After thinking about it, what was the deciding factor in going into the business? If you were at that crossroads again would you take the same route a second time? Not a survey,just curious.

I have been in the biz one way or another for 11 years.
Fetish Store Owner - Dominatrix - Burlesque Peformer - Model - Phone actress- finally web site(s) owner and transitioning over to escorting. It happened as a process.
Would I do it any other way? No. I was meant to explore this become who I am and meet the people that have changed my life. This is for school and for myself. I do not date. I like the people I meet here more than my former boyfriends and theres more meaning to the word
Independent.
I decide who what when and how. I go home and dont have to worry about toilet seats or laundry or dinner. I have other people in my life that satisfy my needs and those of the people that are close to me and whom I love.

I always knew that I wanted to do this. It's really every woman's fantasy whether they admit it or not. I would say most woman are very intrigued by it.

Life takes it's own twists and turns and we end up doing whatever we need to to 'get by' and 'get on with life'. Such as marriage, kids, and 'jobs'.

Almost two years ago, while having dinner with my SO/FB, we were talking about deathbed regrets. What do we still want to do before we pass on? Climb Mt. Everest? Win a few marathons? I told him I'd always fantasized about being a Courtesan. So, that's what I did.
For me, I never intended it to be a fulltime profession, but rather a 'hobby'; my pleasure time (same as for the gentlemen).

I'm not the kind of person who is patient with the "one of these days, I'm gonna..", or the "I should really.." and then never do it. Either DON'T SAY it, or if you SAY it, then DO it!
So, I said it, and did it, and am glad I did (except when you receive calls from wives at 1am..!)

I remember, as a teenager............I would sneak and read
one of my mothers books " The Happy Hooker".
( Boy, was I a Naughty Girl!)

And when the time was right "I became one" and yes, I am Happy!

I met my hero: Xavier Hollander(the author) at
The 1st. International Hookers Masquerade Ball in Ca. in 1997.
What a hell of a Lady and a Wild Time!

Curious, to know if anyone else attended this?

My reasons were financial.....having a family to support, not able to return to my former profession due to self-inflicted mistakes.....all part of life's twists and turns. Knowing and realizing I have always been a very sexual woman.....it just came to be for me. Do I regret the decision...No! Have met some very interesting people, experienced some great sex and the ability to educate my son at M.I.T.

Remember condom girl – tights a cap and a C on her Chest, with a basket filled with condoms that she shared with every one at the ball  -- I had a blast!  When my friend asked me to work for her at the ball I never expected to have so much fun.

and I knew I was good at this. I stayed even after the debt was cleared. I enjoy this lifestyle. I enjoyed the men. I enjoyed the ladies also.
It taught me a lot about people in this business. My goal is 5 years in the business. I just hit year 2.

Would I do anything different...HELL NO BABY.... (Well maybe stay single....lmao)

Kisses, Shaye

I heard an interview on NPR how.. fun I would love to go to a Hookers Ball.. lol

I was doing some modelling to earn extra cash in addition to my day job earnings and met one or two girls who also escorted.  I never really liked modelling so I thought I'd give escorting a go.

The most surprising thing for me was how easy it is and how much I enjoy it.  I thought I'd try and if I found it hard to do then I'd stop but I took to it like a duck to water

Would I change anything?  Yes, I'd have started sooner if I'd known what I was missing!  lol

Hello Scarlet Rose,

 Yes, I do remember the condom girl! It is great to
know that someone else attended, as it was Really A Once in a
Lifetime Experience!

I don't remember taking any condoms, but I did take a centerpiece
from the table, imagine what that could be? LOL

Did you get to meet The Happy Hooker, Mayflower Madam or The LA
cop turned Call Girl?

If you ever get to Phoenix, I have alot of pictures that I would love to show you!

I Had A Blast Also, it will be a time that I will never forget!

Much Thanks, to Coyote LA.- S.F. for making this happen!

I, too, thought I would do it once or twice then hate it but I LOVE it!

I stumbled into the hobby quite by accident... didn't need the money or have a fascinaton with escorting.  After my divorce I dearly missed the sex yet didn't want to get into a huge emotional committment.  I started to put ads on "one night stand" dating sites and got mistaken for an escort.  A man I thought was looking for a legit date offered me $$ and I thought that was so cool.  Now I get paid to have fun and do what I used to do all the time anyway.  This hobby is fantastic and I do not regret a thing about getting in.

the fact that I started this biz at the age of 33, divorced, 4 children. I would have done this at 21. I love this biz......I think I would have been able to see the world and eventually had kids and all the wonderful things I have today that are precious to me.

kisses & licks.........
mara

..will you be making a visit to the U.S.A.??

I'm glad you're in the business, and with such a healthy attitude.  Please consider a trip to Chicago.

tennis

I met a lady who had the same reason you did.  I think it's wonderful that you would choose this activity.  Obviously, for you it's a "win-win" situation.  

tennis

A danger is very stimulating to me.

Evelyn.

-- Modified on 12/3/2003 11:05:06 PM

1. Selling the house I had worked so hard to get.
2. Doing something drastic keep my house.

I chose the drastic option.  Who knew I'd end up liking it

An overwhelming reason women enter this business, is indeed financial.  Long ago, I was travelling, the lady sitting next to me was a professor at a top Westcoast university, and she actually showed me the statistics.  

It is easy to rationalize this.  Women can walk into a local starbucks, bars, supermarkets, or just about anywhere, attract men, and get the sex they want.

I remember reading about how to eat an ice cream cone.  It gave detailed explanations of different ways to lick the ice cream, such as swirling your tongue around it.  I could not, for the life of me, figure out what that had to do with sex.

There's that urban legend about the female grad student in sociology or something who does her paper on the escort business and ends up getting involved in it herself - that's kind've like my story!  I started out as a writer, (still do that too,) and several years ago I started writing stories from the point of view of a "sex worker" (I think the first was about a phone sex operator,) just because I was interested in the point of view itself.  I remember someone asking me once, if I had actually worked as a phone sex operator, and I was shocked - I was a writer, for God's sake, I was supposed to imagine different ways of looking at the world!  But I guess I had a hidden agenda, (hidden even from myself!) because years later I started modeling for art classes, which fairly quickly turned into erotica and porn, which fairly quickly evolved into escorting as well.  Funny how some things turn out.  But no regrets at all, I've met some great people and had a lot of great sex - what's not to like?

-Anya

It was something I had always fantasized about and wished I had tried at a younger age.  I thought I was too old and it was too late.  I thought men would only want ladies under 25. One night, I did a little research and decided to give it a try.

I now realize, that starting younger, I would not have been mentally mature enough to handle everything as professionally as I do now.  My real world business experiences as well as life experiences have come in handy.

After a 6 month trial as an extremely low volume indy, I ended my other job and started doing this as my only means of income, but have still managed to keep my business low volume overall.

Lately it seems I've forgotten the steps that caused me to decide to enter this business a month ago.

I know that I have fantasized about working in the sex industry for several years but
1. had religious hang-ups
2. had self confidence problems
3. was generally afraid of the legal issues

I've attempted escorting on several previous occasions for the past 10 years and could never follow thru with it for some reason.
I worked for a porn star for 3+ years and had offers but still couldn't bring myself to do it

Then about 3 months ago a boyfriend left me and I was feeling extremely unattractive, unsexy and my self esteem was below rock bottom.

I began a short term promiscuous phase that psychologically I think was brought on to make myself feel like I was attractive to other men.

After about a week of that crap I said to myself "come on now, if you can do it for free you can get paid"

at first i thought no one would pay for me

but i got one guy to do it and I loved it, felt extremely empowering, it was a rush
so I did it a few more times
and now I don't think I can even do it for free anymore
I've tried and I don't get the rush of excitement that I feel when it's a client so I stopped that alltogether for now

Then I threw together a website, came out about it to my family, friends, therapist and coworkers (I have a problem with dishonesty it makes me feel ashamed so I prefer to have everything out in the open) and haven't looked back since.

Now keep in mind i only do GFE/Massage and only Incall/outcall to my comfortable safe lil neighborhood so it's not like I took a huge leap

but for me it was a gigantic step and I cannot even begin to explain what it has done to boost my self esteem
it dumbfounds everyone around me
lol

-- Modified on 12/6/2003 8:11:52 AM

ive never heard of that ball, would love to go
also i just looked up "the happy hooker" on ebay and found the book and the movies, so I bid on them all, lol

I guess I was always a natural in that aspect... I was approached by a club owner at 17 and was dancing not more than a month or two later... Dancing to Incall... Incall to Outcall... Agencies to Indy... I guess I just love it all. I would never change it and I hope I never have to get out of the business... ever... almost seven years later and I LOVE IT ALL !!!