If you live alone, why do you prefer incalls?  

Why does it matter that your neighbors see a female coming to visit you at your home?  I'd be damned if I would pay for a place to live and then feel as though I couldn't have who the hell I wanted over to my house over to my house!

And to preface this question, I NEVER go anywhere dressed suggestively.  Nobody who sees me anywhere in public needs to know my business based on how I'm dressed.  That is saved for private.

So to summarize the question:
You live alone, the lady dresses like a lady in public, and the lady doesn't mind doing outcalls.
So then why not have her over to your place?

Please enlighten me?  

I am single and live alone and I wouldn't ever have a provider come to my home unless I had seen her multiple times, really trusted her, and was doing an overnight or lengthy appointment. Not every lady dresses discreetly as you do unfortunately. Aside from that, I think it makes it too personal and too risky. If anything ever goes wrong or the provider isn't as high class as you, then I don't want that lady knowing where I live. I don't want some unknown person being in my house when I really know nothing about them. It isn't worth the risk. Plus I assume a lot of guys like to keep their home life and hobby life separate.

I live alone, with 2 dogs that would be all in your face cuz they think you're there to see them!

But besides that, I'm not the most 'organized' person, meaning, I have mail and shit allover the place.

Oh yeah, I forgot. The liquor bottles and ashtrays filled with cigarette butts might be a turn-off. But you're not there to critique` my habitat, are you?!

Naw, but seriously, I would have a clean place for a lady to come and service me. Shit, my Mom came over just yesterday and cleaned for me.

I'm so fucking lazy! Good thing I'm handsome and charming!!! LOL!!!

A hotel room helps do that, both physically and psychologically.

Yes, it's extra money if I do this in my hometown, but I see this as part of the cost of engaging in this hobby.

I think it largely the stigma that goes with the activity, frankly. Even single guys w/o GFs have an issue with this and its probably based on some unfounded fear, but it's a fear nonetheless, especially if she is a first session stranger. The other obvious reason is that he may have a GF with a key and neighbors that know her and it also means she could drop over unexpectedly. I agree with you, generally, inviting someone to your place makes sense in this scenario. Most ladies understand the difference between the public and private, especially with dressing which can raise the wrong kind of attention even in a city environment if it is too revealing. There's always the risk of a neighbor that plays who recognizes his "friend" and while he would be the last person to say anything, having someone know what you are up to is not a comfortable feeling. Let's face it. This is a secret life for most of us. I don't share what I do with my civilian friends.

I would have no problem having any of my favs come to my place. I would not however invite a total stranger over. I do not wish to open a can of worms here but, as a guy who has been hobbying for well over twenty years, I have learned that not all people, regardless of their occupation, are trustworthy as we would hope.

It's a simple safety precaution.  Once I know a lady I will gladly have them visit me at my place.

If she was a very well reviewed lady then I wouldn't have a problem (and thus I wouldn't have a problem because I don't do the TOFTT thing). But I can see why guys (myself included) would hesitate or even not want a gal to know where they live, especially someone they have not met before or if she is new to the business.

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My personal experience. I was staying at a 4 star hotel for a few days. The hotel rooms have weird setup. my room door faces my neighbor's door, and there is a double door for just these 2 rooms, so it is private again outside.

I was seeing a brunette at night and then a blond in the next morning. unfortunately, my neighbor saw both of them at the double door. I think he knows what exactly was going on.

The blond told me that my neighbor was rude to her when she said hello to him.

besides this, my current apartment has pretty thin wall.

I always do in call. Many reasons as previous posts have indicated. I think many providers feel more comfortable on their turf. However, There is one escort that comes to my house, and she's my atf. She drives an SUV, dresses in jeans and blouse and knows not to wear anything provocative. She stays 4 or 5 hrs and we have a great time.

If I was at a four star hotel I wouldn't give a flying flip if a neighbor saw that.  Its none of his/her damn business.   The exception would be if it the neighbor was attending the same conference as you.

To tell you the truth? Most people know what I do, and admit they wish they had the balls to do it themselves. Men and women.

So there you go.

Yes, my neighbor was attending the same conference with me, of course I dont know him in person. I saw his fucking orange badge, and i was giving a presentation too in that conference.

Yeah I didnt give a fuck either. just saying imaging that was not the hotel and it was my home. coz OP asked for opinions about in calls to homes.

Some guys just dont want providers coming over to their house and I totally understand it! There are some crazy women out there, who WILL just show up at your doorstep, rob you or who knows what else? Just like why some ladies dont want clients coming over to their homes.

Plus just in case a bust were to happy , noone wants the cops to be seen at their private home.

Some people care and some dont! Also I have friends who will just show up at my house to say hey, so I would hate to have an appointment going on when they showed up! I couldnt be like oh he is a friend, because it just wouldnt look right, escpecially if we arent the same age, my friends would really raise an eyebrow.

If nothing else, it's easier for me to visit them rather than vice versa.  The City is only a half hour away, and I enjoy visiting there anyway.  Most of the ladies I know or would consider seeing either are based in NYC or are touring there, and most would have to make separate arrangements for transportation.  Why inconvenience them with that when I can go visit them instead?

Broad daylight, fine with me. There has been a parade of providers come through my front door over the years and I've never had the slightest problem. I think like you do. Many of the providers I've seen do outcalls only. If I would have had to pay for a hotel room every time, I would have wasted thousands of dollars. I'd have to cut back my frequency.

I had a really bad expoerience with a civie that I took to my home when I was single...  went through my bank records I had in my desk.  I know of one civie one night stand / morning after rape charge that made it all the way to court.  
NO, if I was single again, I'd not want to take a stranger into my home on the first meeting.
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NOT!!

There are enough people in-and-about my place now. NO MORE please.

There was a time when the home-front was inhabited by MAINLY me. I'm a very private person. My business is just that;my business. I don't air it out for anyone. In-fact, many of my neighbors(at one time)thought me gay simply because I DIDN'T have girls in and out constantly. Forget that crap. If I had every Tom Dick and MARY over,where would I create my refuge??

Even on these boards as I SHARE,sometimes(within something of a personal nature)I give a little fictional TWIST to facts.

I would never have a first time visit in my home- unless she was well reviewed and came recommended from a brother or sister in the biz,
I really get off on home visits. in fact it becomes quite ritualistic for me.  It is an opportunity to clean up the joint. I put freshly laundered sheets on the Calif King, have nice scented candles lit and ready. Depending on the provider, I have wine, cheese and fruit ready and out to enjoy.  I have music ready- maybe Anita Baker or Kenny G ready to go.

my home unless I had seen the lady several times and had built a level of trust.  To see a new girl in your home could lead to disaster.  What if she is a wacko and comes back to harass you, steal from you, bring her muscleman to do you over?

Ah man! OSP! Damn good thing Gambler isn't here!

I would sooo take over for him, but I think you saw the error of your ways!

Or more specifically, your MOOUUUTH!!!!

I started hobbying in 1983 and have had more than 300 meetings with approximately 193 different, beautiful, providers. More than 95% of these meetings have been outcalls to my home. Out of all these, only 2 times was the lady dressed less than discreetly. Also, I have never had a problem from any of these lovely ladies knowing where I live, or from any of my neighbors (and I have been in this same apartment since before I started hobbying).

You haven't seen my dogs. They're pussies with me. But they'll eat some dumbass who comes over to fuck with their dad.

I just want to watch, beer inhand, of course...

I guess I am different.  I always prefer outcall and will not schedule with a lady that only does incall.  

I guess it's just an "old school" thing for me anc "call girls".  

I'm single and I don't care what my neighbors think at all.

2 words "Risky Business"  in the tom cruise movie, the hooker (Lana, played by Rebecca DeMornay) steals stuff from his house.  wouldn't want that to happen to me!!!

I ain't afraid of a 'defect' like Gambler.

He's usually too tipsey to have any effect on moi. What did you do with him anyway? He's probably 'sammiched' between two hideous looking south-american honey's.

Thanks for all the input guys.  I have to use hotel rooms for incall so it just irks me a little when I have to get a room and a gent has a perfectly good house sitting there, but I understand the reasons better now.  I guess this was more of a vent than anything.  

Hell, I've got 2 boxer dogs laying right next to me on the floor right now.  And yes some hobbyists have met them, but that's only the ones who don't mind doggie drool!  LOL

Thanks again for all the input.