That he is surprised that you are articulate and very well spoken and he seems genuinely surprised about it?  

Is that they seem to have a low opinion of providers or women in general. Every time a man acts surprised by my intelligence and wit I always ask him what kind of women is he usually with. Most providers I know are some of the smartest people out there.

Because I can tell you he uses that "first clean, bright, and articulate" line a lot.

and yes, it happens.  Gladly with good screening you should choose the gents who come off as intelligent and educated as you prefer as well.

prejudice takes on many different forms and manifests itself in many different ways.  In the end, it still reflects small-mindedness and often reveals to us exactly who we are dealing with.  Maybe that is a good thing.  For this allows us to learn rather early in our interactions with them, who the truly ignorant people are and by observing this obvious cue, exclude them from our activities.

But first to correct one thing ...

Sapiosexual people are awesome. Mind orgasms are the best, especially when you can connect with a hobbyist on that level.

I have you read in my mind as someone who can comprehend very little... Ijs

"You know something, for someone like you, you're very well spoken

And when he said it "Fancy" we were halfway through our date.  
What am I supposed to do? Kick him out?

figure that out, LO.   Just kidding  

While the IQ isn't posted,  it could considered in poor taste to let someone know you're really excited that they aren't as horribly ignorant as you perceived.

I mean shit, who was this guy, Donald Trump??

... and I've complimented them on their written correspondence, but it's wrt to the general population, not providers as a group.  It seems to me it's increasingly rare to find people who know how to write well, so I like to compliment people who exhibit exceptional writing skills. Also I appreciate a keen intellect and sharp wit, and the ability to have intense but civil discourse on a wide range of subjects.  

I was very young and naive when I first got into this business and I'm sure in my early days that I inadvertently displayed a bit of surprise when a client was younger and  more handsome than I was expecting. It doesn't sound as condescending as lowered IQ expectations, but it was still based on assumptions.  I would almost get a little nervous about unmarried, young, conspicuously hot clients and wait for the other shoe to drop.

If you use a word three syllables or more, some have some rather cringeworthy reactions of surprise and delight. On the one hand,you know they wouldn't be taken aback if someone in any other profession used a word like "approximately". On the other hand, those lowered standards only make them easier to hook. There is such a thing as the "soft bigotry of low expectations", but as long as nothing else is soft, the cash is flowing, and the tone is benevolent, I'm happy. Lol

Less talking, more sucking.  

but i guess i won't ever again because providers take compliments as insults!

You know this behavior dries my cunt right on up right?
I mean, surely you know this reply is despicable.

More people desperately need the memo.

BPJ, I think most of us like genuine compliments, and I don't think the complaint is about those at all. I rather assume that compliments I receive are given out of respect/passion/admiration/etc, but then again, if I had any whiff that a man thought that all women who play in this arena (or women in general) are mentally challenged and are the dregs of society, I certainly wouldn't see him. Still, we know those men exist; they are a vocal minority in my opinion, and I'm going to trust the OP to know the difference between a real compliment and one for "for someone like you."

or just tell a hot girl what she knows already?

If your phone does not ring, that would be me.

I use to wonder why will a client say I am very well spoken and I still don't know why. All I can say is when I charged  250 - 300 I got that comment often but when I increased my rates to a upper tier no one said anything like that. I am forced to believe maybe it was rates or maybe it was the people I attracted. Really I still don't know why.

a provider pm'd me stating the same thing, that a guy can say a nice thing in a nasty way, and you won't know unless you actually hear the way he says it.  i will go on the record admitting that i wasn't there and didn't hear the inflection or see the body language.  a guy can give a back handed compliment and neg a girl, but when transcribed on paper the words seem innocuous.  my bad.

suck it up buttercup. If he says your a dumb whore you should say yes sir I am and then take his money. That is your job. You can chose not to see him again. Don't piss and moan about it here.

actually that would make them seem dumber than they probably are. To actually say that to any person is totally insensitive.

On the Simpsons, Homer is standing in line at a car show.  Every guy goes up to the girl modeling next to the car and says, "Hey, do you come with the car?"  She responds, "teehee" and the next guy comes up and says the same thing and she responds the same.  There is a long line of guys waiting in line.  

I cut far less slack to girls who charge 5-600 than 300.  If you're charging a premium, you're wearing lingerie that fits well and is higher quality fabric than Frederick's of Hollywood.  If you have tattoos, they are tasteful and well done versus random unfinished black lines or "memorial pictures" on your body.

What you failed to realize buttercup is that nowhere in this thread did I bitch, moan or complain. Lol, I simply stated a goddamned observation.

Boston isn't my twist. Don't hurt your brain

Fancy. Go work on your reviews. Even a UTR provider isn't this low key. I also hear that ESL courses are technically free

I was just like

I've seen people thrown out of restaurants for disrespecting the staff. Like - literally thrown out. One was arrested for calling a female server a name.

In my 60 plus years on this planet, I've never seen anybody thrown out of a restaurant or being so loud as to need to be thrown out.  I don't go frequent 'those' kind of places.

People say, wow he's so well spoken and presents himself well - even Biden did it.  Its stereotypical back-handed racism.  I put it in the category of not meaning ill intent, and trying to make a compliment - but failing miserably.  I just ignore it and put in my mind, 'Ok, you're a racist fuck, but thats ok because you don't know any better".

And I would do so again without hesitation. My wife has thrown out disrespectfull clients. Unless a lady is offering humiliation play disrespectfull clients should expect to be thrown out on their as minus their donation if they fail to treat the ladies with respect and decency.

You'll also see it in churches - just because someone is a highly paid minister, doesn't mean he should put up with someone spitting in his or her face.

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I can't believe you've never had a racist thought in your life. Racism, is a natural reaction to having emotions. I'd think there was something wrong with people if they never viewed anything through a racial lens.  

...doesn't give you a pass to talk to me like a homegirl from your old block

...i've always written in pretty clear English.  
Not much changed other than higher price and some prop pictures really.  
I THINK I speak like I write which fairly "proper" so .... *shrugs*.
Ehhhh I also think them being surprised you're not a dumb, illiterate, ghettofied gum-smacking whore might also show how not so highly they regard this profession in general

Probably because they think guys like the dumb blonde, Marilyn Monroe type and/or don't want to intimidate a man by showing superior intelligence.

You're very obviously one who lacks any type of comprehension skills FatVern.