Yes, it is both abnormal, and demonstrates an immaturity about his character.
Instead of paying for providers, he should have instead attempted raw honesty. Let's assume he's not a total troll, and is capable of meeting women and going on normal dates. He should just be honest with everyone he dates, saying that he is not looking for exclusivity, he's not looking for long-term relationship. The problem is that most men (me included, by the way) don't have the stones for that kind of honesty. We're so worried that this available pu**y is going to walk away, that we will say anything to get it.
So we end up saying "Sure, I won't go out with anyone else." And then 3 months later, we're bored and something new comes along that we want. We cheat, break up with the first one. Repeat...
I imagine that if your friend was honest, he would have found many women who knew what they were getting into, and would not provide the "drama" he is worried about. Instead, he took the easy route and went for providers.
I met a guy out of the country, one time, that has slept with providers for 30 years(1000 women), and is still going strong.no wife or kids. Am i weird for thinking thats fine. I guess the saying to each his own is fair here. Are the men that stay in boring marriages the real "abnormal" guys but society has conditioned everyone to think they have to get married by 30 and have 2 kids. Do you think its genetic that some guys love the variety of prostitutes and would rather do that until they are 60 rather than get married. Could genes play a part in not wanting to be with a provider. Is it nurture or nature?
Statistically speaking, the guy you are talking about is "abnormal." Statistically speaking, men staying in boring marriages is "normal." If you want to rationalize your desires to live his life-style, why waste the effort. Just do it. What you are talking about is the internal emotional and biological conflict within each man; between his animal nature to reproduce and fulfill biological drives vs. living in a society and family, and finding personal meaning in doing so.
is finding the "normal guy" that they have defined statistically....
Ever wonder why NO ONE is happy with our presidential races? it is because not one of us has identical political views or opinions on everything. same is true for religion.
societies where "norms" are enforced by law are very repressive indeed. if you want to talk "normal" then you need to understand that "normal" is a statistical abstract, and not a realized construct.
costly how? money or the fact that he has to hide it around the herd society.i dont think it costs him that much. he probably averages 60 to 100 per girl out of the country, compared to the pornstars here that charge 1k to 3k.personally, i would never pay 1k for a girl for 1 hour. i could fly to costarica for a week with that money and hook up with a few girls.for 3 k i could fly to brazil,get a hotel and be with a different girl everynight, stay 7 to 10 days and then come home with change.
I'm in my mid thirties. I have never been married, or had a girlfriend. I have gone on a total of 3 dates in my life. I have never had sex w/o paying for it. And I am totally happy, and consider myself completely normal. Fact is, A)we all pay for it one way or another, and B) I like variety, and could never be satisfied w/monogamy. I can see me staying w/the hobby forever. It's easier than the dating scene, and this way my options are totally open.
Yes, it is both abnormal, and demonstrates an immaturity about his character.
Instead of paying for providers, he should have instead attempted raw honesty. Let's assume he's not a total troll, and is capable of meeting women and going on normal dates. He should just be honest with everyone he dates, saying that he is not looking for exclusivity, he's not looking for long-term relationship. The problem is that most men (me included, by the way) don't have the stones for that kind of honesty. We're so worried that this available pu**y is going to walk away, that we will say anything to get it.
So we end up saying "Sure, I won't go out with anyone else." And then 3 months later, we're bored and something new comes along that we want. We cheat, break up with the first one. Repeat...
I imagine that if your friend was honest, he would have found many women who knew what they were getting into, and would not provide the "drama" he is worried about. Instead, he took the easy route and went for providers.
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