reminded of what I already know and many here have stated here in the past. In fact this is where I read of this issue first so I know I'm not the only one who has dealt with this. I also know there are some strong opinions on this topic and I'd like to know what they are.

Add another provider or two into your rotations.  You'll have to play the field a little, have some tryouts.  You'll find another lady that you think is cool and it'll bring some balance into your life.

may be the most balanced option, depending on how well you can control your emotions.

Telling her how you feel will just fuck everything up. See other girls and get some perspective!

As long as you're not possessive and nuts about it, perhaps you can offer an arrangement that you both agree to.

I totally agree with you.

Continue to see her if you desire, but let her know incrementally how you feel.  You yourself said that trying to become her BF would be a losing proposition all around.  If you believe this to be true, then maybe you best heed your warning?  Note that if you have an ongoing relationship, she will most likely pick up on your feelings, and respond as she thinks best.  In the meantime, broaden your horizons, and see other ladies as well.  That way, you can direct your passions in multiple directions, and not concentrate on just one person.    

If you want to keep seeing her telling her how you feel is not a great idea. It might wig her out and make future sessions a little uncomfortable.

As long as you're still having a blast together, I see no reason to stop. This is really about getting past the inclination to want to *possess* what you desire (her), and enjoying what you do have with her without making it into a bigger thing than it needs to be.  

Isn't it great that you've found a provider that makes you feel that good?

Also agree that there is a strong chance that telling her is going to fuck it up. Disappointments are not uncommon in this game.

see her less, text her less frequently, and work another provider or two into your rotation. And don't tell her how you feel about her. Remember your hobby is her business.

I think it would be better advised if he were to test the waters first before making declarations of undying love.

Something along the lines of "uh oh, I think I am beginning to like you a little more that I probably should, do you think that's a good thing or a bad thing?" If she says anything along the lines of "Yes, I am beginning to feel the same way too" he might be getting a green light to maybe try to gently steer things in that direction. OTOH if she chides him, gently or otherwise that "yes, I like you too, but remember this is only a fantasy" he then should know to back off.

BTW welcome back.

Coming out and telling her is going to make her uncomfortable, especially if she does not see you in that same way.

If he is really into her even seeing others that are hotter may not change how he feels. He may feel like he wasted his money because he will not enjoy it as much as he is falling for his ATF. BUT try, try 1-2 different girls if it is not satisfying for you continue seeing her with some changes as Zagari suggested.

On the other hand, (and this was my advice to him), first he needs to stop seeing her.  Just like in real life, there is always an infatuation period.   If you can step away from it and then come back with a clearer head, all the better.

And this is one that allot of us clients tend to forget; these girls jobs is to literally have sex with other people.  The ones who are doing this because they enjoy their work, are not going to just stop.   Your not the only one in "their" rotation.

You've already gotten many good ideas here; and it's interesting that you have the words "tell her" in all three of your options.    So I've decided to add a little humor to this issue.    

It really is a tough call, but I'll give you my insight.  
I go by the motto, if you're not falling in love with me then I'm not doing it right. Every person has their taste and people they click with right away. Don't confuse your feelings of love to be the same as the way she responds to you in session. You could be one of her most favorite and easy going clients which makes it all to comfortable to fall for a girl.  I happen to spend very good quality OTC time with many of my clients, we have a mutual fondness for each other that spans years. But once that clock starts it's all about you and the best session I can give you. I'm not saying she doesn't feel the same but really feel her out before claiming your love. She might feed into it not knowing you're genuine, if she does realize you are it may spook her and she may be hard to contact for some time. Like I've mentioned before in previous posts,  we have to maintain clear boundaries.  We have feelings also and know how hard it is when they aren't reciprocated.  

Having been an occasional recipient of the "I'm having feelings" talk/text/email, I can't tell you how much my stomach sinks when I hear those dreaded words.  It only happens with clients I really like seeing - isn't that shared enjoyment what sparks the whole feeling thing anyways? - so when one of my favorites slips in the 'F' word (or - god forbid! - the L word) I silently wail "NOOOoooo - STOP!"...and then I get myself together and do the grown-up thing by gently terminating the relationship.

(Which I sort of doubt.) Otherwise 3, and don't say anything.

The hobby may not be for you if you can't control your emotions enough to enjoy meeting nice gals and not getting involved with them when you know full well that you are not a commitment kind of guy.  (And there is nothing wrong with that so long as you don't get into commitments.)

Also know that your feelings are best on the chemistry you feel for the gal, and will dissipate in due time.

I see where the chemistry is off the charts and the sex is incredible, orders of magnitude better than with anyone else. Maybe the best sex I've had in my life, or a close second, and that is saying something. But I recognize, and you should as well, that the nature of our relationship is a big part of that awesomeness. Do we have natural chemistry and mutual attraction? Yeah, probably - hard to believe it could be THAT good without it. But I also don't have to see her bad moods, listen to her bitch at me about taking the wrong turn on the way to a party, or the thousand other things that turn an infatuation into an irritant over time...ditto she doesn't see me in sweat pants or hear me belch. It's a fantasy my man, and is best left as such. In fact I probably could fall for this girl, but I make sure I don't see her exclusively and leave plenty of time in between appointments with her to make sure I don't get any stupid ideas in my head...and that also has the side benefit of keeping things fresh when I do see her, not to mention how fun it is to see other girls and have that variety. Not a bad course of preventive medicine, my recommendation is that you give it a try.

Also, this dude has to remember that once they cross that line from paid to unpaid, she is under no obligation to be "on" and do everything he wants. She can then ask for what she wants and drop the shit she does for pay and only do what she really likes to do. Might be one and then same but I usually hear quite differently when chatting with hookers...

Preaching to the choir on that one (pay stuff).  I too hear the same exact things from the girls I become friends with.  Your correct, they are usually not one in the same.

When you are referring to OTC, you mean on the clock and not Off the Clock, correct?

It only makes things worse. Only on here do I refer to myself as a hooker. I am playing in a sandbox that is not totally "hooker" friendly and the more a hooker complains, well it's like blood in the water, it attracts sharks. So when in Rome do as they do or leave.  

OTC to my knowledge has always been Off The Clock, as always YMMV. I get to meet incredible people and I enjoy my time with them.

The key is, that it is fantasy and she's really good at her job. I want the woman to make me feel the way she's making the OP feel, and then I want to politely part ways until next time

Hi Wit,
I sympathize with your situation and find it very romantic.  We are still human (well, some more than others)… and you are not made of stone. Sorry you are suffering, sweetheart..

(bah) now you made me question my own reality, damn you..... (-; (-; (-; (-; (-;

Classic case of thinking with the little head dude. Why would you chose the non intellectual option?  

(kissing part) ROFL!!!!!  I seriously bust out laughing...

Bah, can't PM you with the site; assuming it's the way you have your name and the special characters....

That, and the cynicism born of middle age and a bad marriage

You just gave me a thought...I might go out and find some old fart, flash some thigh, throw him down, turn him over on his belly and grab his.....wallet, lighten it and move on.

It's about a 50/50 and innocently enough comes in the form of "we're both hungry so why not". Most of the times it's getting your wits back enough to function and if I have no session after I am content to wind down with you. I'm pretty easy going but like I said I attract incredible people into my life doing this.

Here, well that's why we get paid...to deal with it and smile sweetly.

The other 27% would actually pay you more to do so, pending the approval of their ATF of course.