So last night I met with an independent provider, a very young and very new provider. So new in fact that I was her 2nd john...ever. She was cute and a lil shy but it was going well. She tasted me for a lil before I went down on her. Before I go I should state that I love DATY. I love teasing and torturing a cutie with my toungue and I luv showing my skill[thx Jack Lawrence]. I got her off and she then BBBJ'd me to completion,at least I thought she would. She went at it for about 10-15 minutes and then said "Im tired, I don't wanna do this anymore". I didnt know what to say, we went into it for a lil before I left but it was just akward. I know Im a lil difficult to get off but I never had a provider say that to me "Im tired, I don't wanna do this anymore". She's new and some ppl just don't click, but it just led me to ask...how long is too long for a bj?

I usually come in five to ten minutes but there are times I've been unable to and the gal did get tired, so we found something else interesing to do.  Cripes, gals got enough accoutrments on them to keep me busy for weeks.

There are always exceptions however.  I know one provider that loves to suck cock so much that she'll do it for thirty minutes, keeping the pace slow and easy so that I will last.

As you might have guessed, she is a keeper.  8o)

that's usually a pretty good indicator for most of us ladies, lol!
Maybe the next time you see her, you could set up a challenge with rewards type of system.  You can match the amount of time she gets DATY with how long you get a BJ, but hold out on the DATY until your wish has been granted

Oh what a question! She should consider your needs and desires and her level of doing it well and find a happy medium. I am sure some of us are more oral obsessive than others.

When I feel discomfort I stop. I promised myself that I would not endure anything...it just builds resentment and a bad attitude and I want neither.

I guess fifteen minutes is a long time especially if you are not her first appointment of the day. My ATF gets me off from BBBJ all the time and honestly, it's a lot longer than fifteen minutes. The difference may be that we break it up a bit...she sucks me for a while, I lick her for a while, back and forth. Neither of us cares for sixty-nine as it distracts us from pleasuring one another.

I know this flies in the face of "getting what you paid for" but sometimes you just have to be willing to either "lend a hand" or let her use hers...

I can't blame a girl for getting a little worn out.  It takes a lot of effort.  If it's not working for me in time I usually suggest a position switch ... but that's just me.

Depends on the provider. 15 min sounds average for me but I have been able to complete in 5 min. I guess it depends on what kind of foreplay is available.

Other than that, I would think that the only real answer is just as long as she's willing to do it, and no longer.  Like the others, I would suggest that you initiate a position change or something, but I wouldn't keep my dick where it's not wanted.

Good luck

Ive always been a bit schitzophrenic about getting BJs.  When/where I grew up, the girls simply did NOT suck cock.  That was something only a nasty girl would do (plenty of them would spread their legs though!).  So I grew up with this complex about getting head, on the one hand it was the ultimate forbidden fruit but it also sort of inhibited me from cumming in women's mouths.  

I was well into my 20s before a provider in a massage parlor who really knew what she was doing got me off, she swallowed too and I about died it was so hot ..but thats another story!
Over the years I had occassions with a lot of civies and a few providers where I just couldn't get off in her mouth.  

The experienced providers almost always had a trick or two to make the gun pop, the classic being the finger in the ass! Also they know that if they are getting tired they can just hold the cock head in their mouth and use their hand till it happens or they have rested. Your rookie will learn these if she stays in the business.

I don't have a problem with providers anymore at all - providing she is reasonably skilled and acts enthusiastic.  To be blunt, they are paid for and I know its ok.

With civies there still can be a problem until I really feel like I have 'permission' to cum in her mouth.  Permission can be verbal or just being able to tell that she really wants it.  Also it helps if I have pleased her first so there is no worry that I'm going to leave her unsatisfied.  
mvr

For me it does.  A fat d*ck wears out my jaw.  If I keep at it, I know it'll make that clicking noise the next day.  

If I get tired, I switch to hands.  Or he can use his hands while I take care of the guys downstairs.

the cock looks a little pink it might be time to do a wardrobe change. Oh what a tingle with your morning shower and such warm memories it will bring.

My favorite saying is " theres no such thing as to much tongue "

Kisses Haley

Recently, I had a two hour date who couldn't get hard enough to have sex. He got off in a few minutes the first time through oral and we laid there and chatted for awhile. Came up to the one-hour mark, and I went at it again... for a full 55 minutes... and still never got him off.

Now, I love sucking cock and I'm damn good at it. But 55 minutes is excessive, even for me. If the lady you're with is getting lock jaw trying to get you off, and you're thinking it's not going to work, why not be courteous and TELL her, or switch to something else for awhile- or even take over and jack off (I like watching that too). We're there to please you, but we can only take so much (and yet some of us will keep pushing past that point, just to try and make sure you leave happy).

If I've got the time, I like to extend my cocksucking. I like to tease, going at it lightly, pacing myself for awhile... bringing him close to orgasm, then letting him back down... a little closer, back down. Not something I can do in just a few minutes

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I can watch a girl go down on me forever, but I realize that they aren't machines!

So after 10-15 min., I reposition myself or "take charge" of the task so that I'm sure to cum.

Sometimes I re-position the girl into a more erotic position (in front of the mirror).  Other times, I'll tell them to adjust their technique (no hands) or ask them if it's okay to thrust more deeply (face fuck).

That usually does the trick for me...

is about as long as most women will go. Unfortunately I rarely come that quickly so unless I have a very skilled or patient partner, I rarely get to enjoy CIM. With most women we will either switch to HJ or intercourse, or back to DATY or....I think you get the point.

Of course there are those exceptions, who are exceptional. About two New Years ago I had a chica who gave me a BBBJTCNQNS for well over an hour. Damn I need to look her up again.

If you're going to eat my pussy, I want to concentrate on nothing but how wonderful my pussy feels. If I'm going to suck your cock, I want to focus only on  the sensations of your cock on my tongue, and the movements of your body as I bring you closer to orgasm.

Trying to do both at the same time does absolutely nothing for me. My pussy doesn't feel all that great and you're getting a crappy blowjob. No thanks.

I'm gonna say 10 inches

When I do 69 the better she does, the worse I do, and vice versa. I guess I can't walk and chew gum at the same time

it's not my activity of choice, for the same reason.

I'm not going to last 10 or 15 minutes... at least on pop #1.

Now if we're talking about round 2 (or later) all bets are off.

How long is too long?  Unless you never cum that way...then, yeah.  

Ive met a few guys who want to cum that way, but fail to tell me it takes them about 2 hours to cum that way, and Ill be damned if Im down there 2 hours with out prior warning, and unless I WANT TO BE THERE 2 hours.  

Ive met a few I could do that to ALL DAY LONG.

I always let them know ahead of time if something is about to pop before you want it too...holla. If Im down there and you want me to do something else...holla.

Only time Ive "stopped" a few times was when the guy was attempting to jack my face for 45 minutes and forgetting to inform me it takes A LOT to get him off that way and this coming AFTER we've been fucking for 30 min prior like rock stars!

Shes young.  She will learn to love it if she is
'allowed" to love it.

I personally hated giving my ex-hubby a BJ.  He always wanted one, when he wanted one whether I wanted to give him one or not.

If someone shows some feedback while Im doing it, I get off on that and go on and on and on if allowed too.  Anyone who I cant tell if they are asleep or not, makes it end pretty dang quick!

I think 10-15 minutes is a long time for somone to pleasure me like that so if they get tired they can go the reliable hand job or we can do something else and return to one of my favorite activities later. I do love cim and most of the time I realize my goal before the wonderful woman pleasuring me gets tired. But if a provider told me they were tired or just stopped I would have no problem with that. Too many other fun things to do. Communication is so important during a sexual encounter like all aspects of life. Not always easy but important.

Well I think we always have to remember this is an interaction between two human beings. So if the woman pleasuring me has given her best effort I am not averse to lending a hand and I am still very satisfied. My hand knows exactly what to do but its very erotic to have a lovely female lend me her hand.  I hope I get to hold hands later while we rest.

69 is way to distracting for me.  I could never get off that way.

Heh.  I've never been allowed to go at it for as long as I am capable.  Every single man I've been with, whether for business or pleasure, has either exploded in ecstacy or cut me off at 30 minutes to compliment me on my stamina.

We take turns. Now, she is multi orgasmic and I'm not so we switch around and switch postitons. Each time I give her an O she goes back to working on my cock for a bit. We DO end up in 69 at least for a few minutes. She goes down on me until she gets close to cumming agian...then she stops sucking and starts moaning. The best part of this is that she swears she has no idea that she has stopped sucking my cock until her O subsides...good times!

While I don't hate 69, I do agree with WomanLikeNoOther.  I prefer to concentrate on dining at the Y when I am doing it, and prefer to have her concentrate on the BJ while she is doing it.  Doing them at the same time makes it too difficult to do either activity at the best one do, IMHO.

Swim

she does me, then I owe her one, then I do her so she owes me one, and so on, and so on.

You do me, I do you, you do me, I do you, you do me, I do you, you---Well, you get the picture.

And I gotta figure out where you are!!!

what do you mean by allowed..exactly?

Im the same way...when Im down there and Im just teasing her, panties are still on..just teasing the outer edges of the cloth..getting her revved up a lil bit...If the girl is vocal then that turns me on, with her I had to get it out of her a lil bit but I did and she got really into it.
But once she got off she just clammed up again....I've never taken charge with a provider b4...I guess I just didnt kno how to go about it...there was just an aura of akwardness around the apt...

I had a marathon BJ last week that lasted 1 1/2 hours on and off but it was her idea and their was plenty of ball and taint licking and all the areas surrounding it.  Also lots of hand action between the oral action.  A bit of Russian thrown in too here and there.  I offered sincerely to DATY but she told me that she gets off by giving me pleasure.  It was a very relaxed pace that she didn't seem to have any trouble with.  I have thought about this type of treatment but didn't even know it was offered until a read a review of a local provider and this is exactly what she loves to do.  We did no FS although it was available according to her reviews.  The whole experience was her idea and she set the pace and really did seem to enjoy the whole experience.  Of course I gave lots of encouragement to let her know that what she was doing was almost overwhelming.  The intensity of the release after all of that sent electricity through my body and made it hard to even stand afterward.  The only thing I could think of was how many days it was going to take me to recover and when I could come back again.

I so so so agree!

While I like 69 but only for a few minutes.  I always end up paying no attention to the guy because Im on the edge of an "O" and feel guilty because the guy is getting no pleasure from what I am supposed to be doing.

Let me concentrate on you and then you can concentrate on me.

One of my favorite things to do is give a BJ.  But I need feedback.  Breath heavier.  Move.  Show me your (a) enjoying it (b) not enjoying it (c) awake.  lol  Ive had guys who I could swear were asleep and I know Im good at giving oral..lol  When I hear no sounds, see no body language...I get to feeling inferior and end up giving a half ass performance..mainly because Im bored.