I have been thinking lately about how fortunate i have been in this hobby.  Over the years i have had the pleasure of meeting many incredible women who have provided, and hopefully shared, great sexual experiences.  The exceptions have been rare.  Recently, i have had a couple of experiences that have caused me to focus on the two way nature of the hobbyist/provider relationship.  While i am no George Clooney in the looks department, i have always done my best to be well groomed, a gentleman, and interested in the ladie's experience with me...hoping she has a good time.  So, i guess my questions are...how much does it matter to you, as a hobbyist, that the lady enjoys herself sexually?  To the ladies...is it important to you to let the gentleman know you enjoyed yourself (if you did) and what do you to express that?  Lastly, what are your strategies for keeping this fantasy relationship in perspective? While i have never "fallen" for one of these great ladies, I wonder how others make it so they enjoy it "the right amount?"  Thanks for your insights

I pay my money (very important in keeping the fantasy alive) and have a good time for me. I'm considerate and not selfish, but I don't like getting into the fake moans & groans & orgasms, especially when they are coming from the provider.

Isn't the main reason most guys enjoy themselves is because we do express how much we enjoy it? If a provider doesn't enjoy it, it's easy to tell, unless she's an incredible actress: then she should win an Oscar.  

That the worst dates were ones where the client tried to make the provider cum.  
I like my dates to be about me, but I know a lot of guys use it as a way to boost their ego and be told that they are the best.  
Just reading the reviews shows how many guys think they make these girls cum several times. It's a wonder that some of these providers can still walk at the end of the night! It's an act. If it wasn't an act, we wouldn't need to use lube.  Ever!

This is all about having fun with another person (sometimes more than one).  It's a lot more fun when everyone's having a good time.  So I do what I can to make the time fun for the lady also.  That includes all the things you mentioned. I also suggest that we focus on activities that we both enjoy.  

Yes, I completely agree. From my experiences, I can say that what matters most to me is for a person to be respectful. It doesn't matter if you look like George Clooney, if you are not a nice person, those looks aren't worth a damn thing.  

starting with having a good time myself and enjoying her company as best I can. There is something wonderful about everyone that we can focus on and appreciate. Unfortunately, there is no way to guarantee an equal good time is had by all, or to force a good time, chemistry, etc...

If I haven't I just won't say anything )

I also try to be as provider friendly as I can, but honestly, we'll never know for sure whether or not she is thrilled with us or just reasonably happy.

Sessions are all about me. I'm the one paying. And sadly, I don't consider myself a great performer. Old age and ED.. As much as I'd like to pound away... I just can't. i do try to be polite, always on-time and clean. I enjoy great conversation, and a great body rub. I thoroughly enjoy being around a naked beautiful woman

Its pretty obvious if I've enjoyed myself....but I definetly verbally say so in case it wasn't assumed... As far as the fantasy perspective I think its a fine line....when you truely enjoy someone and let them know And continue spending time there is times you just have to reel it in....

The men who get naked,  lay down and do nothing.  If you don't make women cum that's your handicap.  I don't hand out compliments unless they are deserved.  If a guy is really good at something in particular I am sure he can tell.  However,  I will tell him so he will repeat it.  I absolutely want to cum.  If you're only goal is for you to cum then I quite honestly get a little pissy and my mind starts actively thinking.  That's not a good thing.  You want me to be so deep in the zone that nothing but you matters to me.  You will then and only then get the kings treatment you deserve.  I want to be part of you and you me.  I don't know many men who can get me there.  I do know one on this board...no ego stroking today big guy.  Lol  It's all about that kiss.  The kiss is a beautiful prelude to all of the sweetest things.  I just made myself horny gtg.  Sorry your sex sucks.

You in?

I agree.  
It's hard to believe some of these clowns really think they are porn stars.  
Read one earlier today where the guy thought he was James Patterson...worst case of bullshit I've read in a long time

When a man takes the time to listen what brings out the best in a woman, he will receive it from her and she will enjoy giving it to him. It could be the way she enjoys herself going down on him or vice versa. I have no need to use lube because my dates do get me excited enough to make me cum plenty.

Funny, they tell me the same thing. And they are soaking wet ( I think it's from DATY, but who knows ...)

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That the worst dates were ones where the client tried to make the provider cum.    
  I like my dates to be about me, but I know a lot of guys use it as a way to boost their ego and be told that they are the best.    
  Just reading the reviews shows how many guys think they make these girls cum several times. It's a wonder that some of these providers can still walk at the end of the night! It's an act. If it wasn't an act, we wouldn't need to use lube.  Ever!

   
 Seventy five percent of my pleasure comes from knowing that the lady I am with is also enjoying herself with me. I know when a lady is having fun with me and is enjoying herself. All of the ladies I have been with did not need any lube. Due to the fact that she was wet and ready to go. Am I the best she ever had no, did a make her cum its hard to tell for sure. Did she enjoy my company and left happy I hope so. If not that is her problem because I tried to make sure that she did enjoy my company. All of them told me that they did enjoy their time with me, how much of it was the truth I will never know for sure. The ones I enjoy the most and asked them to come back to see me again does come back if that say anything about how much she enjoy my company.

You mean 25 year old hot girls don't find old, fat guys sexy?

Rather obviously, this is a two way street...

I was afraid you were going to throw me under the bus with  tiny bubbles lmao  

Hahahaha...that too. But the clown I'm referring too wrote damn near a book extolling his skills in giving her "more big O's than she's ever had"

Providers are...REAL WOMEN!!!  With real feelings!  So, yes, I want her to enjoy it, too.  It adds to the whole experience.  There is nothing in this life like making a connection with a beautiful woman.  Not to mention, if we treat the ladies well, they will probably stay "on the market" for longer periods of time.

does not enjoy it, or act like it. I might as well fuck a machine !  I have had providers that do not cum and show no emotion it is dull. And I should have stayed home.

What a stud! My guess is he used words like, "magnum" and "wet". LMAO My providers are wet too, but I love going down on a woman and I don't use saran wrap because I like my pussy unwrapped. 😎