What were you planning to do? Jerk off while she got dressed?

And what everyone else said, except MP67. Clients and provides get to mutually agree to the level of BS they'll accept.

We have an historic occasion to celebrate.  In light of this comment by Mattradd, and many over the top, the female can't be wrong, I would crawl a mile in her shit just to sniff her ass comments all week long.  A great honor has been bestowed on Matt!  He almost made it earlier on the week on the "grandfathering of old rates post where he said he would never expect her to keep him at the old rate but would hope she did....then went on to expound on the many reasons she would jack up her rates, and NOT keep him at the old!
Matt, it is with great honor and nausea that I bestow this virtuous appointment on you.

  You are hereby to be known as Saint Matt....patron saint of all manginas everywhere.
May you continue to hold all females in the highest esteem no matter how many times they shit on you.  May you place a used tampon in your nose when your allergies kick up, and may you always wear ladies underwear as a nitecap to bed!  L&G I present...........ST Matt

make yourself another drink.

Peace, BTW...

-- Modified on 3/28/2010 2:10:25 PM

Not sure why she would tell you to never call her again, sometimes crap happens and you're running a little late. She shouldn't have scheduled an appt that she knew she would have to rush through. At least she should have told you she couldn't see you if you were running late and made an attempt to reschedule when she had more time.

time and money on some HO who told you repeatedly that she was going to kick your ass out at 6:30?
Do you know the term "rushed date"?  Jesus, you couldn't find anything else to do, or anybody to do?  That date was doomed when you got the word she only had a half hour, and your gone at 6:30 sharp!  But no, you decide she is so damn fucking good that you are going to drop everything,rush around, chance getting a speeding ticket, just so she could take your money and throw your ass in the parking lot!
You should NEVER have given her the chance to tell you it wasn't going to work.  YOU should have told her that when she had the time constraints!
Her being young has nothing to do with this.  Your inability to figure out that you weren't going to be the only car on the freeway has nothing to do with it.
Your inability to tell her it was no good when she gave you the crappy option she did is the problem.  Pussy whipped, and not even married to her!  You shouldn't even be allowed to hobby, in fact, just stay on this board 24/7 and hope St. Matt still allows you to become a full mangina!
Go straight to the church of the eternal pussy and beg ArchBishop FollowMe for forgiveness, do your penance, and quit dating all together!

BTW, in your favor, don't worry about her telling you not to ever call again!  Good riddance to bad rubbish! Let her squeeze some other poor douche bag out of his money on a rushed date!

Now, Go!  You have given me a headache!

go ahead with the 20 minutes...he only lost 10 minutes...and maybe if he didn't cancel on her...just maybe she would have met him 1/2 way and stayed an extra 5...making it a win-win situation...I mean really now...how much could he really do in a 1/2 hour...how does he Not know she couldn't get him off in 10 minutes..lol...and then they would have had another 10 minutes for round 2

Why is that always assumed that all we ever do is hobby appointments?  

Is it so hard to believe we have PTA meetings, dental appointments, family committments?  

I fucked up and assumed.

I know Goddam well you ladies have other things in your life that doesn't involve the hobby.

I apologize, and I'll *try* to keep such comments to my fucked up self..

Cool?!...

I dig that you don't put up with my shit!

I think that she is just as much at fault as he is. If I know that I have to be somewhere at a certain time, I tell the gentleman "no"... simple as that. Ultimately, it's my decision right?

I can see how she might have been trying to accommodate him because he was a regular, however, I would never want to rush a meeting with a regular client for fear that the meeting would not live up to his expectations.

I like to keep my regulars so I do what I can to accommodate, but only if it is going to benefit him. If I see he might not enjoy a rushed session...I will explain this and try to schedule him for a later time.

I think that she might have been wanting rid of you prior to this meeting.

This reminds me of one time I set up an outcall to my hotel.

I told the young lady that she had to be there by 8pm because I had to be at a business function at 9:30 and needed 30 minutes to shower and walk to the business ctr.

When I called a few hours ahead of time to confirm I reminded her not to be late. I told her, "If you can't be here by 8 I can't see you. "

She called at 7:45 to let me she was on her way.

I told her "OK, just be here by 8"

Well, 8 came and went. As did 8;15, 8:30 and 8:45.

Finally, at 9:15 she knocked on the door.

By this time I had just assumed she had flaked on me and thought this was a bellman bringing me the extra towels I had requested.

I opened the door and she walked in.

She was gorgeous.

And she was very late.

I told her I couldn't see her and reminded her that I had advised her three times that she had to be there by 8 and that I had to be somewhere at 9:30.

She then said " Well, its not 9:30 yet"

I smiled.

I then told her that I thought she was hot and wanted to see her after my meeting.

She asked how long it would be before I returned to my room.

I told her about two hours.

She then said " I can't just wait around for you for two hours. My time is valuable!"

I smiled again

I am sorry that happened to you. I just feel that in order to avoid any rushed, uncomfortable situation, it is best to reschedule. I understand that as valuable as my time is, yours is every bit as much valuable. I wouldn't want to waste your time as much as you wouldn't want your time wasted and vice versa.

Here is the thing.  I told her I wanted to re-schedule and I still got attitude.  BTW there were times I waited up to 1/2 hour for her to arrive where we were meeting.  I never complained.  

I guess I learned a lesson here.

You just can't please a woman. In my opinion, (provided this is the whole story) you did nothing wrong and I am sorry for what you went through. Maybe you should make your way to Tennessee. LOL!

I find that avoiding these situations by not filling up my shedule so tightly is the best bet.  It not only lowers the stress level, it just makes life in general a whole lot easier.