Just to clarify Gentelmen, When we add a field requesting REFERENCES it means we WANT them,
Im getting allot of contact forms with "References available upon request" THIS IS NOT YOUR RESUME!!!! If We have the field there its cause we ARE in fact REQUESTING them.
Save us all time please and back and forth emails that ALWAYS lead to confussion
Just trying to help

Thank you for this post....to add to this gentlemen, we aren't trying to be invasive into your life, but to keep us both safe, so we can focus on giving you a wonderful experience...

Not all providers are so discreet when checking references. Some, believe it or not, are a bit scattered and many are busy. I have seen e-mail threads requesting references for me that shocked me for how little care was taken with my identity. And once I actually received a request for a reference from a provider I had seen. She was working quickly and confused e-mail addresses. The result was that she sent me the real name and other professional information about someone who was trying to book an appointment with her.

I do not think it makes sense to provide references in a Web form to a perfect stranger about whom you know nothing whatsoever. I wait until I have made some sort of contact, then I'm more than glad to provide references. You need to be realistic in understanding the risks that men incur when they provide real information to a provider. I think for the cost of a high end escort, it's not too much to ask for one communication prior to providing references.

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She might want to consider a site like date-check.com. That will cut down on many of these problems.

and only after we've established contact. I know that you need references. However, my primary obligation is to my existing ladyfriends - not to provide their information to anyone without their prior approval. They should feel safe about providing their info to a specific provider before their contact information is given.

I always appreciate it when I get a call or email letting me know that i should be expecting an email from another lady.

And guys  I honestly think its better to finish forms in completion if you really want to see someone.  The less information we receive initially makes it harder for us to see you and make the wait a little bit longer. No one like to email tag  especially when it involves information that a lady would prefer to know it advanced.

have climbed on a high horse lately. Careful up there lest you fall...it's a long way down. You are but a new desire but existing friends are an obligation to be treated with discretion. You must earn that privilege.

A friend also gave me another explanation today and its that the gents assume that we will use their reviews as ref's
Its good to hear the other side of the story as well =)
So thanx again for the informative and objective replies (sincerely)
This last one on the other hand =(
Come and see me and I'll show you how I climb a horse hun so you can talk w actual experience! LOL

In my contact email I would mention my Date-Check and Preferred411 information and mention that extensive references with well reviewed providers were available - that once I had established contact with you the references would be arranged.

If you preferred to pass on that arrangemnt I would understand of course....

Cheers

Gregory

It is only polite to ask anyone regardless of  what reason to ask if they mind providing a reference for you in hobby or otherwise.Taking caution with your friends information would have me think in the future you would be just as considerate with me so I suppose some of you gents would be patient with the process.

in my case I provide date-check and preferred411 info on contact. If a lady does not accept this, I ask existing friends like yourself in advance if you would be willing to provide a reference before I give out your information - and thank you again for the references you have given for me. I hope 2009 is good to you - and I hope to catch up with you in the new year..... Gregory