I've been in a very similar situation with my ATF for a few years now. The sex is great, we share a lot of of-the-clock time and have even done a few weekend trips together.  The sex is ALWAYS paid for.  That is the boundary and that is also the way we both want it. Keeping the "business" part of the relationship in perspective eliminates jealousy and unrealistic demands that we might otherwise try to place on each others time and emotions.  

I've been a shoulder for her to lean on when she wants to talk about her A-hole ex, some of the idiot customers that she has to deal with or her regular job (she is UTR and very low volume at this point as far as escorting goes).  I know everything about her so she can be open and honest about any topic.  She was a huge help to me when my own marriage disintegrated a few years ago and she was also very understanding when I had to stop doing appointments for a few months while I got back on my feet after my split with my ex.  

I don't know that I have ever been all that jaded about providers.  Maybe realistic would be a better word.  In any case, my experiences with this particular gal have been a lesson in how to beat the odds and carry on a great P4P arrangement with someone who has become a dear and trusted friend as well.  One of the best parts is that she LOVES it when I see another provider and tell her the story as part of our foreplay during our own sessions...

and that has led to some occasional OTC time, but never OTC sex.  

I've had enough train wrecks with just the former, let alone the latter.

2 people like each other, they discuss it, come to find out both have tried to go beyond the client/provider, both got burned bad and both agree this is what's good. While the blurring of lines might be good for a while, chances are it would end in a horrible train wreck, as shown by our past experiences.even gave her a little test to see if she was playing me, and wow was I surprised by her response.she could have had a good payday, really good, but she didn't choose that because I told her I had some extra expenses this month and she said to take care of those. I was pleasantly shocked at her response.the sex is fucking incredible knowing the two people like each other, but knowing both don't want to fuck up the business aspect. Anyone else have a positive story to share about how a provider made you a little less jaded

We crossed the boundries and I'm in the middle of a passionate love affair with a provider.  I'm having a ball and believe that I can deal with any consequences. I'm not jelous of her work and I am free to screw any other girl I want. Train wreck? No, at least not yet.  I'll be sure to post an update if that train ever drills me.

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Ass u me...assume.
No,i saw her earlier told her the situation about the extra expenses for the month. I think 99.9% of people would have just went sure come over. I was just in complete awe when she said take care of what I have to take care of this month and then we'll fuck our brains out. Its a nice little test to see who wants to bleed you dry. And yes,i sometimes get extra time,i always tell her when time is up and she has the best response to say it doesn't matter and she does what she wants to do.

The hobbyists that I tend to "catch feelings for" are all married. I think we're happy with having a hot love affair on/off the clock but we BOTH would HATE to end a marriage. It's fun. I love them. But let's keep it there.

... and not to get too personal, right now, I just don't want a new ex-husband! if I wanted to date for a possible LTR then I'd be on match and not a TER-addict!

And, since she did not say: c'mon over anyway, to you, this proves she is someone who does not want to 'bleed you dry'?  If you know her as well as you say, why would you question this in the first place?

Or, maybe you told her about extra expenses, as a "test", just to see what she would say?

Either way, what a bizarre kind of manipulative thought process.  

And how would she be able to bleed you dry anyway? You do have total control over whether you see her…..or not.

In all sincerity, I'd love to hear a follow up in about 2-3 months.

Here's hoping you beat the odds.

Not really sure what the thing is, and could be I'm a damn fool, too. But...

..We've been seeing each other for 3-4 months now. She's young(20), but for the most part has a good head on her shoulders and a big heart. Sex just keeps gettin better. I've never had a more compatible sex partner in my life. She gets paid for the time but the rate is wayyy low and she stays for lots of OTC. We get together occasionally for just plain ol hang out time. We're in each other's personal lives a good bit. My wife has met her and likes her very much. We took her out clothes shopping last week for finally gettin her DL. We've offered to move her in here so we can send her to school to get her GED, then to the community college. That kindof stuff. So nahhh, we didn't blur the lines... We nuked the chit out of'em.

She's suggested OTC sex a coupla times and we followed thru. Can't say it was a real "convincer" but it went a long way in me thinkin this ain't a play.

The "wrench in the works" is her little brat-azz live-in that she, for some reason, feels obligated to who constantly degrades her. All a fella can do is wait till she figures she's had enough of getting dumped on to bust a move. Or could be she really likes the abuse and ain't goin nowhere. Wouldn't be the first time I've seen such behavior in a woman.. So we're ridin it out to see what comes of it.

But back to the OP, this little experience is what I look to when things occasionally turn to crap.
There are good people everywhere you can be. d:^)  Schneeks..

but i'll only discuss two. they are opposites in so many ways.... the understanding is very different with them. the only characteristic that both have in common is that there is no uncompensated "naked time" whether that time is "therapy" or "fun".

one has been extremely generous with OTC and the other has never offered it but certainly never watches a clock either.

with one non business communications are rare, with the other they are frequent, several times a week.

with one the conversations are more health oriented, the other is more about investment and consumer goods.

music is very important to me. i can discuss and enjoy the musical tastes of one of the ladies a bit more congenially. (but it would be nice to meet a lady who was a more perfect fit musically.)

one is an ATF the other is a good friend.

the business never gets messed up since both ladies can communicate very clearly and straightforwardly. we are adults who know what the deal is and there is no need to mess with what works.

Interesting story you gave here.  And I am sure this is something you (and the Mrs.) need to do to make yourselves feel good.  And obviously (Where is Captain Obvious as well?) self-esteem issues on all sides seems to be playing out here.

How often has this "story" been told, and each time the story teller (that would be YOU) can never understand why the gal always wants to stay with the bastard, looser, good-for-nothing boyfriend.

Perhaps she just isn't all that into you?

But if it makes you feel good to "try and save her"...please carry on.

I respect the majority of your posts I've read and that's all good.

But did it ever occur to you that there may be more to this one that I ain't so "public" about.?
You jacks are in such a hurry to bash anyone for doing anything positive.
Far as the relationship aspect all anyone can do is guess, I reckon. And you very well may be right on that.
Far as how we feel about our lives we feel pretty good no matter what ends up happnin with this.

And if I want a psycho analysis, I'll get a psychologist. Not a fuckin CPA.. d;^)

Not a "shrink"...but I did stay at a Holiday Inn recently

Just was commenting on YOUR story.  If it leaves out "important" details that one would need to "really understand" what you are trying to do, perphaps you might have mentioned that as much.

But simply reading what you wrote...well you got the gist of it from my prior post.

And thanks for the compliment...I am a "fuckin CPA"...thankfully

That works.. Where's the couch, Doc.? d;^)  


Point taken.. Some of the "subject matter" is more than I care to divulge on a public forum and it prolly would have been better to have added that little nugget.. d:^)  Schneeks..