As you old fat guys and beautiful providers know I 'm a gym buff.....most of the men and women I meet at the gym are newly divorced or going through some sort of break up with their respective mate.  These men and women run to the gym after they break up with their SO's/wife(s)/husbands.   WTF?  You didn't care about yourself when you were with your SO or wife/husband, now you want to get into shape so you can get a man or women.  Makes NO fucking sense to me.  You should workout, be well groomed, take care of yourself while you are with your SO/wife/husband....show some respect for yourself.   Please comment........Don't tell me you don't have time....you have kids....have a career....bullshit, make time for yourself, show some self esteem, self dignity

more of a bad habit and before you know it both of you are out of shape..

It's crazy right?  I never understood it.  When I get married I'll make sure I stay fit and live a healthy life style for me 1st, then my wife, and kids.  Communication is the key and supporting each others jobs, likes, dislikes, and hobbies, etc.  Life is too short to be unhappy

I don't think people get divorced or cheat because of the physical. My ex was and still is beautiful, but life happens, people change and resentment creeps in because you are with someone for 24 hours and you are bound to get pissed off with them because they are not perfect and neither are you.  

Then, they wonder why he/she does not want to fk them anymore.

I've always been thin. Until my 50's, I had a hard time even putting weight on despite my eating tons of food. I can still eat two or even three full restaurant dinners at one sitting.

In fact I think it is the only way for a marriage to survive since we live in such a disposable world. I love my alone time. Not too sure how kids enter the equation but since I don't have any and don't want any, that is not a concern.

And that would be one reason I would have a hard time remaining faithful to an SO if he was like that because of laziness and if he so much as dared make snide remarks, well he had better get a shit repellent umbrella because of the shit storm that would follow.

Thats NOT what I said !!!   I never said people get divorced because of physical reason....READ THE POST !!!!  Really?

London- You get it.   That's what i was trying to convey.  People get complacent and let everything go to shit.....I would NEVER do that and they then run to the gym, tanning beds, make overs when they break up....Why didn't you do all those things while you were with your mate?   DUMB ASSES

People need to care about themselves first !   Take pride in your body, appearance etc.   WOW

I have been criticized for spending too much time on fitness pursuits and diet than on other recreational things. I had to find a happy balance because too much time can piss off people too.

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(Though there is a strong argument for that.), but for your own sake.

Health is the greatest wealth, and it should not be squandered.

It's crazy that people will pay a fortune to detail their cars, then not spend a few minutes a day to do some calisthenics and stretching.  And as to what we choose to eat, we need to do a much better job at that.

Then there is the mind, another terrible thing to waste, but that's a whole different kettle of fish.

on both the woman's and the man's part. It's kinda' like bait and switch when a woman/man attracts a mate, ties the knot and goes to town on the cheese cake and soaps.

You are far to hot to be single..............

The body is a shell without a personality. some of the hottest bodies I have seen belong to some of the most vacuous, self absorbed personalities I have ever met. And some of the nicest sexiest people don't have the magazine body. It is a careful balance of both.

eople should stay in shape not just to keep husbands/wives bf/gf interested but to keep the world at large interested not to mention staying healthy. There was a woman I kept spotting on my subway commute. She was very pretty with a nice figure. So what, I see pretty woman every day, but what was the chance of spotting the same person at the same place so frequently. Not only that, she got off at the same stop as me. It was odd. Anyway she noticed that I noticed her. I tried to be cool about checking her out.  I never approached her for the simple reason you just don't do that on the subway at 8am. At least I don't. After a year or so of this she dissapeared. Two years went by and then about a month ago she reappeared. She had gained quite a bit of weight.  Eveything was bigger. Although still pretty she had a double chin. If I was Loius CK I finally would have approached her and said something to the effect of "Thank you so much for gaining all that weight. Now that you are no longer gorgeous I can stop these inane fanatasies I have been weaving about you and get back to more productive thoughts. Your're still sort of pretty though".

And then you see them 2 years later all fat and out of shape. Definitely stops the pining and the what ifs.

One of the very best ones out there.

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Thanks babe

Of course....I'm talking about it from a HEALTH perceptive !!  Number one killer is USA is heart disease....I wonder why?  65% of americans are over weight !!!  YES...those are true numbers

If fitness pursuits ARE your entertainment, then who are they te tell you how much time you should spend on them?  Unless perhaps it's an SO who is feeling neglected?  I can't se how anyone else would have the right to criticize your choices unless they are harmful to yourself or others

Heath is wealth !!!  I know some REALLY RICH people, I mean stupid money !  They can wipe their asses with money.  SOme of which are paying people/IT specialists and Doctors to come up with something to increase their live span.  You think it's a JOKE...its NOT.   They have money...lots of it....but money doesn't mean shit when you dead  :  

I wish it would happen more often, so I'll try to play nice.  I started at the gym after my first divorce because I wanted to look better for dating.  I think the reason is after a while people simply lose motivation to look good for their SO.  It's just one more way in which marriages become stale.
Even when my second marriage became stale I continued to exercise at least 4 days a week.  So it had nothing to do with staying attractive for Wife #2.  I did it for me.  What I didn't do for her was manscape, which was a mistake.
But the result for me was I became a gym rat and have been in shape for longer than most.  It's a total lifestyle commitment and no one is too busy not to make the time.  I did it the entire time I was a senior corporate exec.  My kids are regular exercisers despite having busy lives.

It sure does.....Most of my college class mates look older, over weight, don't dress right....they don't give a shit about themselves.  It's sad......When I'm married (If i ever do) I will eat right, hit the gym, tan, all the things I do now.  WHY would I stop?  because I'm married now?  I've found my hot wife and now I can eat what I want, fart, drink, not train....that's crazy !

Inky-  first and foremost....THank you for the ONLY kind words you have ever shared with me.   It's about LOOKING good for YOU not your SO.  This is about us not our SOs.  Like buying a house....Pride of ownership.   People should take Pride in their appearance.  For many reason...One being HEALTH and Longevity.

But I force myself to make at least some gym time. I still like to get laid the "old fashioned way" at times and no hottie 25 years younger than me is going to give me the time of day if my gut is hanging out further than my dick. Lol

First of all, if you continue to post thoughts that I agree with, I'll post reasonable responses.  Since I'm a bit tired of this board, if you make fidiotic posts I'm much more likely to just ignore them.  
As for your OP, after marriage #1 failed it was more about doing as much as I could to turn my life around and less for the dating.  Now, it's simply part of a long-term commitment to myself, and for myself.  I like it when my doc does the annual physical and says, "Whatever you're doing, just keep doing it."  I also like the way I look.  Try going to a Meet & Greet and seeing what your fellow mongers actually look like.  You don't want to look like that.

Well, one anyway.  I will never try to pick up a civvie girl.  Too much work.  The only way I will fuck a civvie is if,
1) She is hotter than fuck.
2) Has Daddy issues.
3) Comes up to me and blatantly cruises me and basically tells me she wants to fuck me silly.
Otherwise, I'd rather just call a provider.
It's so much simpler.  Cheaper, too.

I agree 100 %.   WOW   we are off on the right foot today brother!!   I like that....lets continue the positive posts.

Inicky-  You have a point.   I just don't want Civvies calling me and texting me (when are we going out again)...all that shit.  I like NO strings attached...we make love, fuck, have sex and walk away.  I'll call you when I'm ready to see you again....That's the provider world.  It's a good one....NO stress...no BS.  It's WAY easier and YES, cheaper in the long run.  And NO DRAMA : )

It was an SO and I was neglecting him a little. Oh I don't give a rats ass what friends think. Those that commented where in need of some exercise so I took it with a grain of salt.  

I don't have one.

But I NEVER want to be like our M&G buddies who undoubtably can only get laid by paying for it.  Yes the hobby is easier and most definitely cheaper in the long run, but I still like to know I've still "got it" and the only way to know is to get laid without paying for at least every once in a while, and being a fat tub of lard isn't going to make it any easier as we get older

I would be all up in it and you would have one shit hot bodied wife.

got a dog and it is walk, walk, walk. Twice a day, EVERY day, not 4 times a week. I weigh less now than I did 30 years ago.  Just saying for people like me who fucking hate the gym there are alternatives.

True.  The bicycle is a major part of my routine.  During the warm months I do a lot of road riding through very hilly terrain.  During the winter I put the bike on a fluid trainer in front of the TV.  I alternate that with the gym, where I can use free weights and single-station equipment.

s in your TER hanldle/avatar - justanillusion.

Best workout of all is still Nat!

And thank you.

That was HILARIOUS dude. Well done!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Not a bad figure on the old gal eh? Not to mention that "come hither" look. I can't stop laughing. Her earrings match her eyelids. That was the best thing I have seen you post.  

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And I am relieved to see my guess was correct that it was an SO feeling neglected and not just some busybody friends thinking it was ok to tell you how to live your life

Believe it or not, there are many who don't approve of my drinking, gambling, and whoring lifestyle as well.  Go figure. Lol

Ya know what blew me away in my marriage.....I could handle the times of lack of sex, but, when she wouldn't even open the gifts I would try to buy her on a weekly basis. Wow!!
Oh well, I tried!!

There is a balance, but I would much rather know that about you going in, than have some person weigh 120 when we met and hit 220 in a few years.

Great points. That's why I think a LTR should first and foremost be based on a deep and unshakeable friendship. If you're fabulous friends and can make each other laugh, the physical is really less relevant; not to mention the fact that it is likely you'll both have similar interests, so staying healthy together would be natural if it is something you both enjoy. Above all, though, humor and friendship can see two people through all manner of thick and thin. Lol!

IMO, people should take care of themselves for a variety of reasons one of which should include their SO. Health, appearance, physical function maintenance, the psychological benefits, and SO satisfaction all play a role. Find something active that you enjoy and do it! Keep off the excess weight and improve your health and appearance. The benefits are worth it.

Most of the time that I hit the gym or start working out again, its not so much for fitness as it is that I always feel elevated and in a way better mood after a good workout.  whether Im with someone or single, its kind of like my go to feel good activity...makes me feel accomplished too

We all are imperfect.  Some carry extra weight and struggle their whole lives with weight issues.  Unfortunately that weakness is obvious to all.