Ok, so in all of your experiences, what is the main thing about a man/client that turns you OFF the most?  Be brutally specific--no holds barred.  I'm curious as to what goes on that many men aren't aware of.  Breath?  Smell/BO?  Looks?  Personality?  Size?  Too much cologne?
Lets be honest...

Personality or luck o f such. Everything else can be improved or alleviated.

Personality is a bit harder to improve than bad breath.

Lina

well i think that poor hygiene (especially of the mouth and genital areas) goes without saying and shouldn't even be in the running.

so with those being off the table, what truly turns me off the MOST in a man in any kind of relationship (friend, client, casual sex partner, etc.) is a submissive personality like my own. a man who is just as concerned about pleasing others (me especially) as much as i am. a man who has an attitude of wanting to "worship" a female...*shivers*...yes, that is absolutely the biggest turn-off for me. it goes farther really than being a mere turn-off, because i will have a very hard time having respect for such a man, as in my eyes, they do not represent what it means to be a MAN.

Do you distinguish between a sharing between equals who mutually hold each other in high regard, and submissiveness?

I realize that sometimes people mistake kindness for weakness; but sometimes its origin lies in true strength.

It would have to be poor hygeine. Had a client who wanted oral along with rimming, (I love doing this with my regulars who understand the importance of cleanliness), but this guy was not only smelly but actually had a piece of toilet paper stuck in his crack! Sure sign he wasn't freshly showered. Needless to say he didn't get all he wanted.

I like to think we meet at the middle of the road here and each brings something special to the table. THEMSELVES

I am a woman full of affection and nothing will turn me off more than a man who treats me like a machine.I have never been just a service and always put in my old ads over 20 years ago "on the prowl for new friends". It is nice now to say I want to kiss in an ad or to say you must be affectionate and willing to be part of our time together not treated as a slave or an object to stictly make you feel superior or not good enough to have any affection shown to me.

Kisses Haley

poor hygiene....that would include bad breath (of the extreme variety), toilet paper ass (at least he wiped), and nasty dirty uncircumsized penises.  Yuck-o!!  

Please brush your teeth, wipe your ass nice and clean (please feel free to use personal care products that I provide), and pull your foreskin back just like your mama taught you!

As GFE provider who also happens to engage in Femdom I would never see submissive male as less of a man.

I have met some very smart and accomplished men who happen to prefer to engage in submissive lifestyle as a way to aliviate stress of daily decision making in their professional life.


Lina

there is a difference between being kind, compassionate, respectful...and being submissive. the two concepts are not related.

call me old-fashioned, but there are just certain qualities i associate with masculinity, and certain qualities i associate with femininity. if a man has a feminine quality like submissiveness, it is very disconcerting and disturbing for me personally.

Providers say that clients dont please them only the money does. Thats why i tend to be selfish sometimes thinking of my own needs. But thanks for your post as i will try to change.

Maybe I'm just anal about personal hygiene, but I can't even imagine planning a date without making sure that I am as fresh as my provider is.  Metrosexual?  No, I just give a damn about what she thinks of me--I would hope to think that either way you will be remembered...might as well make it pleasant in the meantime.

While physical yuckies do make me dry heave, prying into my personal life is insulting and a boundary that shouldnt be crossed. Quite honestly, 90% of the people I blacklist are blacklisted for that reason.

guys who have no interest in truly knowing me, knowing about my life...who ask no personal questions of any kind, etc...i avoid seeing those types. i look for gents who desire a VERY personal sort of relationship, who want a genuine connection based in reality not in a fleeting and phony facade of fantasy. of course, there are still some lines that shouldn't be crossed. but those who are not interested in getting personal at all...they make me very nervous and i will not see them.

I'm a new provider...I completely agree with Haley. Being treated like a human sex toy is a complete turn-off. For one thing, it is hard not to resent someone who treats me as an creature beneath them, rather than the smart, beautiful woman I am. Also, many men who expect a machine, rather than a woman, have an attitude of "getting their money's worth" and do whatever it takes to pleasure themselves to the utmost, at my expense. These sessions can be very painful. When I meet men who use crude words, who are rough/aggressive without warning, or who don't even want to make a basic introduction before getting physical, I can almost never relax enough to enjoy the session. The anticipation of pain, and the insult to one's dignity, both kill any sexy feelings.

A regular, who I am quite fond of, used to cause me a lot of unintentional pain when he tried to stimulate me manually and orally. The resulting feeling of dread made me completely dry during our entire session. After I became more comfortable with the client, we both made some changes, and things are better now. So pain from a client is not always unforgiveable...but it's still my biggest turnoff.

My biggest turn-ON - just knowing that someone else desires me...especially if I find just a little something about that person desirable too .

Fortunately for me, I don't seem to get bad hygiene or so obvious ones.  It's the subtle things for me; guys who are arrogant and think they are a king or something, I don't want to see them again.

Also, someone who is very quiet.  There certainly is no need for constant conversation.  However, when someone is very quiet, it makes me feel awkward and it's hard to know if they are enjoying themselves.  Of course, I will still "go with the flow" so to speak.  But, the session will not be as fun.  IMHO

Fortunately, I have not had issues with Body Odor or Bad Breath.

That's all I got!  lol  Betty

I like chat time while laying together after the fun. Getting to learn about each other is nice. Hobbies, food likes, other such things.

b-

I think big turn offs are rude, aggressive in a bad way, bad hygeine (which I have been lucky to not get many men with this), disrespectful people. I can care less about a mans looks or size or too much cologne- As long as they are respectful and treat me like a human being they will have a great time. I think most men that treat women they meet great do not have problems with turning a female off. Being a nice respectful guy can go a long way, with me anyway.