If there are other things we can do to keep my interest up, then lack of DATY is not a problem.

I do enjoy watching the responses when I swirl my tounge around her clit, but if she's not into it we move on to something else.  Now,  if I can't finger her pussy, thats the dealbreaker.  Guess I,m part of the digital world.

Whether or not I DATY is determined within the first 2 seconds after walking in the door. Cuz photos can sometimes be deceiving.

If she's not 'super hot' or smells like fish there, yet still cute enough for me to stick around and go through the motions, I don't go for DATY....

As long as she took care of my little winky real well and got me off a few times I'd call it a good session. DATY isn't a deal breaker in this case if she did BBBJ or other special things so damn well that I begin seeing stars.

On the other hand, if she is smokin' hot and has no traces of dead salmon decomposing down there... well, DATY is a must. lol

I was talking to a provider that I saw a while back and we started talking about DATY. She said that it didn't really do much for her and preferred if people didn't ask if they could do it to her. I don't really care to DATY with providers so it didn't really make a difference to me. There were plenty of other options that I did enjoy that we could do. She wondered if that would be a dealbreaker for many clients. I feel this might also be a reason she is leary of reviews. If that is the only downside to a provider, are there many that no DATY would be a dealbreaker ?

I enjoy DATY but it would not be a deal breaker. Though it might effect the quality of the overall GFE mood to the session. It would depend on how else we spent the time that is normally spent in that way.

I love the oral delights and not being able to partake would be a deal breaker. It involves all five senses and is very erotic to me. With dozens of variations, I haven't found a lady yet who didn't enjoy experimenting. I enjoy it more than receiving a BJ and often forego the BJ to leave more room for cunnilingus.

Furthermore, I just can't figure out WTF is the deal with all you horn-dogs that make it the epitome of the event!  Don't get me wrong, I truly love to lick a really responsive and really appreciative clitoris, and I really get off on the effect it has, when I've done a good job.  But Jeez-Louise, can't you see that a great deal of providers are just sticking it out there only to accommodate your need to bathe your face in pheromones?  I mean, if they're not really into it and have to come up with fake moans and groans all the while, why the fuck should I tire my tongue and waste my dime's time down there when I can be getting something nice done to me?

GFE?
If so, all my civee girlfriends allowed me to muff-dive!!!

If they smell like tuna, they need to find a new occupation!
All the ladies i've been with, were pros on hygiene.

Seeing that the lady refused DATY in her reviews is an automatic DNS as far as I am concerned, as it implies other restrictions may also be in play, as well as YMMV and upselling.  Just my three pennies...

The main reason I enjoy doing it is the pleasure it gives her. If she's not that into it, I'd prefer she tell me ahead of time and we can spend our time on other things. I have seen providers who don't allow it and had a great time.

When I go for full service DATY is essential for me.  I won't see a FS sex worker unless she seems to enjoy DATY.

there are some gals that I have been with that I see primarily for DATY.  And in those cases DATY is a part that if they took it off the table I would probably not come back.

For others that I have seen, I will usually go downstairs and see how the gal responds.  I have found that very very few will truly enjoy themselves on a first date.  Many of the gals have told me that they need a comfort level (trust factor) to really relax and enjoy DATY (one particular gal is often concerned that a guy will chew off her clit one day...and many others have echoed similar issues with a guys inability to properly perform an ENJOYABLE DATY for her).

And I have run into the occasional gal that clearly had no interest in DATY, and generally she (they) aren't shy in letting you know that isn't going to do it for them.  And whether I would see her a second time..well, probably not.

Lets the ladies know I'm not planning on moving in!

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"I mean, if they're not really into it and have to come up with fake moans and groans all the while"

Well, a lady could be faking her moans and groans doing a BJ or intercourse too. BJ's are way down on my list. If the goal is penis stimulation, I can get that by myself. But a nice pair of labia to lick and suck and pleasure? I never get bored. Add in some nice G-Spot milking and having her swivel and grind her pelvis into my face, and it's better than any 5-star meal out there.

Yes there are women who don't like it. I think for men like myself, we appreciate finding a woman who enjoys it. I've had the experience of being with a lady or two who could have done without it. I would have preferred knowing that ahead of time so I could have focused on another who does enjoy it. It is a primary driver of whether I'll repeat or not. (As well as if she was 'faking' interest in things I like researching. Post-meeting follow-up is key.)