In another thread re. DATY, some of you men might have wondered why it often takes so long for most women to "flip over" (climax). Well, ya know... we're just built differently from you guys and the honest to goodness truth is: we generally need to be turned on in our hearts or have a real animal chemistry with a guy before our systems turn on! Thas just the way it is! We can have sex with just about anyone, even climax, have a good time... but for us to "really" turn on, get juicy, and lose control: we need to have our hearts turned on (we can also have a basic animal chemistry towards a guy, but usually that kind of chemistry would lead to a relationship or at least an infatuation, if time allowed). It's just the nature of the beast!

You boys are turned on by the visual. Not to say you don't like the heart to be tuned in, or the mind. But if the eyes see a great lookin' bubble butt, the pecker is likely to follow! And for us women to flow like a river, we usually have ta have our hearts involved! Not always, but as a general rule of thumb (or whatever you wanna measure by!). xo Faye

While in general I would agree with most all of what you said, I just thought I would let you know, the overall experience is better and more pleasing for us men when our hearts and minds are into it too. At least for this man anyway.
I think both sexes can "get-off" on most forms of sex, but to truly be "into" the act we all search for some form of love.

Or some BS like that ???

Faye,

The truth is that guys are the same way.  I have been out of the hobby for a little while because I have met someone and I am falling in love with her.  Because of that, our sex is 100% than any experience I have had with a provider.  The problem is that some guys don't know what that is all about.  They are too busy protecting themselves and getting caught up in their career, that they don't know what to do with their sexuality.  

Brian
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I do agree with all of what you wrote, however I seem to be able to be incontrol of my physical and have a great time with my partner( client). I think maybe it is because I enjoy certain positions that allow me to have mind blowing experiences. May be I am different? I just love being in the moment and letting my body have a good time. I love my work, I love the way my body makes me feel....I think it shows.
Kisses & Licks.....
Mara

What does "heart" mean, exactly?   I don't think I have to be infatuated, or on the road to an extended relationship "if time allows."?  I do need a mental connection or rapport  that I can use to tap that erotic well, even if the connection is brief.  I know this connection can tantalize and stimulate a woman, start the sensual juices flowing, make her want to please without end.  Her pleasure builds on itself and seeps into her touch, creating pleasure in turn.

Abby Lane
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Ya know, I've had dynamo sex with a lotta different people - men and women, where I wasn't "in love," but had the connection, rapport and respect in tact.  But I've also been "in love" and there is no sex to compare to that: none! It is THE best sex on the planet cuz you wanna devour the person you love with love!  At least, that's been my experience.  But that's not to say that sex without love isn't delcious or lusty... it's just not the same.  Love has that completeness about it that's so yummy!  XO Faye Desiree

Read my comment below in: What do I mean about heart?  Congrats.. how very fantastic for you and your new love!  Enjoy!! xoo Faye

Actually, I agree with you entirely.  I've also experienced the "in love" kind of sex, and it's the best...I didn't mean to sell it short at all.  I was just pointing out that with some rapport a lot is still possible.