are they inconsistencies that a provider would even feel comfortable answering?  (ie, i dont answer ANY questions that i feel are "over the line" or are not specifically covered on my site or in reviews)
but i guess thats what you are saying?
not a good way for you to start your day!
hang in there

Did you PM any of the reviewers?  I can understand a lady not wanting to be specific over the phone or in e-mail.  Sometimes it is not what you ask but how you ask it.

Isn't that what TER is for, to answer the question ahead

of time?

You did read all the reviews

Like KSK said PM the reviewers to answer your questions.

If you have a lot of questions, move on to a lady with a better site. I have seen countless good ones that answer every reasonable question.

Usually the guys don't bother to read her site or all the reviews.

Re: Keep in mind, even if she offers something to others, it doesn't mean that you will get

it for any number of reasons.  She's a person bro, and that means your session will be personally unique in some way or another based on what she's comfortable with doing.

YMMV is NOT necessarily a negative, just a fact of life.  Seeing a provider is not like eating at McDonalds - you can't just pick from the menu and expect the same thing that everyone else gets.

You're looking for guarantees in a business where none can be found.  Use the reviews for an idea of what will happen, but don't try to hold ANY person to what is described.  

If you think about it, the inconsistencies in reviews told you all you needed to know without trying to lock her into a certain service.  

Good luck

I guess that's your business.  If you want to visit with actual providers however you will have to accept the fact that there are a lot of questions that will not be answered until you are face to face with the lady.  

Obviously you need to make the decision that works best for you.  You are being a bit vague in your post but I honestly don't see a reason for your hostility.

Your RANT is too vague to draw any conclusions so if you're looking for support, you missed the mark.

ALL sessions are YMMV. H***, even with my Fav Ladies (Been seeing my current Favs over 2 years)...  MY mileage does vary.  Each coupling of 2 unique individuals is unique, each experience is unique.  If I were to write a review of each experience there would be variation.  

I expect the pictures to be accurate representations if the lady's appearance but each of us has our own concept of beauty & attractiveness.  I just want to know that the photo is accurate & I'll judge the photo myself, TYVM.

When reading reviews, I expect "performance" will vary with each unique experience.  I do look at the number code initially...  and I expect to see some variance of say +/- 1.  So an average of 8 might have a range of 7-8-9.  What I don't want to see is a swing to a 3 or 4.  To me that says the provider is "moody" or only great with gents she clicks with.  I'm willing to give a detailed look to a single low score...  to see what went wrong.  It happens.

But number scores are really not enough to base a decision on.  If I'm interested I read the written reviews...  at least the whole front page (most recent) & maybe random if the are more.

I really have never found it necessary to message a provider about her reviews.  She might not even know who posted them!  If I did have a Q on a recent review, I'd PM the reviewer.  

Having read all the information, if you are not comfortable, just pass or put the card back in the deck for later play.
skb
(9 TER reviews)

Fake or not the guys are the ones who handle that side of the hobby.

I would never answer any e-mail or phone conversations that tries to get me to say I offer anything other than time and companionship.  If the reviews are what you find not to your liking find some that do. Pushing to get answers will turn any lady off.

No lady will pursue contacts with anyone who is aggressive in nature or with ill mannners. It would be obvious this person would not fun to be with and may be pushy and rude in person. I don't like having a conversation with someone like that never mind sharing my bed.

Time to brush up on your table manners and sit in on some classes at the Newbie Board.

We do have control over who we see and by only seeing someone your sure you'll click with reviews will reflect the same story. I never see anyone for just the money but more for an interest in meeting and spending time sith someone I hope will be a friend sometime soon.

Kisses Haley

Well, to be honest, if you had asked me to confirm a specific activity, I wouldn't have replied to you to confirm an appointment, and I certainly wouldn't have answered the question. I'd have simply stopped responding at all.

Just because a profile says a woman engages in a particular service doesn't mean that service will be available EVERY time. Her profile might say she DFKS, BBBJ's, and speaks the language of the Mediterranean, but if your mouth is gross, don't be shocked if she won't DFK. If your hygiene is questionable, don't be shocked if she reaches for a cover. If you are packing an anaconda, don't be surprised if she politely declines to give you a tour of the Med.

If some of her reviews says she does whatever it is you wanted verified, but other reviews say she didn't, she probably has good reasons for refusing with some men while obliging others.

Do your part by showing showered, teeth brushed, etc, and you shouldn't have to worry.

You went too far. Trying to get her to talk about reviews that she might not even read and more likely doesn't even know who posted them. If you have questions about reviews, then you go to the reviewer to get clarification.

So yes, you were being an assh--e.

b-

One thing to consider is that some hobbyists use a relatively limited menu because they have no particular interest in activity X or Y.

Remember that a review doesn't just reflect what a provider offers, but which subset of what she offers that a particular hobbyist had interest in using.

Some hobbyists have no desire to (for example) visit Greece or CIF. So you wouldn't see such activities in their reviews.

In addition, if an arrangement had been reached with a provider to cater to a particular fetish; that might not be reflected in a review if she thinks having it in writing could either hurt her business in some way or put her under pressure to offer that arrangement more generally.

What I'm saying here is that the content of a review doesn't just reflect what a provider has available; but the preferences of the hobbyist as well and is sometimes censored by the hobbyist writing the review.

My profile mentions that I allow CIM (depends on the gent) as well as DFK but if you arrive to my incall with less than stellar dental hygiene you will be refused.

With situations like that its difficult to answer such questions over the phone.

Maybe she just doesn't want to discuss incriminating details over the phone.
If such is the case you will have to either backchannel thru  previous reviewers or read between the lines via her reviews.

If your still not comfortable your probably better off moving on to the next ; )

let's get a few things straight.....

first, suppose you are asking for a rim job?  and you walk in with a fresh crop of nice juicy dingle berries.... and refuse a shower.  ya think ya gonna get a rim job...

Suppose you walk in expecting DFK, and you are hacking up great gobs of mucus, and in your mind it is due to allergies... right?

point being, YMMV in any case and whether she answers or even acknowledges your question.

Read my reviews, with very few exceptions they are kinda boiler plate (read the one concering Angelica Sin if you really want a chuckle).  Some ladies have asked that I not include everything that we did... and I don't.  Not because I am ashamed of what we did, but simply because the lady and I shared true intimacy - that was hot for both of us.  And this if in a review, would lessen her experience as well as mine plus then Every Tom's Harry Dick would expect exactly the same experience - which might  be impossible to duplicate.

Simple solution... if what you want is not listed on her profile, don't expect it and if on that basis, you still see her, don't be disappointed if that particular service is not provided.  If she does provide it, it will be all the more special to you.

I've had sex with gals who don't kiss at all - and I've gone in knowing that, but hoping I was the exception.... and one night I saw such a lady... our sex was incredibly hot.  and we had a mutual orgasm.... hers was authentic while I faked mine! Lol!  seriously, she gushed and became so sensitive she could not bear to be touched - anywhere....  Hot ?  You bet!  did it make up for the no kissing?  yup, it did.

Each lady sets her own parameters, limits and value.  If those fall outside of too many hobbiests expectations, she will be outta business.... and she absolutely knows that.  my advice?  chill a bit, its all good.

Lol, wierd that we are on this subject...
Just got an email asking if bbbj and fs are included. Needless to say, he will get no response.

I think you jumped the gun.  You saying "I need all my questions answered" sounds a little childish and controlling to me.  Maybe she took a day off from being on her computer.  We do that sometimes you know!  LOL  Imagine that?!?  A provider with a social life outside of this biz!  Wow!  What's next?  A hobbyist who doesn't ask too many questions?!  LOL

Sorry.  I am not trying to make light of your rant.  However, I do find it to be a bit silly.

If you like someone's reviews.  See them.  If not, don't.  Simple stuff my dear.    

Best, Betty

All the info you need to decide if you set an appointment with her can be found on this site and her own.  I would also refuse to answer questions about anything said about me in reviews, and I would promptly end contact with you if you were looking for me to confirm veracity of those fantasy stories. Are you a cop or what?  No? Then don't act like one!

You should have made your decision to contact her before trying to "Q & A" for a couple of days.

Seems like she was being nice and overlooking your lack of decorum, and you went and canceled the appointment.

If it's livestock you want, you're on the wrong board.

A very interesting array of responses.

With any emotionally driven prose,a lack of detail will always prevail. For the simple reason that you want your side to be favored.

The reason I avoided specifics is that I will not convict without rational thought. After rational thought,I have determined that neither she or I handled this situation properly. No I didn't ask for any specifics,nor do I lack that intelligence.

For the ladies; I have informed her twice,even today,that I choose not to see her. She continues to message me/email me to see if we're still on. Who dodged a bullet here?

For the guys and mod; you are probably correct about letting it go at the 'review' stage. The problem I encountered was a sporatic review guide. A pattern of services offered for awhile and then oops where did they go.

I guess I expect too much. When someone jumps out of their box frequently I become weary.

To the ladies again; when we(guys) initially contact you,an automatic NEED for a time and date is implied. I never implied either. Only a visiting location. She assumed 'a demand' on my part for her time.

Yes, I do expect clear, concise,and precise information to help me make the decisions that must be made. Professionalism and respect are both two way streets.

Now I am faced with what to do when she again attempts to contact me concerning a ficticious appt. that I am suppossed to have.

To all that responded (to my being an a--hole or not) thank you. That was the point. To decipher my/her/our fault. It appears that I may want to accept the majority of fault here. I'm OK with being wrong. I am very glad that I was not,in the slightest amount,rude or beligerant with her. I certanly don't care for her lack of organization though. I had a feeling that 'cooler' heads would prevail.

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